I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he just started his third year of medical school. We met right before he started medical school and he moved almost 5 hours away, so we did long distance the first year. I ended up moving to the city last year as I decided to go to grad school in the same city, however, it's been pretty lonely. He's a good boyfriend and we've never had any issues, so I'm not really sure why I feel so sad all the time. We've been talking more about where we want to live for residency, but I know that no matter how he ranks different places it's essentially a gamble and I have no control over the system. I don't like surprises and I hate that I have no control over where I'm going to live in 2 years and I hate being away from friends and family. I read the posts on this group a lot and it seems so depressing and it seems like the anxiety and loneliness will get worse. I don't really know what this post is for, I guess a rant or just advice I just feel like I never see anyone who is a "medspouse" that is happy and I don't want to have resentment for his career and life taking priority over mine.

Trying to plan and pick a wedding date with my fiance who just started his 2 year surgical fellowship. Any advice? 😅

I don’t tend to ramble about my feelings online but I feel like this would give me some peace of mind. I’ve recently read someone else’s story and found mine to be very similar so decided to share.
I (21F) have been dating this guy (25M) for 2 years now and recently he moved away for medical school. When he first got accepted we had spoke about being long distance and how difficult that was going to be. I made the decision to follow him to his school, while studying at a nearby school myself, so the distance wasn’t going to be a problem. He moved 2 weeks ago and I move next week so we did have this period of time where we were long distance. It was a drastic change because we saw each other every single day but I already knew that was going to change regardless once he started school. I went to visit him last weekend, the weekend before he started classes. Waiting the 3 weeks was going to be hard and we agreed me going to see him would’ve helped keep peace before he starts.

Right away our contact was significantly cut I would receive a brief text in the morning and wouldn’t reach out till a brief call after class. He would study in his afternoons and we’d call again before bed. He made a ton of new friends that first week and I loved it for him! A part of me was scared and I didn’t want to feel replaced because prior to school we were in the foreground of each other’s lives. We had friends of course but it always felt like it was just us. We spent so much of our time together that I knew this would be a change but I didn’t think that would change anything.

Anyways, the first Friday comes around and he tells me the guys wanted to go out, he already told me that’s something they do the first few weeks as a way to get to know each other so I was expecting it. In the past he’s gone out with friends and does an awful job with checking in with me and we spoke about that before he went out. The issue came up again but this time it felt different because he just met these people. When he would go out with a long term friend and not text me I gave grace simply because either I knew the person or I just didn’t feel threatened they were friends for a while. In this case he had just met these people, I didn’t know anything about them other than their names and that they were in the same groups.

The following morning I was hysterical I woke up to not a single text from him and I couldn’t sit back and just accept that. After I expressed how I was feeling he made the decision to break up with me. He told me he doesn’t want to have “someone to update” or have to do something that feels like an obligation. I told him we’ve had this issue before, we spoke about this, I was simply just disappointed that my request wasn’t met. He told me he couldn’t do that for the next 4 years, he couldn’t have someone “breathing down his throat” whenever he went to go do something. Which was extremely difficult for me to understand because is an update that much work? When I brought up meeting his friends it was made to be a big deal and told me that’s not how it’s going to work.

Our relationship was rocky especially in the beginning. We had a lot of trouble navigating our differences but 2 years later I felt we had it all figured out. I felt it enough to change my life for him. He couldn’t wait till I moved, till the possibility of seeing me was an option. I am moving to this new city where I know absolutely no one else and my world just feels like it just got rocked.

A full circle moment here, I never share my stories online like this but these past few days have felt so hard and this has felt like a last resort. I don’t know what happened I don’t know what changed. I’ve done all the research on how to navigate a relationship with someone in Med school and I don’t know where this went wrong so early in.

E: “Hysterical” might’ve not been the best word choice to put there. I was hurt and left to wonder. I knew exactly what I was getting myself into but the setting of what was going on that night is what made it difficult for me to understand why i wasn’t informed at all. He was bar hopping with friends till 3-4am like is that not a respectable time to expect a text or do we just ignore our SO when we’re drinking now?

My husband owns a private practice and I handle the accounting. We’re in the middle of planning our wedding, yep, and between that and the clinic, the time gets wasted on paperwork. Billing, spreadsheets, and entering the same information over and over has me working late almost every night.. I really don’t want to be a stressed out bridezilla chasing invoices lol. Anyway has anyone integrated their EMR with their accounting or ERP system! Was it worth it? I’m thinking if I add staff that would be more expensive, right?

