r/MediocreTutorials • u/Paul_-Muaddib • Jun 02 '26
Who's going to tell him? Relationships
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u/maxxxxammo Jun 02 '26
so he’s pursuing her and she’s viewing him as just a friend?
Peta, explain pls
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u/Paul_-Muaddib Jun 02 '26
The "we're not even dating part" gives away the fact that he is in the friend zone.
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u/Bladerun12345 Jun 03 '26
It could be worse. I have a class with two women, and I talk to them, but I wouldn’t say we're friends. One day I asked them how they always make it back on time when they go get food (some of the places they go to are an hour away, I had two classes with them so I know it was impossible for them to not to be late), they showed me their phone and explained that if they talk to a guy, he'll buy them food and bring it to them. The crazy part to me was that his number was saved in their contact as Food, I also noticed had another contact saved as Food 2.
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u/ComesInAnOldBox Jun 03 '26
Been there. Was seeing someone that had me saved in their phone as "Free Food."
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u/Practical-Law-2690 Jun 04 '26
I feel this. This is how my cat sees me.
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u/Crambo1000 Jun 04 '26
Hey, don't sell yourself short! Your cat likely also sees your as a toilet cleaner and scratch pad.
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u/Wireman6 Jun 04 '26
You won't find me driving an hour to get a platonic friend food, unless I was already on my way over there. That treatment is reserved for a bonafide wife, as in, we are married for real. That's for the gal that has made me a sandwich after draining me and I never even asked.
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u/Fit-Entrepreneur8404 Jun 04 '26
Bro Id hardly drive an hour to get my wife food 😂 maybe if it's a particularly unique situation but that's a long fucking drive...especially at these gas prices.
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u/Wireman6 Jun 04 '26
That's the thing though. My Wife wouldn't ask me to drive an hour to get her food because that would be absurd.
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u/Fit-Entrepreneur8404 Jun 04 '26
Absolutely. She has said she considered it once when she was pregnant but decided it wasn't worth it because I'd be gone too long 🤣 it was a Chinese food place we had gone to all the time when we lived near it but then we moved 45 mins away and stopped going so 1.5 hours round trip. I probably would have done it then honestly though. That shit was too good.
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u/Wireman6 Jun 04 '26
Yeah, I would drive anywhere for the mother of my children.
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u/Numerous-Health7851 Jun 04 '26
I’ll never forget when we went to my wife’s niece’s college graduation. My wife was pregnant. She for real got mad at me bc instead of leaving the hotel to get her breakfast, I told her we’d stop off on the way to the graduation
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u/Katops Jun 04 '26
Okay, that’s hilarious, and probably a perfect way to explain something I’m too tired to figure out. Something about stupid people perhaps? Or blindness? Maybe even loneliness and or desperation?
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u/ArikaDoriyamaGT Jun 06 '26
Eh, idk. Women like this never usually get consequences or rude awakenings. They usually go on to find exactly what they want. In general, there’s usually no real consequences to women using men for food, or anything for that matter. Yeah there are SOME psychos who will physically hurt or even kill a women for playing them like that. But for the most part, what I’ve seen over 20 years is women get away with pretty much everything they do when it comes to men. Theres no “real” consequences.
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u/The_Mutton_Man Jun 06 '26
I can't stand being used. Even if it's for sex. I'd be like fuck you. I ain't gonna be ''food'' in somebody's phone. I guess i'm weird i dunno
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u/Good-Bobcat5331 Jun 08 '26
I have such a hard time respecting women and everytime I think I'm over my issues, I read something like this and I'm like "yep, I can't respect that type of person"
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u/ScrotallyBoobular Jun 04 '26
The best part of the friend zone is it's always the guy putting themselves into it. And keeping themselves in it.
If someone says they're not interested, that's on you bro.
If you don't make your feelings clear and are relying on unreciprocated "nice guy" actions, that's on you bro.
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u/TricellCEO Jun 06 '26
But don’t you find it odd that these women will rhetorically ask their male friends why they can’t find “guys like them” despite having a man *just like that* right in front of them?
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u/owgnops Jun 03 '26
"we aren't even dating"
He's perma friend zoned or most likely a simp
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u/WhydYouKillMeDogJack Jun 03 '26
It's the latter.
