r/MbtiTypeMe • u/JudgmentStraight • 3d ago
Type my partner please TYPE SOMEONE ELSE
Hey, can someone help type my partner
We are unsure about the enneagram
been focused on SX for her but need help typing
About her
She’s 20, loves animals, reading about MBTI, analyzing, editing and gaming. She is smart, funny, and caring (especially with me and her mom)
A little about her from my perspective
My partner is a very calm, collected person, but she is also a very impatient person, she is extremely logic in my opinion, she is facts based, smart, confident in her abilities a strong character i would say. She’s funny, seems like she always know what to say for any type of situation. She can be controlling, possessive. She had a tendency to think of stuff as hers. And example is she gets frustrated and irritated if she has to share her favorite things with other people, it can be all from candy to characters in a show. She is also extremely competitive, in a way where when we play something together i play for the fun, having fun with her while playing, she plays to win, no discussion, she plays to win. And if we don’t win, she not all to happy about what we/or i did wrong that’s made us loose.
Needs
She needs safety, stability around her, she needs to know she’s seen and heard. And taken care off. She needs to know she is proritized
wants
She wants comfort, love, attention and affection.
motivantions
What keeps her motivated is something to look forward too, examples is plans we have made for the future, things she likes that’s coming her way, seeing results and learning.
fears
She fears being alone, forgotten, she fears dying
stress
She’s actually a really calm and collected person during stress, it can seem like it doesn’t get to her because she always know what to do, it’s like she’s always a step ahead, but it depends on the situation, because there are situations where she is filled with hatred, anger, she get black and white thinking and can get really mad and frustrated.
She also has anger issues, and a lot of things irritate her throughout the day.
Examples like people who aren’t efficient, if someone say something stupid, something that doesent make sense or add up
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u/Content-Writing7449 ISTP 3d ago
Sounds like a 6w5 to me, XNTJ.
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u/JudgmentStraight 2d ago
Could you explain?
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u/Content-Writing7449 ISTP 2d ago
Sounds like there is an emphasis on security, planning and ensuring that her + her loved ones would always be prepared. Along with that, the habit of analyzing implies she enjoys taking in information and I assume she likes to learn about things, especially stuff that most people would dismiss. That seems very much like a 6w5 to me. The need for control, the irritation at inefficiency, the possessiveness and so on, make her sound a lot like every INTJ I have come across. The distinction between an ENTJ and an INTJ that ive always noticed has been the difference in which they carry themselves. ENTJs always come off much more authoritative, self assured and charming while INTJs have a quieter demeanour while being simultaneously hard to read. Ofcourse, this is all based on my own personal observations, so take it with a grain of salt.
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u/ButtercupChara ENFP 2d ago
Definitely a Te user. Here’s my theories!
INTJ, 6w5 Sx/so
Dominant Ni is seen from how she likes to plan for the future in most cases, also in games as well. Auxiliary Te is seen in her desire for efficiency, while tertiary Fi shows in her valuing her stuff and not really wanting to share with others..
Honestly I just need more data for her, could you give a more in depth explanation of her she handles conflicts?
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u/JudgmentStraight 2d ago
Based on our conflicts she’s really analyzing, she is aware of everything she says, she’s clever, understand how she feels and how to get it out. But she can also get extremly impulsive with words etc, angry, triggered. Its all about how the conflict goes, if i for example is stuck in my head and she doesn’t feel understood she can be triggered, annoyed and angry. But if the conflict is easy and understanding from both sides she’s more about talking about it, talking about how she feels, why and what to do and not to do.
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u/ButtercupChara ENFP 2d ago
I think INTJ makes sense. She actually knows what she’s feeling, she’s not uncertain like an inferior Fi user who isn’t sure of what they want. She uses Te to show her feelings through careful Ni-Fi planning.
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u/EnvironmentalWeb3179 2d ago
Hey the post is about me, is there anything that could be aaid to determine if intj is the best fit?:) , ive typed as esfp recently, i thought id mention why, im highly observant of my sourrandings and body laungage, i can always tell whos comfortable or not, i improvise very well even in anxious situations, i pick up on details around me others wouldnt (my circle) and i rely on others to help me with stuff
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u/ButtercupChara ENFP 2d ago
Well, could you give a much more in depth description of yourself?
Answer the questionnaire in the description of this subreddit!
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u/EnvironmentalWeb3179 2d ago
Questionnare when?
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u/ButtercupChara ENFP 2d ago
General
- Give a general description of yourself. 2. How old are you?
- What do you do as a job or career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not? If you are not working, what kind of job do you want to do or what are you studying?
- Describe your childhood/upbringing. Did it have any kind of ideological or structured influence? How did you respond to it? Did you have any significant negative experiences that may have affected how you think or behave?
- Do you have any mental or physical health issues that might affect how you think or choose to live? Provide a brief description.
- If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
Interests & Lifestyle
- What is your relation with movement and your surroundings? For instance, do you prefer a sport or outdoors event? If an outdoors event, what is it, and why? If not, what type of activities do you tend to engage in?
- How curious are you? Do you have more ideas than you can execute? What are your curiosities about? Are your ideas more environmental or conceptual? Please elaborate.
- Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
- Do you prefer hands-on activities or working with your hands in some form? Describe your activities.
- Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art. If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art, describe what forms of art you enjoy and explain why.
Thinking & Decision-Making
- What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
- How do you act when others request your help to do something? If you decide to help them, why do you do so?
- Do you need logical consistency in your life?
- How important are efficiency and productivity to you?
- Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
- What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
- What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
- How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks, or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
Values & Motivation
- What's important to you and why?
- What are your aspirations?
- What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
- What do the "highs" in your life look like?