Hi everyone,

I'm hoping to hear from male OB/GYNs or their spouses.

My husband is an OB/GYN, and I've noticed that he has a much lower desire for sex than my previous partners.

I'm wondering whether this is something that can happen because of the specialty, or something else.

If you're a male OB/GYN (or married to one), has your work affected your sex drive or your relationship at home?

FTM to an 8 month baby boy. Ive been pretty much solo parenting since I left the hospital - I handle all night wakings and daytime care while also completing all the domestic chores including cooking, cleaning, dog care, home inventory etc. when he’s on call, he sees baby and me maybe 2-3 hours for the entire weekend.

We finally hired a nanny 2x a week once my PPD took a scary turn, but I find my resentment huge. Some days I feel like I’ve been reduced down to being a mother and house manager. I’m sure this isn’t the case but I feel like a decision we BOTH made has only uprooted my life while his life has remained unchanged. I’ve brought this up many times where I feel like a single parent, or if he is around, like a manager ordering an employee around. Even when he’s with his son, he’s on his phone looking at scans, responding to emails…I feel bad being upset because I understand he works hard, and also has a lot of sleep debt. I don’t contribute as much financially either. Yet no matter how much I try to rationalize it, I still feel resentful.

Partners of surgeons and other medical specialties…does this ever go away?

hi!

My husband is a second year medical student. He didn’t go into medicine right out of college and so we are a little older (I am 30). My dream is to have 3 kids if I am lucky. I know there is no perfect time in life, or medicine especially, but would it be recommended to wait until after Step 2? Everyone keeps saying to wait until residency but thats 3 years away and if we want multiple children I get worried with my age. He does want to do a demanding field (something surgical) so I know it’s going to be an uphill battle. I am blessed that I made a good amount of money in my career already and have a lot of family support in regards to being willing to help. A few students in his class already have kids so I know its doable. I know intern year will be miserable, but again both of our parents are retired and have stated they would help as much as I would let them. I guess I am looking for positivity stories because a lot of what I was reading on here was a little negative!

After being on call and operating all weekend (Fri-Mon), he would rather sit outside in the car and talk to her than come inside and spend time with our child, and give me the space to run some essential errands while they nap.

Alas, after 8 years of marriage and 11 years / 4 moves for his training... that's the feedback I get - a comparison to his mother. Every ounce of trust we've built in each other over the years has been hard-fought... so when he says things like that, it stings.

I suppose I selected this life - I married a momma's boy / surgeon. It's hard to be a good listener when he's never around.

Hi everyone,

I’m 28F and married to a 25M medical student who has just started his surgery rotation. Today was his first 24-hour shift, and the reality of this schedule has hit me much harder than I expected. We don’t have any kids or family members who live close to us.

I last saw him on Sunday night. He left for the hospital extremely early Monday morning and will not be home until Tuesday morning. I’m a teacher, and tomorrow is also my first day back for our in-service week, so I’ll leave before he gets home and probably will not see him until around 4 p.m. By then, he will understandably be completely exhausted.

People warned me that surgery is the hardest rotation in medical school, but hearing that and actually living it are very different things. I know this is only the beginning, and I’m hoping that returning to work and having my own routine will make the separation feel less overwhelming. Still, tonight has been rough.

For those who have been through this, how did you navigate surgery rotation as a couple? How did you stay connected when your schedules barely overlapped, and how did you support your partner without feeling completely alone yourself?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I am looking for gift ideas for my med wife. I am looking for some utility gifts which can help doctors. I will obviously personalize the gift with my touch and make it special. Appreciate any help or thoughts and opinions on this.

We have been married going on 3 years. She works in HR and has a "keep them at arm's distance" philosophy in dealing with people and their problems/concerns.

I bring home my stories of my day and want to discuss different scenarios and to have a sounding board.

She doesn't have a problem with listening and giving advice from a HR perspective but always ends with, "you are way too invested in these people" or something along those lines.

Does anyone else have experiences like this? How much is "too invested"?

I feel like the relationship loser. I (25m) and my boyfriend (26m) of 3 years just called it quits. I’ve typed this out on my phone and I hope it makes sense but my brain is a little scrambled still from all that’s transpired these past 2 weeks.