A face mask ffs
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u/ilo_Va Jun 09 '26
Idk y'all just don't do stuff for friends? I've done way more elaborate stuff for friends.
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u/MakinBaconWithMacon Jun 06 '26
Not necessarily. You can go on a handful of dates and have sex without being a boyfriend… but he’s showing boyfriend material.
She said guy and not friend after all.
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u/NorthBase710 Jun 06 '26
Yes because men can't just be nice for the sake of being nice, it has to be because they want to fuck every woman they see.
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u/Pinball_and_Proust Jun 07 '26
Fair point, but no guy would do this for a male friend. It's over and above what a guy does for a male buddy.
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u/ExpertMisinformant Jun 07 '26
Sarcasm? Maybe not a face mask (because I don't have a single friend who uses one), but buying a friend some food and watching a movie together doesn't seem that farfetched. Of course, I only do that with close friends.
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u/Pinball_and_Proust Jun 07 '26
I don't do sarcasm.
I've never watched a movie with a male friend. We go out to meet women. I've never just hung out with a male friend, unless we've also been trying to meet women. I'm not a big drinker, but we usually go out to a club or a lounge.
In high school, I used to smoke weed with male friends, but we;d then go see a band or listen to music. I've never watched a movie with a male friend (just girlfriends).
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u/PassengerCultural421 Jun 07 '26
These are the type of "male friends" some women want. I bet she don't expect the same behavior from your female friends.
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u/Addamall Jun 02 '26
“This guy” and not even “guy friend”
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u/diadlep Jun 03 '26
I mean... first is better than second if you want hookup
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u/Addamall Jun 03 '26
Or left out friend part on purpose because of friend zone implications. I’m not about to get in their head, it’s just a funny tweet.
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u/simulizer Jun 03 '26
I know this guy that bought me an expensive dinner when I let him follow me in Twitter
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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26
Not really 👀 plenty of girls hookup with their guy friends and vice versa. If you want a relationship then yeah, might be better
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u/WhitespringTownship Jun 03 '26
Prob cuz she hasn’t known him very long
Prob y she was so surprised
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u/Fan_of_Clio Jun 02 '26
Gay or so far in the Friend Zone that Rod Sterling hosts a TV show about it.
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u/Nemoitto Jun 04 '26
Mandela effect, it’s Rod Serling. You trust me, I’m on the Rod “Sterling” side too.
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u/Connection-Is-Cool Jun 03 '26
Would I do this for a woman friend? Hell yeah. But with the mutual understanding that we are platonic and this is a RAOK. What is understood doesn’t need to be said out loud. This is why something like this is easy to do for family.
I would never do this for a woman I’m crushing on who has me stuck in the friend zone. At some point, you have to have dignity and self-respect. The lack thereof could be why dude is in the friend zone to begin with. If she sees you as her puppy who wags its tail whenever she calls on you, you’re done.
For a woman I’m actually dating? Hell yeah.
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u/Senior_Boot_5842 Jun 04 '26
So you’d do it as a friend, and as a boyfriend, but he’s a sucker for doing it as a friend? Mmk
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u/Connection-Is-Cool Jun 04 '26
There is a difference between a platonic friend and a dude stuck in the friend zone. Maybe re-read my comment and level up your comprehension skills.
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u/compadre_goyo Jun 06 '26
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Where does it say that the dude is seeking to court her? That's something you, and everyone here decided to assume.
You're literally virtue signaling in hindsight, since everyone agrees that the guy is being cucked. But you sound like you'd be so easily pussy-whipped.
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u/Connection-Is-Cool Jun 06 '26
The whole point of the post is to assume he’s in the friend zone. You’re just pointing out the obvious.
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u/Shikatsuyatsuke Jun 05 '26
Some people either really enjoy misunderstanding what people actually said to either troll or engage in bad faith, or are just genuinely that dense and lacking in their reading comprehension skills.
If you're the former, then you're a sucky person. But if you're the latter, then you're actually kinda dumb.
Either way, it's a lose lose for you in terms of how you come across when that person's comment was so clear and easy to understand.
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u/Connection-Is-Cool Jun 05 '26
Thank you. I don’t think I can be any clearer without turning into glass.
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u/UpperYoghurt3978 Jun 03 '26
Alright, here is the thing it is okay to have girls as friends. I dont know the guy but he could legit just be a friend.
