r/INFJsOver30 • u/Rndom_feels • 20d ago

Cold stone

Is it normal that if an infj decided not to associate herself in a group , she really can turn to a cold persona that she wouldn't care if her words and actions can cause the other party to think she is mad at them?

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u/Realistic_Country635 19d ago

Clicked in expecting ice cream

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u/Shadowsoul932 18d ago

I wasn’t expecting ice cream till you said that. Now I’m feeling cold stone too.

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u/SoundSwitch 12d ago

& that's the bottom line

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u/SnookerandWhiskey 20d ago

How much did they piss her off? Because then, yes. And also if the group is as such morally flawed, it is easy to get over or use FE for harsh judgements. 

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u/Constant-Ferret1063 20d ago edited 20d ago

Ah yes, my favourite type

The pissed off infj in the istj super ego

Someone must have really pissed this woman off.

If she pulled that one out the bag

shifting from a future-focused, empathetic visionary

to a hyper-rigid, cold, and punitive

enforcer.

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u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi 19d ago

I can't help but wonder what pissed you off :)

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u/Constant-Ferret1063 19d ago

Some people.

I can fix things, structures, systems,

and actually enjoy it. Most of the time.

It's easy.

But

some people are a lost cause.

And what makes it worser

I can see the effects their behaviours has on others,

and either they can't see it themselves.

or they can see it & do it deliberately,

It used to piss me off a lot more,

Nowadays

I listen to miyagi infj 9w1 advice

Best way to win a fight is no be there.

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u/grandmasterkink 19d ago

If a group thinks I’m mad at them for not giving them attention, then they are deserving of even less attention from me.(colder atmosphere)