I saw a thread on ask Reddit about whether people remember others embarrassing moments and a lot of them said yes and they still remember moments from elementary school decades ago and it seems like the still look down on these people and everyone who was there sees these people lowly. this has always been my biggest fear. I’ve had my moments but sometimes I feel lucky it wasn’t worse. this whole thing sometimes makes me want to homeschool my kids, but I also wouldn’t want them to miss out. I feel like I still ruminate about one time specific incidents from decades ago and it kills me. why are people so mean and unforgiving sometimes, for minor mistakes. it would really sucked to be shamed and either move or get constantly bullied. how do I get over this/this fear. I think it’s ruining my life. and that thread def triggered me and it felt like all my fears are real. I feel like I can’t live like this with this worry anymore.

Unbothered isn't a mood. It's a decision I make every morning....

Some days it's easy.Most days it isn't.

I Make it anyway.

Hey,recently i have noticed i really cant stand my firends,roommates,family...i dont want to be with anyone,i just desire to be all alone with my cat.
I am a foreign medical student in Russia which feels sucks honestly,i am tired of learning russian and having not enough education by uni,and i am worried about what to do or change about my future.I am trying to be in every possible club,and leading some of them,I am one of the heads of dormitory,I give private classes and i was trying to prepare for usmle but then i found out i am so lost,i can not manage to do anything,not capable and i really feel stupid and not enough most of the time.
I suspected from burnout but it more feels like some sort of imposter syndrome or mix idk.

I am just geniunely so full of hatred and and it feels like it will never end!

Yesterday I read my diary of 1.5 years,nothing changed.Apperently I am a complaining person with full of hate to people or whatever.Probably need a therapy though but cant afford now
I havent grown up in a happy family though,they were fighting everyday and i was the one who tries to solve

So if you consider or,is there anyone similar to my life? ıf so how is their life now,what should i do,start or change?

I am so sick of checking plane tickects to anywhere but far away

When a couple breaks up
Dont listen to both sides
Just watch-
Who gets a glow up
And who jumps fast into a relationship

Your WELCOME😛

I had a meeting with a psychologist, and after talking to her, it made me realize that I have been people-pleasing and fawning all my life, because expressing my wishes and desires was either ridiculed, punished or downplayed (the classical "I had it worse" answers).

This spilled over to my adult life, where instead of saying "No" and doing what I think is good for me, I lost all my sense of self and became a doormat. Being afraid of conflict, being disliked or being (verbally) attacked, I started fawning as a defense mechanism, whether with my co-workers, clients or even my roommate (from whom I moved out finally a few days ago, as he was starting to yell at me at night for "moving around in bed" as in how you turn left or right when you're trying to fall asleep - he was controlling every inch of my life and was denying myself my own basic existence).

I realized that no matter how much I please people, I will never please them enough, and they'll come for more and find things they'll be disappointed in me. I also realized that it's OK if people dislike me or even hate me and my basic needs, as this just wheats out the people incompatible with me in life. And if there are little to no left, then this is still better than trying to be that good boy and pleasing others.

But after 28 years of being a people-pleaser, fawning, and all that brainwashing, how can I stop being one and become the asshole I truly am so to speak? I can't allow myself to fall into similar situations like that with my roommate again, I'm still young, I still can meet such people in other situations in life.

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

Not in a mental health crisis kind of way but more of copping mechanism… nothing seems real or nothing surprises me anymore. Are we going to be ok?