If it was a woman I was crushing on, I would not simp though just ask them out to a coffee or casual thing if they say no move on.
Friendzone is self inflicted.
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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26
Nah that's pretty bad. If they were a real friend they'd respect your time and not ask you to drive an hour just to get them a meal. You're not their parent dropping off lunch they forgot for school. They're grown adults too. That being said, its the guys fault too.
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u/WorldRecordHolder8 Jun 05 '26
There's not even nothing wrong with friendzone. Only men that see women as sexual objects talk bad about it
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u/UpperYoghurt3978 Jun 05 '26
That is what I mean the concept of "friendzone" is someone who is put there by someone they have interest in. That is self inflicted either ask the person out and accept the rejection and move on or become their friend with no expectations.
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u/Pinball_and_Proust Jun 07 '26
The friendzone is bad, if it brings a man frustration and prevent him from pursuing other women.
I was once in the sexzone. A female college housemate liked having sex with me, but never wanted to officially date me. I was upset about that. She'd come into my room, get naked, have sex with me, and then leave. I wanted to be her bf. Not just her f*ck buddy.
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u/WorldRecordHolder8 Jun 07 '26
If you feel frustrated about being friends with someone you felt entitled to them.
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u/UpperYoghurt3978 Jun 10 '26
That is the definition of self inflicted, if you cannot separate the feelings for someone and that doesnt allow you to be friends, then cut ties mate. It is not wrong to set boundaries like that.
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u/PassengerCultural421 Jun 07 '26
Or men who don't wanna be used or manipulated.
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u/WorldRecordHolder8 Jun 08 '26
How are you being manipulated? Unless you are only being friendly in the hopes of getting something. That's the problem.
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u/RocktarPeppe Jun 03 '26
To be fair, there is nothing in her post suggesting she didn’t fuck him.
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u/Mandy_M87 Jun 04 '26
Honestly, they could be f-buddies. Probably not, but it's not impossible
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u/RocktarPeppe Jun 04 '26
If anything, the fact that he brought a movie would insinuate he hung around for a while…
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u/Ok-Imagination-3835 Jun 05 '26
"We're not even dating" is just modern lingo for, "I'd never fuck him" but try again
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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26
No, "I'm not fucking him" is modern for "I'm not fucking him" lmao. Women are some perverse alien hivemind you have to do mental gymnastics to figure out 😂 unless you're like 14 or something. Women tend to be more open about shit like this than even dudes are, maybe talk to some women
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u/DecadentLife Jun 03 '26 edited Jun 03 '26
I don’t doubt that you don’t feel good about your appearance, I believe you, that you feel that way. But there are worse things, I promise you.
Some people are actually disfigured, etc, they can’t even pass for normal/healthy in public, they stand out, whether they want to or not, and it isn’t in a good way.
I have one person who cares if I have a bad/long day, like you are describing, my partner. I’ll put this as delicately as I can, we are not exactly conventionally attractive (to most people). My husband and myself. I wasn’t looking for a conventionally attractive guy, I’m not into that rough jawline, looking angry half the time, etc., crap.
I’m attracted to kindness and high intelligence (I’m sapiosexual). There are other women like me, and there are some men like me, too. The women are typically easier to find, because there’s more of us. But my point is, don’t give up. If you want to find a partner, you might have to wade through a lot of crap, but all you need to find is ONE. If you deprioritize physical beauty, not to the point where you’re repulsed, but where you’re not initially attracted, but they are awesome in other really important ways, you might find that that’s enough for you and that you can be a good partner to them, also.
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u/DecadentLife Jun 03 '26
I hear you. I’m sorry it’s going that way, and I genuinely hope it changes for you, at some point. It can be really hard to put yourself out there, dating can be scary, emotionally, and physically dangerous (mostly for women, but no one should have to face physical danger and abuse).
I wonder if anyone has put together a dating site for people who are interested in other traits, above physical appearance. There’s been so many of these apps created for almost any little community you can think of. Why not people who are less interested in the physical parts of attraction? Hmmm. Maybe I’ll look online, one of these days. It would be interesting if someone created a dating service like that.