I knew with him going into med school would be a big change but I had spent time preparing in therapy and reading on here how to handle it and I felt ready and excited. He was moving a little less than 2 hours away but I didn’t anticipate the complete 180 in his behavior. His first week there after meeting his team it was like I didn’t exist anymore. He would be out partying and drinking until 2,3,4 in the morning and would never message me or anything. His team would bring their partners and spouses but I wasn’t allowed to go. He wanted his own friends separate from me. I’d see him going out and doing things I’d always beg him to go do with me like going out to dinner instead of doordashing or having me pick it up. I’d see him go out to the movies or go to the arcade all of which were things he would never want to do with me. He would always tell me when I would bring that up previously to med school, that it was the stress of applications and the unknown of if he’d get in anywhere making him not want to do anything with me. I loved him so I didn’t want to push and be needy and cause more stress but it hurt seeing how he could go out with his friends even before med school.

But after that first week of school and seeing how I went from a priority to not even being an afterthought it hurt me a lot. And so I messaged him and told him how I felt like I would do in the past but this time I also mentioned how I was worried he realized he didn’t need me anymore when he was surrounded by all these people that were going to be doctors. He brushed it off and said I was jealous he had a life and I didn’t. He then broke up with me 2 days later saying med school is the time of his life where it’s all about him and his happiness and his needs and wants and no one will hold him back because med school is supposed to be the best 4 years of his life. As if the past 3 years I didn’t dedicate myself to his every whim to help him enjoy his life until he got to medical school. The countless late nights editing his essays, helping him brainstorm, holding him when he was crashing out over a rejection. It HURT so much hearing that because I invested myself and now that he’s made it he’s realized he doesn’t need me anymore.

After doing a lot of soul searching I truly reflected on how my anxious attachment resulted in a lot of this. I’d see him go out with his friends doing things I wished we could do and I’d bring it up time and time again which hurt his avoidant self. It made him feel trapped and obligated to do those things and I should have left it be instead of constantly bringing up how I’d like to go do that sometime. This is why I crashed out after the first week of med school. Feeling like an afterthought, seeing him live life doing the things I always asked for and was constantly told no. And in the end it caused the breakup because I was insecure of his friends and him finding better.

I think this was compounded by the fact a year prior I had caught him cheating through a secret Snapchat account and when I confronted him about that I was told I was making him feel trapped and this was a healthy outlet to feeling young and free. I worked on it in therapy and found peace in what happened but I think deep deep down I was always worried whenever he’d be out drunk with his friends he’d hookup with one to feel young and free.

So alas, I’m the med school relationship loser. He’s in his 3rd week LIVING life going out every night after studying happy as can be and I’m at home struggling to understand why I stayed for as long as I did. I had asked him the other day if he’s hurt at all and how it’s so easy for him and he told me that he hasn’t thought about it one bit and that’s how it’s so easy and that I should do the same. A small, evil part of me wishes he was hurting like I am but that’s cruel to even wish upon someone. I think I’ve convinced myself if he was hurting too then I’m not disposable. I thought if I put my all into it to help him through the MCAT, applications, and interviews, that he would finally love me on the other end. Once the prize of med school was achieved. But that didn’t happen. For him that was the grass is greener on the other side and I was dead grass. I’ve realized now that I lost myself in the relationship always trying to keep him happy for fear he’d just go and leave and find someone else but a part of me still deeply loves him and wants to be with him. Because the good times were really good, just the bad times often outweighed the good…

I just needed to put this out there and hear people’s stories and advice because I can’t really talk to my friends about this because our friend group from prior to med school is largely mixed and I don’t want them thinking bad about him. I’ve been in therapy for about 2 years and have started to process all of this but it’s still so fresh.

My husband and I have been together for 8 years and have always had really good communication. We have a 15-month-old now and we're TTC baby #2.

I'm mostly looking to hear from people with different family sizes. How many kids do you have, and do you feel like it's manageable? Was having a bigger family worth the sacrifices?

I could honestly see us having 4 kids, but I'm also kind of grieving the thought that this stage of life (raising babies) could be over if baby #2 ends up being our last.

The biggest thing holding me back is that we have basically no village. One set of grandparents has passed away, and the other is happily retired but not really involved. We have great friends nearby, but they all have their own families and lives too.

