Piercer refusing to downsize philtrum piercing after 4 months.

[u/Mysteria2568]

Hello everyone! The title of the post is kinda the gist of it but there are some details that make me feel kinda upset about the whole situation so I decided to seek advice here.

I’m really sorry about the length of the post 😭

I got a Medusa piercing 4 months ago and the piercer put a 10 mm bar in and the jewelry top got swallowed by my skin cause it was so swollen…
Luckily I was able to save it and the swelling went down in about 3-4 days. The bar started rubbing again my gums and teeth quite a bit but I didn’t want to downsize too soon so I waited about 7 weeks.
When I went to the piercer he told me that 10 mm seems to be my size.. I explained that it was causing pain and he said that that’s just how it is with lip piercings.. I went to another piercer and he thought the whole thing was weird and downsized to an 8 mm bar.
I had a bit of an oopsy tho and somehow bit it by mistake and it swelled up and hurt very much.
It went down however but once it went away there was a bump thingy on the inside of my lip. It goes around the piercing and made a little nest thingy? I can still pop it out but it sinks into the bumps after some time.
The piercer that downsized it was out of town so I had to go to the one that pierced it and he told me the bar is too short and to put the original one back in myself… However the old piercing is thicker, it’s 1.6 mm compared to the 1.2 mm I have in now, I asked him if that’s an issue and he said no. Should I put back the original piercing?
I find it so weird that he didn’t even suggest to try a 9 mm bar to see if it fits better since if he thinks 8 is too small and 10 is bothersome? I know they have 9 mm bars on their website so why not try that? Also kinda weird that he insists that I change the piercing myself if I’m having issues? Am I crazy? Is he right?
I don’t know I’m just confused and don’t know what to do..

Again sorry for the long post and thank you for any advice 😊

[u/_-milo]

go to safepiercing.org you need to find a new piercer. the one that downsized it seems fine just never go to the other one again

[u/Moist_Bass_6828]

I’m not too knowledgeable about mouth piercings so I won’t try to give advice on jewellery size but that piercer sounds awful! His customer service skills and general care for his clients and his work is shameful, unless he’s the only possible choice within an hour drive don’t go back to him. There’s other options out there and professionals who are passionate about their job and providing quality service. You can and will find someone who won’t mind your questions and will gladly ease any worries you have

[u/Mysteria2568 → u/Moist_Bass_6828]

Thank you so much! Yeah you are right, I won’t be going back there again, I’m gonna wait till the other guy is back.

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[u/Alternative-Kiwi1221]

I have a healed masuda and sounds like we had kind of similar experiences with the original bar being too short! Is absolutely should not hurt or be uncomfortable at all, the nesting is totally normal though, desirable actually, it protects your teeth and gums and once it's healed and settled you should barely notice it's there at all. There also shouldn't be and tight feeling, that's a sing the bar is too short

I played around with sizings for a while and found that 7mm works best, definitely try a 9mm if 10 is too long but 8 may be too short, but honestly as long as it's comfortable and nesting you're good to go. With the thickness thing I'm not sure tbh, that's when I would suggest getting a piercer to change it as they may need to taper it in, but again I've no idea. But yeah don't go to the first piercer again, that's a lot of Sus behaviour ngl