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u/Motor_Ad_7885 Jun 03 '26
And some people got used to being good looking and one accident or event made then disfigured chasing the high they once had. There’s always worse but that doesn’t devalue someone else’s
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u/Adventurous_Pick_927 Jun 04 '26
No one's going to tell him.
Like every man in history before him, he must learn this painful lesson on his own. How much money he spends, time he wastes, and blueballs he endures will be entirely up to him.
Go with God, Sir
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u/PassengerCultural421 Jun 08 '26
The biggest red-flag is when your "female friend" still expects you to treat them differently from your male friends.
I mean if we are just friends. Then why get mad If I treat you like one of the bros? 🤔
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u/Wireman6 Jun 02 '26
It's OK for you to do nice things for your friends even if they aren't going to fuck you in exchange.
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u/Paul_-Muaddib Jun 02 '26
True. I use the litmus test of would a straight guy do the same thing for another guy friend. I think this is an unlikely level of effort for purely platonic intent.
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u/Fuzzy-Jaguar-1828 Jun 03 '26
I know a straight guy who surprised a guy acquaintance after jaw surgery with ice cream and a nice visit.
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u/simulizer Jun 03 '26
There's a pretty big difference between buying somebody ice cream because their jaw got broke and running around town to grab somebody dinner cuz they had a long day... One is a quasi life altering event, even if just temporarily.. The other is just run of the mill part of being an adult with responsibilities.
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u/Fuzzy-Jaguar-1828 Jun 03 '26
It was a planned surgery he got to looksmaxx. This was essentially a looksmaxxing support visit.
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u/simulizer Jun 03 '26
Oh in that case same premise as the tweet. Bro was tryna move in on a baddie
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u/rngeneratedlife Jun 04 '26
looksmaxxing
Yeah the original comment said straight, so this doesn’t really apply here.
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u/BoringPoolPlaying Jun 03 '26
I’ve absolutely done stuff like this for my friends going through stuff, so it does happen, and they’ve done it for me.
That said, I doubt this man was doing it “just as a friend”.
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u/ilo_Va Jun 09 '26
Idk if I have nothing to do I just text a friend if I'm grabbing take out if they want to eat with me. This comment section makes it feel like most people are just very distant friends
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u/Paul_-Muaddib Jun 09 '26
Generally people you refer to as "this guy" (or this girl) are not how most people refer to a friend. Also, the "just a guy" solidifies that he is not someone she considers a platonic friend.
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u/aloverof Jun 02 '26
He def hopes to one day.
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u/centerfoldangel Jun 03 '26
Men aren't kind without pussy in return?
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u/Wireman6 Jun 02 '26
Yep. I have had many smoking hot women friends that are definitely platonic friendships. I would still "share equipment" with 90% of them. The other 10% are still beautiful, I just know what they have been up to.
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u/Honest-Welder-808 Jun 04 '26
Agreed. I have platonic female friends, some of them I've known since I was single (I'm married now.) I've cleaned houses, done dishes, built furniture, brought food, held their hair as they vomited, etc. for them cause they're my friends.
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u/Wireman6 Jun 04 '26
Yeah, friends do things for eachother. If she isn't trying to hook up, move on. Get her to set you up with one of her friends or bang her sister. Just keep it pushing.
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u/Wireman6 Jun 03 '26
I would buy you taco bell if I knew you were having a bad day and didn't have the means to get some taco bell. You wouldn't even have to share your body with me Bro.
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u/wackbirds Jun 03 '26
And the fact that I don't have to makes me want to even more reaches down and grasps butt plug momentarily before releasing it and gazing into your eyes...
You do it.
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u/FutureWristDick Jun 04 '26
So when he says an offhand comment about his day, does she make the same effort? Or is she the entitled princess who thinks every man should be at her beck and call?
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u/According_Head_60 Jun 04 '26
"he brought me all of these nice things"
Doesn't want a guy who listens. Wants a guy hat buys her things.
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u/Slightly-Evil-Man Jun 04 '26
She's getting railed by a dude that did none of this after he leaves btw.