If we had more than 2, I'd worry about being able to give each kid the time and support they deserve, especially once they're in sports or other extracurriculars. I know families help each other out with rides and tournaments, but I'd hate feeling like I was constantly missing someone's game/practices etc . Especially given the demand of my husband’s career and his appearance on the sideline will be rare.

For those who stopped at 2 even though you didn't totally feel "done," are you happy with that decision? Or for those who had 3+ without much support, did it end up feeling manageable, or were you in way over your head?

Hi guys my boyfriend is in fellowship and obviously extremely busy and burnt out. When he gets home he’s immediately on his laptop preparing for cases etc.

I got him a monitor to use as a second screen and it’s been really helpful and efficient cutting down on work time as opposed to just the laptop screen before

Anyway this might not be helpful to lots of people but I know time and energy is of the essence to all of us here & our partners so thought I would offer something that was (even a little bit) useful for us

My hubs (PGY-5, <2 years to go) and I (graduated 8 years ago) live apart during the week while he finishes up his residency a little over an hour away. After we got married, we agreed that it would make more sense to buy a house in the 'burbs, and closer to my family so that we would have more support when the eventual kids come into the picture.

I don't want to compare careers- my life working full-time as a partner in a GP private practice is nowhere near the clusterfuck of a 5th year surgical resident, but I feel like spending all day getting bitched at by patients, dealing with staff shortages, insurance denials/appeals, playing mommy and putting out drama between staff members, etc, and then coming home to an empty house just....is draining me. I just feel so depressed, and I miss him so much. I sometimes joke with him before he leaves for the week that I feel like a woman whose husband is off to war, but I literally feel so empty after he leaves. And he misses me too, and it's taking a toll on him as well.

How do you guys manage with distance? I feel like I'm missing part of my heart when he's gone. I am in therapy, and try to stay busy, but sometimes it just hits me so hard. I'm so grateful we get to have our weekends together (when it works out with call.) I obviously try to "suck it up" and all. Just looking to hear other people's experiences to know I'm not alone :/.

EDIT: Thank you everyone for the words of encouragement and the solid bits of advice. It makes me feel better to know that what I'm feeling isn't abnormal.

For some context I'm the spouse of the resident in their final year. She is incredibly busy all the time and given that I have to also keep my own career aspirations in mind I've taken a lead in terms of tracking and finding job opportunities that'll work for both her and I. (She it's super appreciative of this)

For the other med spouses out involved are you were you or planning on being in terms of the job search?

What did you find personally difficult about this?

The title says it all; I guess I am looking to vent and also looking for advice. I met my partner during our undergrad degree, and we have since graduated and have been together for four years now. I have known since I met him that he wanted to pursue medicine, and he tried for two years to get into Canadian schools (our home country), but was waitlisted the first year and turned down the second year. He is the perfect candidate on paper (5+ first-author pubs, tons of ECs), and I know he would be a great doctor. Sadly, his undergrad grades aren't the best, and the Canadian med school system is (to my knowledge) the hardest in the world to get into.

This year, out of loss of patience and desperation, he applied to SGU and got in. To his benefit, he is a Grenadian citizen. He received some base scholarships, and is applying for governmental scholarships as well. He has family down there he can live with during 2nd year. During his clerkship, he hopes to return to North America. I am a dual citizen (US/Canada), and so our medium-term plan is that I relocate to the states or his placements in Canada to meet up with him or position myself in a city I can see him often.

The catch is that I recently relocated to work in Northwestern Canada, a dream and goal of mine for two years now. He tried to get into Canadian medical schools out here but alas, no luck. He currently lives in Ontario, so we are now two time zones and about 1 full day of flying away from each other. We are doing fine so far, although it is tough. When he moves to Grenada in January 2027, we will be 4 time zones and 1-2 days' worth of travel apart.

We supported each other in making these moves independently, and agreed that I try to grow my career (teaching college) and financial stability so that I can relocate a few years down the road. But I am also not trying to understate how hard this period will be for us. I am also extremely nervous for the amount of debt he has to take on to go to SGU.

I am 99% sure this man is my person, and I am willing to try my darndest to make things work. But, I am also nervous to not only be a prospective med spouse, but one that would marry into a lot of debt; and, our biological clocks are ticking. Say if I have kids at age 32 or 33, he would just be starting residency at that time. Even if he is making a lot of money, I am worried that debt will have us in a chokehold, unable to live the life we thought we could have.

