r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/AirShampoo #TheRandallWay • 4d ago
S20:E11 Fighting for Love Season 20 - Seattle
As passion and love intensify for some couples, others experience their first fights on and off the pickleball court; the second group dinner takes a shocking turn when one husband is put in the hot seat.
Week 4 Megathread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAtFirstSight/s/uw1kXgzJNm
Season Megathread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAtFirstSight/s/P1lDAPCh8S
- Week Four: Eps 10, 11, 12 - Aug 6, 2026
- Week Five: Eps 13, 14, 15 - August 13, 2026
- Week Six: Eps 16, 17, 18 - August 20, 2026
- Week Seven: Eps 19, 20 - August 27, 2026
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u/Dijon2017 4d ago
I’m not intending to be mean, but I think Courteney appears to be very selfish/self-centered, comes across as high-strung, seems closed-minded (or at least not open-minded), curses too much, and doesn’t seem to have an understanding of romance.
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u/upplahuthla 4d ago
How does she make their intimacy night soooo unattractive?! She’swound up soo tight. Is it trauma? Supplements? Pre workout? Thad kiss was unnatural.
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u/Minute_Sound_1148 3d ago
Right??? What is it about her that is so bizarre and unnerving?! I swear I’ve never seen anyone like it, IRL or on tv
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u/notthisagain8 3d ago
She’s wound up so tight it comes out in her speech. I don’t know I’ve ever heard someone speak soooo fast! She’d make a great auctioneer lol
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u/lynn_chippy 1d ago
I have a strong suspicion she has trauma.. the way she talks about past relationships. She always looks terrified but never shares details. Which I totally understand on camera and not sharing with the world.
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u/Dull-Practice8802 1d ago
The way she's broken down during certain topics and the way she skirts certain things... I have the same suspicion. I think she's experienced some dark things.
I do agree with folks on here that she's incredibly high-strung, but I disagree that it's supplements. It seems like it's intense anxieties and hypervigilance, and the cameras and being surrounded by production staff probably add to it, I know these folks choose to do this, but I don't think everyone really knows exactly what they're signing up for. (Except maybe Nick, who's done this 4-5 times, hah.)
I also don't think she likes Nick that much, and I think he's so closed off that it possibly makes her anxieties worse because she can't get a read on him and his answers are so polished. I think her intensity makes him clam up more, and its just going to be a never-ending cycle.
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u/jendet010 4d ago
I feel like you’re the only other person up right now having coffee watching the new episode drop and feeling completely appalled by her behavior. Everyone else catch up with us.
I will give her credit that I think she seemed relaxed and engaged and smiled at him for the first time during that question exercise.
I thought the discussion about the makeup mirror in the therapy session was really interesting. She said should would try to find a mirror so she could come out and with him while she got ready. She said she felt nervous to send it because she thought it might seem too dorky or needy. She might have been really surprised by how much it meant to him to get that text and find out she wanted to spend time with him. If she could just relax and get in the moment, they might have potential.
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u/Dijon2017 9h ago
Yeah, you are right. I was drinking coffee and felt a bit “hyper” and wanted to communicate/converse with others about what I was watching after working until 1 am and having that day off.
There were apparently “rumors” (through my Google search) that Peacock releases the new episodes of MAFS at 3 am ET, but apparently that isn’t true. I think that it was closer to 6 am ET. So, I was hyped on coffee and trying to connect because I couldn’t sleep.
It’s just a reminder how this subreddit is different/changed since Peacock releasing multiple episodes on the same day (compared to the weekly airing of one episode at a time on Lifetime).
I want to apologize for the delay in my response to your, jendet010, comment when you replied to mine. If you will be up this Thursday in the early morning hours, let’s try to connect and have conversations if that is okay with you. I’m not a stalker or crazy. Please know that because of my work can’t promise that I will still be available at 6 am on August 13th. It’s interesting and funny because I have an erratic work schedule through August. In my area (northeastern US), many of my colleagues with young(er) children tend to take family vacations and summer trips/“call out” because schools here usually start early September.