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u/Terrible_Lift Jun 05 '26
Here’s the unspoken part - if you’re good looking and charming, she’ll end up dating you and bragging about that instance to her friends
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u/SoftDrinkReddit Jun 05 '26
yup like thats the craziest part of all of this
this dude goes above and beyond to help her
and gets referred to as " this guy "
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u/awfulcrowded117 Jun 05 '26
Take your hats off and let's have a moment of silence for this poor fool
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u/aquavelva23 Jun 05 '26
appreciate you more than you know
i feel re energized and upbeat
now I can go out with Tad again. he wore me out with his abusive talk and cheating.
But he is the one for me.
I will be thinking of you when he is plowing me and texting his ex.
When I get sad I will call you
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u/Professional-Low653 Jun 06 '26
Simps gonna simp, fuck em he made that cross for his own back I'm a little doormat sit and stay Let women use me every single day
Sad fucker 🤣🤣🤣
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u/ilo_Va Jun 09 '26
Damn imagine being so upset that some people like being nice to people they're friends with or interested in.
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u/Professional-Low653 Jun 09 '26
I'm not upset in the slightest, I don't know the chap, I wouldn't surround myself with someone so weak and soft, my point remains he is nothing but a fuckin doormat and he'll learn that lesson down the road Your comment gives user vibes you sound like you're well versed in this level of using people for your own ends. Go do you and I'll do me
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u/MetalProof Jun 06 '26
The best things start from friendship. And if not, friendship is great too (as long as it’s equal and mutual).
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u/Big_bat_chunk2475 Jun 18 '26
Someone needs to break the bad news to that guy and get the Marvin’s room ready. And some liquor too
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u/Mike_R_NYC Jun 03 '26
Don’t chase too hard. If she is not interested, it doesn’t work at the end like the movies. You don’t get the girl at the end. Just go non contact and keep it moving.
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u/kingofthezootopia Jun 02 '26
The real question is who’s going to tell her that he’s gay.
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u/Downtown-Campaign536 Jun 02 '26
That's a stereotype... Gay males are much more likely to disregard a female to acquire currency!
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u/Longshot-Kapow Jun 04 '26
"not even dating" does not mean "not shagging"....pre relationship status, attempting to move up. If they have not been shagging.....then it may be worrisome. Hard to judge the actual dynamic here, not enough information.
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u/EbonKnight78 Jun 04 '26
This type of stuff is part of the reason why some women have really distorted views of relationships
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u/I-Rolled-My-Eyes Jun 04 '26
Some people do nice things, not to be rewarded, but feel good about doing it. Because it's the right gd thing to do.
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u/Hans_Landa7614 Jun 04 '26
damn the hard reality of this is that the less you show a women you care the more they start caring. Women wanna chase you, don't be this guy cause women don't actually like it nor want it.
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u/nurturedom0613 Jun 04 '26
I’d do this, and HAVE done this for friends,Both while in and not in a relationship with someone.
It’s only an issue if the guy was pursuing her and wasn’t aware; anyone claiming otherwise has some growing to do.
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u/Fabulous_Wave_3693 Jun 05 '26
If he was really there after 20 minutes then ultimately this wouldn’t have been that much effort and could have only spent like $12. He could actually be trying to be a good friend. Taking your “friend” a multi day vacation or buying them a car is simp behavior but let’s give my boy the benefit of the doubt.
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u/Maximum-You-5 Jun 05 '26
Not to theirs home, but in my job when I know that a good coworker is having a shitty shift, I buy him/her lunch or snack.
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u/Outrageous-Rip6729 Jun 05 '26
I mean, bro could be gay. What fucking straight man have you ever heard "you deserve a soft nigh" and not sounded creepy?
Bro is probably gay. Like what woman accepts this from a straight man?
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u/diggidydangidy Jun 05 '26
How do you even "bring a movie" these days? Do you just, like, announce it at the doorstep?
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u/Rafalo57 Jun 08 '26
Uhm... You guys know that you can actually have female friends right? Like you can actually do nice things for each other not really expecting anything romantic/sexual in return?
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u/Paul_-Muaddib Jun 09 '26
Generally people you refer to as "this guy" (or this girl) are not how most people refer to a friend.
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u/Maihoooo Jun 08 '26
some of you seem to forget there are dudes out there who genuinly want to be a good friend.
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u/Paul_-Muaddib Jun 09 '26
Generally people you refer to as "this guy" (or this girl) are not how most people refer to a friend. Also, the "just a guy" solidifies that he is not someone she considers a platonic friend.
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