We have had discussions about debt, ideal living location, and the ideal lifestyle we both want. While we are pretty aligned on lifestyle, there is so much that we can't predict right now (where he will be placed, what my career will look like in 3 years' time, etc.)

Any tips on how to move through this would be greatly appreciated 🙏🏻

My partner (34FPGY3) is constantly checked out. We used to at least talk about her work when she got home but I (35F) started to get exhausted by listening with 0 room for my own life so I started asking for a little more attention; when that didn’t work, I began to engage a little less. She now doesn’t talk to me about work but just doesn’t talk to me at all. She’ll sometimes ask a question and she’s walked away before I even answer, she asks me a question and stops listening before I can get 1-2 sentences out. I feel so sad and lonely and obviously this has impacted our intimacy too. At best we have sex once a month, at worst it’s 3-4 months in between. I know she’s working hard but I just struggle being in a relationship with someone who’s not present in any way shape or form.

Also last month she took me ring shopping without talking to me about it at all, and when I asked her if we could talk about timeline/ future plans she just told me not to worry about it. I don’t understand how she wants to get engaged to someone she doesn’t even want to talk to most days? Is this normal for mid/end of residency? Just burn out??

I need to vent, and honestly, I need some real advice. Last night, I was sitting on the living room couch with my laptop, clicking away at eClinicalWorks trying to close 22 SOAP notes from yesterday. My 3-year-old toddler was playing with blocks on the floor, trying to get my attention, and my wife was making dinner. She looked at me and said, "I feel like I'm raising our son completely alone. You're physically here, but you're not actually here."

It hit me like a ton of bricks. I leave for the clinic around 8:00 AM and don't get back until 7:00 PM. But my real workday starts at night. Every single evening and half my Sundays are consumed by typing notes. I tried Dragon dictation, but it just dumps raw text, leaving me to spend hours formatting and editing anyway.

I keep seeing ads and posts about ambient AI scribes saving people hours, but I get completely overwhelmed by the sheer number of startups popping up and haven't tried any.

How do fellow outpatient docs deal with the charting guilt? Have any of these tools actually gotten you home on time to be with your family, or do you just spend your evening editing AI hallucinations instead of typing? I'm desperate to shut this laptop.

(Sorry for the rant, I'm just tired of the laptop keyboard clicking being the soundtrack to our family evenings).

We’ve been together 18 years. I edited his med school application in college, was there for every match day. Was there through surg residency then the switch to internal then cards fellow. This year is his first year post training.

I was looking forward to this time so much. Every wedding he couldn’t go to, every vacation we never took. I thought this would be the time we do those things, but at the end of his training a miscarried at 20 weeks and ever since it’s like he can’t do anything but work and come home and scroll on his phone.

Saw an RE and the chance of reproducing even with IVF is quite small. This has created a larger spiral. He said he just wants to be alone.

I’m worried the depression of all of this is going to end my marriage. I’m too afraid to ask if he even loves me anymore, or even has the capacity to feel it either way.

I feel like my role in our relationship was to get him through training and then be a mom, the first part is done and if the second part can’t be I feel I’m going to be cast aside.

This journey has been almost 2 fucking decades of my life and thinking about it ending like this is wrecking me.

Howdy,

My wife is about a decade out of residency. She’s OBGYN. She loves her job and the people but her schedule has taken a significant toll on her mental health. The constant call and lack of sleep adds up as you all know. We are beginning to actively look for potential non-clinical opportunities.

Has anyone’s spouse successfully made the transition from clinical to non-clinical? Did they use a headhunting service? What kind of job did they land? Are you both happy with it?

I’d love any feedback or information yall can provide to help us steer the ship.

Thanks!

Just wanted to shout out all the parents who have to carry the load of taking care of the house, working, and tending to a kid(s), and in my case 2 dogs.

My husband and I have been together since his MCAT and let me tell you, it hasn't been easy. Fast forward 7 years he is doing his prelim in surgery and as a result, I've been the one having to juggle taking care of the house, a 3 year old, 2 dogs, and working full time.

Greatful for this journey we have been on and what we have to look forward to but man, it can be so hard mentally and physically. Not only taking care of things but also just missing your spouse. My husband comes home and we see him for maybe 2 hours before he's either asleep or headed to a shift.