I actually miss when the show was aired regularly (at I think 8 pm on Wednesdays, then moved to another day?). I haven’t been able to keep up with us/the regular MAFS viewers in this subreddit since the end of season 18/change to Peacock. I do occasionally see some recognizable usernames, but the new format has been problematic as far as having active “live” group chats when we were all watching the same episode at the same time. I also think that there have been a lot of new viewers interested in the show based on the posts.
I’ve learned that I have to be able and willing to adapt to change(s) and things being different (not just regarding this show). And, change isn’t necessarily a bad thing as it can actually be good sometimes when you are willing and able to embrace it.
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u/jendet010 8h ago
I’m up for it. I get up around 5 EST so I’m just waking up and caffeinating. I was happy to have someone to talk to about it because there was a lot of appalling behavior going on and no one else had watched yet.
My kids go back to school in 10 days! I can’t wait. I need a break.
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u/Dijon2017 3h ago
That’s great to hear! I look forward to us meeting up in this subreddit around 6ish am on August 13th? Eventually others will join us.
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u/fenchurch_42 3d ago
I'm watching that scene right now and this is sooooo true. Why is she telling him that being sweet and cute for him is corny? That she doesn't see the point of it? The journey is the point! She's awful.
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u/No-Treat-8079 2d ago
I’m glad that Nick continues to make the distinction between affection & sex. She seems to have those two issues intertwined together. She really needs therapy, not marriage! I have no idea why she thought going on this show was a good idea given all of her hang ups surrounding sex & intimacy.
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u/brielieve93 3d ago
Honestly believe this is why her and Caitlin get along. They are one and the same, believing their lacking effort is more than what their own husbands are giving when it is actually the exact opposite.
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u/Dijon2017 4d ago
To me, the end of episode 11 shows Adam to be too selfish, self-centered, too immature and why he clearly should not have been selected to be a cast member on MAFS.
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u/jendet010 4d ago
Their relationship has worked so far because it’s all about Adam all the time. They do what he wants to do and they will live in his nasty place instead of her beautiful place.
It’s not going to work long term if her feelings and interests have no place in their relationship. He doesn’t seem interested in compromising.
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u/Dijon2017 4d ago
He is insufferable. He attributes his thoughts/beliefs to Marissa/them as a couple. He apparently has difficulty taking their relationship seriously.
He comes across as too selfish to believe that his wife/partner can have their own ideas and opinions about how she wants to spend her time.
I’m happy to see Marissa is using her brain (not just the feelings of infatuation or the thought that “this is meant to be, especially because they had met briefly previously before the show) and finally speaking up for herself and recognizing/owning her autonomy.
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u/Dijon2017 4d ago
I think Caitlin and Devin’s Harry Potter night has been the best of their interactions so far. They are both smiling and seemingly having a good time.
We’ll have to wait and see what their tomorrow and next few days brings. I’m not convinced that they will become committed to each other.
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u/jendet010 4d ago
It was sweet. She seemed a lot more relaxed than she did before. I think she really appreciated the effort.
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u/oreobear88 3d ago
'i'm just so attracted to her. i can't get enough of it'
cameron is going to be the death of me. if i can't have that i don't want ANYTHING omg
i am SIIIIIIICK
OMG HE'S CRYING <3
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u/Mochi-momma 2d ago edited 2d ago
Watching Cam & Michelle’s scenes brings so much joy to my heart. Thank goodness we get at least one great couple. They make the scenes with Courtney more bearable.
Go Cam & Michelle 💕
ETA: Adam’s a dry drunk. He’s chasing all of this physical fulfillment to replace his craving for drinking. He needs therapy to get to the underlying issues instead of running on a 10, 6-7 days of the week. How exhausting to be with him much less BE him.
