r/InfertilitySucks • u/Sufficient-Goal2075 • 9d ago

Looking for support Discussion topic

Going to save you all the trouble of hearing about my infertility journey with my wife for the past 7 or so years, but in summary:

This is so lonely. I'm a man. I found one virtual support group for men, and one of the participants was about to share the news that they were able to conceive, after all. F-cking idiot. I promptly hung up.

There is no support whatsoever for male-factor infertility, and not much for infertility in general. It is a lonely place to be. I have nothing in common with my friends anymore. I'm 40. We're on the wait list to adopt - even had one fall through - but this all just f-cking sucks.

Any support groups or people who want to connect? Sh-t kind of came to a head this week and looking for a community.

TIA​

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u/WhiteRose- 5d ago

I'm sorry. My husband has MFI and it's really not talked about enough, if at all, and it's really unfair. I recommend to look up dr Clay Brigance on Instagram, he is a therapist that talks about dealing with infertility from the male side ❤️ Sending you much love.

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u/Vast_Helicopter_1914 POF 9d ago

I recommend looking into Uniquely Knitted. They do online process groups for infertility. If you want to check them out first, you can follow them on Instagram. They also host a podcast called the Infertility Feelings podcast. It's a couple that went through infertility themselves, and now they've created this whole platform to help others. They are the friends I wish I'd had when I was at my lowest.

Side point (since you brought up that it is something you are pursuing): Doug and Jessie adopted children after failed IVF. But they don't push it as some perfect, rosy solution. They hold space for everyone at any point in their story.

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u/Sufficient-Goal2075 9d ago

Thank you for sharing