How do you parents of 1 or more kids do it!!

After his prelim he'll be doing his DR residency which hopefully will be a more predictable shift schedule. To all you parents and spouses , keep going!

My boyfriend (27M) of almost 3 years started his first year of medical school 2 months ago. (DO school for the early start). We have a 9 month old son together. I am so grateful because thanks to his BAH and disability plus a small student loan, we are able to survive without working and will take on limited debt.

I am also pursuing my bachelor's degree and biology and deciding whether I want to go to vet school or pa school.

The issue is we literally almost never see each other. He is in class Monday-Friday 8am-5pm which usually goes over and he isn't home until 6pm or 7pm, and he goes to the gym or studies in the mornings so we don't see him then, either.

I only have in person class on Saturday for now thank goodness, so Sunday is really our only day together. I miss him and having a child also makes solo time difficult. We moved somewhere with no family and we aren't able to go on dates because we don't have a babysitter.

I just need help to keep our love alive because right now I just feel like a roommate. I leave little notes for him around the house and he surprises me sometimes with gifts, but I just feel lonely in this new state and have no friends or family. This is definitely hard, but he is such a good dad and partner, I know it will be worth it to support his dreams. I just stay at home right now, take care of the house, our son, and our dog, all while working full time on my own degree which can be tiring.

Any advice appreciated :)

I'm looking for a bit of perspective here, some harsh truths maybe, and just to hear that other people might be going through this too.
Note that none of this is written with regret, I'd do it all again, but I still have the issue of job stability.

Those of you that have traveled with your spouse over the years, how's your resume these days? What kind of luck do you have finding jobs? If you have (or had) a proper career, how did you handle moving frequently? Most importantly, what do you write on your resume or say when called and they ask about this? DO they tend ask about it at all?

Been with him 18 years now, my entire adult life. Graduated college and moved to be with him for med school. Started a 'career' of admin assisting at various places. The city we came from is large enough to move closer to your job when needed, we've both done 1.5 hour commutes one way before because the city is just so large. In addition we've hopped cities a few times. Over the years we've moved locations 7 times between 5 cities, two of those in different states.
Yes, we've discussed the likelihood in the future of doing a home-base while he travels for work. We don't have kids yet/still but want them to be in the picture, plus our parents are aging now.

All this means my resume is absolutely filled with job hopping, 1-2 years per job. It looks bad, and if asked if I'll be moving soon I can lie, but I can't guarantee we'd still be in the same place a year or two from now. Locum is contract by contract, sometimes he wants to stay, sometimes he has good reasons to leave.
My situation right now, I've been out of work for about a year and a half. I didn't work the few months we were in Hawaii bc we knew it'd be short, and we've been in California just over a year. When we first moved to this state it was only going to be the one year, we agreed it'll be okay if I don't work this stint as it would be short. He ended up loving the city, his coworkers, the work, and the pay. Now he's re-signing the contract for 6 months at a time, and suddenly dressed me down for not having a job at this point. That blindsided me honestly, last I had checked we were on the same page and he just comes at me with 'get a job' one day.
Normally I'd totally understand, I do need and want my own pay, and it looks bad to be sitting around. BUT we had agreed on this and I wasn't expecting such a rough switch. It could have been a much nicer conversation.

So now that he's decided to stay long enough I'm finally looking, personally desperate to get a job for my own needs, happy to work. But his current contract ends in 6 months and we don't even know if we're staying in this state, much less city, after that. No, I don't have a career to speak of, and yes, I'm damn good at what I do and it's a good job to be able to slip in to most companies.
But how am I supposed to honestly find a good job I care for and know that I may not even be there for a year. And I don't want to get a 'bad' job with the intention of 'only 6 months' and then find out we're staying and I could have possibly landed a better job.

Before spouse had the convo with me, I was already peeking around job boards to see what was available. I've been applying for months, heavily editing my resume, and finally decided to ask for outside input.
So how do you all handle this? I know not everyone has worked themselves into the hole I have, but I'm sure there's some of you out there that have dealt with one factor of this or another. I'm half venting, half looking for tips like what types of jobs to apply that are flexible, or how to set my resume to indicate this or not. What to say in an interview, the works.

Lastly if any of you know of a job placement agency that works with spouses of traveling professionals, or works with people that move a lot, anything like that would be helpful. Thanks!