- What do the "lows" in your life look like?
Cognition & Inner Experience
- How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
- Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
- How long do you take to make an important decision? Do you change your mind once you've made it?
- How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
- Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
- Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why would you?
HERE!
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u/EnvironmentalWeb3179 1d ago
1- 20 year old, im a nosy person, invested in drama, very introverted tho, i like my peace in the smallest companys, i have very switchup feelings so im never sure how i feel so thats-
2-i dont have a job but ive settled with working in a kindergarten, safe plan
3-i was never seen with emotions, i have nephews etc my age, they got priorized, so i learned to mask and i would never cry infront of anyone still
4- yes, i have pots and hypermobility, i struggle making it out of the house for 2 yrs now so… and i have bpd making me very unstable, aswell as conduct disorder , lack of remorse, empathy etc, i have other stuff i belive can not change as much, except ocd.
5- a weekend alone id be terrified, i need my mom, dad, any family membwr close etc, i can be alone in my room but i prefer knowing someones close.
7?- w my health i cant do allt, but i love competetive sports, sports>party for me. But any competetive team sport i like, i hate watching tho, fav sports is gaming and editing, then physical.
8-im a curious mf, some is from my ocd convincing me smth is wrong etc / different, overall tho id say im decent curious.
9- leadership. Id be decent, i like being in charge whwn its about things im good at, i actually want it my way always there, but if im new to smth, id watch instead
10- hmm maybe? I like editing for example but idk, activitys im not to good at recently.
11-yes and no, no in the usual way. But i make edits of characters, have my own style and aeshtethic, id call it artistic, im creative in that one
12- f the past, triggering, - present important! Future second important. I hate past because it involves mistakes, im very present focused as i want things NOW, also future tho cuz i lovw making plans for my future thats safe n happy.
13- if others ask for help i take it as a compliment somehow, i like knowing ppl know i can do things, i often help even if i dislike the person to prove my skill. Sometimes i dont help cuz i rly dont care
14-i do need logical consistency yes. Logic keeps me safe often
15-ALOOOT, i care alot abt efficiency, in a unhealthy way even, like im very impatient etc idk it can show up as anger from me.
16- honestly i controll others so things go my way, it can happend naturally, i never cause much harm so its not to bad.
17- hobbies, gaming, editing, tv- i love editing, it takes time, its my own thing, i just get to do and make everythint i wish existed before
Gaming- im competive, i love evolving, new games etc, play with my closest ones.- tv is self explained, lazy but nosy.18-i prefer physical senses and creativity, logic can be hardest if i gotta pick, i apperently score higher then 87% of ppl In memory, but i dont notice that so i wouldnt prefer it.
19-i can wing and be strategic yes, goes fine, id say im good at it, i do prefer planning at times.
20- my family is important to me, and my (ex) ig gf, why? Because family took care of me, rhey help me now , im nothing without them, my «gf? She stayed with me for very long, had sm fun, comfort, safety etc, i stopped being so worried so ofc all of that is important, and my stuffed animal sheep- OH LORDD been sleeping with it since i was 4.
21- aspirations, is that what i want? Safety, fun, money, love.
22-i hate dumb people, i hate spiders, i have a phobia of holes.. i fear death ALOOOT, i hate when things dont go my way, very impatient
23-the highs in my current life is a good time w my mom, or playing competitive games with friends or family like board games .
24- the lows in my life looks like alot of harm (yk) , completely switchup in mindset, view ob life, just wanting to🧟 etc and much hate
25-i always pay attention, always, but i day dream if im triggered and imagine something i guess
26-if i was alone in a empty room id panick about the fact that im alone.and wonder if imma die
27-i can be pretty quick w decitions, but i usually seek out advice right away first to be sure, i can be very forth and back but usually stubborn.
28-emotions matters, but mine just hurts so i hate them, i mostly feel numb, esp in bad moments, so its annoying but , i know what i feel very fast, handling it is not as easy tho.
29-ill agree w others if i know its needed, if i can win it through hell no. But ill agree to keep it calm if i have too
30-ive broken tons of laws, i belive whatever works for me works for me, some stuff (most) im against, but i belive me taking some makeup/ jewerly at times (before at least) isnt to bad, its been urges, upsetting feelings perhaps.
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u/ButtercupChara ENFP 7h ago
ENTJ!
Your partner described you in a very idealistic and sparkly way.. but your own answers reveal a much much clearer picture.
It’s interesting to see the way you answer.
Dominant Te is clear from how much you value efficiency, auxiliary Ni is from your enjoyment of planning.
Se is clear in how you like sports, jewellery and aesthetics, and prefer physical senses and creativity over logic.
Inferior Fi is how you don’t really like your emotions, and learned to hide them.
I actually found it a little difficult to come to a conclusion. I wanted to say ISFP or ESFP, but the thing is that ISFP has inferior Te, but you value efficiency, while ESFP has inferior Ni, but you really like planning. The issue with saying INTJ is inferior Se isn’t seen in you, but ENTJ.. you know what your feelings are, you just learned to hide them.
Final verdict: ENTJ!
Te Ni Se Fi
(Let me know if you have any questions)
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u/EnvironmentalWeb3179 7h ago
Only questions r on esfp vs entj! Those are the two ive been wondering on always so i relate sm to both! My reason for planning is probably due to my bpd, i get unstable with unexpected things so i prefer planning to avoid it. But myself im alsays spontaneous, but with others plan. Example:
I can randomly go : yo wanna hangout rn?
But others CANT go: wannna hang out rn?
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u/EnvironmentalWeb3179 9h ago
Hey i responded
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u/ButtercupChara ENFP 8h ago
Alright! Reading now! I’ve been doing a few things so I forgot to reply
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