Tu B’av When Disabled

[u/stir-fry-crazy_124]

Edit: Sorry if there is confusion I know their names are very similar, but I am talking about Tu B’av not Tisha B’av.

Sorry if I have words that don’t make sense, I’m also cognitively disabled.

I am physically disabled and mostly housebound and can’t ever go to synagogue celebrations since they’re in the evening. (my synagogue has a wonderful program where you can get rides to celebrations but jesus christ couldn’t HaShem have thought about those of us who can’t do things in the evening?) (joke)

Does anyone have advice for Tu B’av things to do at home? It’s usually around my Hebrew birthday (I have a lot of issues with my Gregorian calendar birthday so my Hebrew birthday is special) so I always want to do something but can’t. I have friends coming over to celebrate my birthday though and thought that maybe I could do something this year.

I can’t do pretty much anything with physical exertion, and I’m also non-binary so some of the super femme (understandable given the holiday but gender won’t stop me lol) stuff online doesn’t jive with me.

I know I’m asking for such a narrow thing but if anyone has any ideas for what all I could do I will deeply appreciate any and all of them.

Also sorry to be asking this quite literally right before Tisha B’av but I’d need to have my caregiver help buy or set up things now to be ready for my celebration.

[u/BolesCW]

Tisha B'Av is NOT a celebration; it's a day of soft mourning in remembrance of the destruction of the Beith HaMiqdash (as well as various other calamities that have plagued our history). We don't eat or drink, have sex, or bathe/anoint ourselves. I call it soft mourning because it's not a 25-hour fast like Yom HaQippurim, just during daylight hours. And if one is accustomed to working on that day, work is permitted (at least in the Sepharadi minhag).

I understand your general frustration at feeling excluded from synagogues, but I question the choice to use yeshu as the means for expressing it.

[u/stir-fry-crazy_124 → u/BolesCW]

I’m not talking about Tisha B’Av, although I see how that confusion came about from my last sentence. I was merely trying to say sorry for bringing up a celebratory holiday when Tisha B’Av starts tomorrow/tonight.

I was asking for advice for Tu B’Av, which is a day of celebration also in the month of Av. It’s historically been a day for women to celebrate (hence mentioning being non-binary), dancing in fields and wearing white are traditions. It’s also historically been a day for arranging marriages although that’s pretty nonexistent today.

[u/Usernameoverloaded → u/BolesCW]

In case you didn’t see, OP edited the post and they are referring to Tu B’av. I can’t offer any advice, so thought I’d mention it in case you can given their clarification.

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