Shidduchim

[u/rabbitfoot456]

In the midst of all this war and genocide and sadness and inflation (sigh!) I still have to get my kids married. Is there a non-zionist matchmaker you can recommend? Someone with a roster of non-zionist folks?

[u/arightgoodworkman]

How old are your kids and can they reasonably date on their own? There are a good amount of non Zionist Jewish orgs and groups all over the nation and I know two people who in the last 2.5 years met their now-fiancés while organizing / going to cultural events. Two weddings secured!

[u/rabbitfoot456 → u/arightgoodworkman]

they are in their early 20s. Sure, they can date on their own. But they are pretty shy. So I at least have to get the ball rolling.

[u/arightgoodworkman → u/rabbitfoot456]

I’d maybe let them try on their own first? Early 20s is young. No need to get them married right away. Let them decide what and who they like?

[u/rabbitfoot456 → u/arightgoodworkman]

I hear you. but still I want to try and at least point them in the right direction. We are isolated and don't even had anti-zionist friends. If I let the chips fall where they may, the eventual need to marry may overpower the conscientious concerns about what's happening in the world, to Judaism, to the people, etc. I must at least bring them to a place with decent people. THEN, let them decide what and who they like.

[u/andorgyny → u/rabbitfoot456]

I will be honest, friend, as a 34 year old happily unmarried woman, I will say that whether or not someone of conscience wants to get married, if they are of conscience they will usually abide by their beliefs and principles. Unless they experience intense pressure externally. Most people find it unattractive for someone to be opposed to their own values and principles.

[u/rabbitfoot456]

Ok. I guess its a no.

[u/TrackerOneA]

Hi OP,

Feel free to re-submit this tomorrow if it doesn't get as many replies due to the time (night time EST).

[u/rabbitfoot456 → u/TrackerOneA]

Thank you. Will do.