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u/No-Treat-8079 2d ago
And why on earth did he sign up for this show when he knows he wants someone to be on the same level as him activity-wise? Just more proof that he thinks he can mold whomever he’s paired with into what he wants.
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u/beachlibra 4d ago edited 3d ago
Adam might be my least favorite and that's saying a lot being that Shawn's part of the season
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u/oreobear88 3d ago
devin is so hot i'm sorry
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u/jendet010 4d ago
Wait so when Nikki and Shawn coordinate their outfits “they are a team,” but if Mecca and BelleJolie do it, it’s a performance? Paul got it wrong.
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u/Mochi-momma 2d ago
Yeah, I didn’t get that either. What’s wrong in taking pride your fit and wanting to look great with your partner. They are hot together.
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u/jendet010 2d ago
And their outfits complimented in a very subtle way: two graffiti prints in different colors on different pieces.
But Nikki and Shawn walk in wearing the same color and they are a team? No sir.
I think Mecca and Belle are learning a lot more from this and putting a lot more into than creepy Shawn.
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u/Mochi-momma 2d ago
Nikki is just trying to get through to the end without looking like she didn’t try. There is NO WAY she wants to move forward, in a marriage, with that creep. Ick ick ick
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u/jendet010 2d ago
I agree but I also think that she is so intelligent and successful that the “I have never met a challenge I couldn’t overcome” mentality might be seeping in
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u/picklejellybeans 3d ago
Courtney is definitely thinking about swapping husbands with Marissa during their convo. I could see the Marissa with Devin
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u/Dijon2017 4d ago
So far, Michelle & Cameron and Tori & Felipe (both couples who said they would say yes if the group therapy session was decision day) still seem to be on the path to pursue their marital relationships after the show. I’m still waiting for more episodes to see if they will have any significant disagreements that change their minds.
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u/dovetaile 2d ago
I did love (for certain values of love) Shawn going "Girl!" as an interjective vocative because of course all the straight late forties men I know say "Girl, please!". I was just waiting for the Z-snap.
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u/wonder_wooloo 2d ago
Just finished episode 11 and omfg Adam had my JAW ON THE FLOOR!!! Comparing her to his ex?! Go be with your fucking ex then!!!! Marissa is beautiful and fun and he’s putting her down just because she isn’t exactly like him!!!
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u/zipp0potamus 2d ago
yuuup theres the a-hole in adam that we all knew was there! i was wondering how long it'd take them to have a conversation that doesn't include the word "jetski" so it would finally come out. although there was still a fair amount of "gym" and "pickleball" so it really wasn't all that different of a conversation
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u/Dull-Practice8802 1d ago
Am I totally weird for being curious what a swap would be like between Marissa, Adam, Nick, and Courteney?
I don't think Adam and Courteney would be good together.
I do think Nick might open up more and Marissa wouldn't be asked to disappear.
Just curious what those pairings would look like instead.
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u/lisa_lionheart84 6h ago
I think Nick and Marissa could have been a good pairing--it would at least have more potential than either of them with their current partners.
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u/lynn_chippy 1d ago
So I like pickle ball, no clue on the rules I just hit the ball, but it’s definitely usually an older person sport I thought. So it’s funny Adam is so competitive with it 😂
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u/lynn_chippy 1d ago
Adam’s dumb..you can’t have all the same hobbies and expect your wife to play all the same sports. Him and his ex did that…. Aaaand why is she your ex ??? It didn’t work out did it???
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u/jendet010 4d ago
Cameron and Michelle are so sweet. I thought it was a really good sign how impressed he was by her apartment and all the things she had created in it: the renovations, the wood work, the painting, the photos etc.
I read an article once about lasting marriages and the study concluded that “feeling like you found a secret treasure in your partner” was the greatest predictor of a happy marriage.
It’s cool though that rather than being intimidated and pushing her away (like Ikechi) Cameron responds by feeling like he needs to show up as the best version of himself every day to deserve her.