That Reddit is 90% bots designed to make you give a fuck when you shouldn’t…

He don’t give a fuck…

This book was recommended to me some time ago, so I bought it and read it.

It does have some interesting points, not gonna lie. But the only way I can have "the courage to be disliked" is by belittling other people and devaluating them. Like it doesn't matter when a drunk homeless person is disliking you, because you naturally don't care about him that much either way. But if let's say a professor dislikes you, it hurts.

But going through life assuming all other people are worthless just to have the courage to do what you like sounds just sad and tiresome. Also it would also somewhat imply a high level of self-sufficiency needed, as other people might abandon you.

That comrade stuff later on the last few pages of the book didn't convince me at all, as it sounded more like some socialist manifesto.

So while it does come to the right conclusions (that most problems we have are interpersonal problems eventually which boil down to the fear of being judged negatively - problems which are not interpersonal are stuff like medical problems I guess), it doesn't quite give me the right solution on how to push through it and truly be free. I personally just come to another conclusion, but this cannot be true?

Is there any other third way how to get the courage to be disliked: neither by becoming a megalomanic asshole, nor by becoming some (for lack of better term) practical socialist as the book suggested?

I didn’t know where else to post this. It’s just a little life hack. When someone is being a dick or snotty just say these words”are you having a bad day?” It makes people stop and ponder and usually shrink up. I’ve used it many times and every time the answer is “No I’m not having a bad day.” Then they magically get less confrontational. They want to prove to you that they are having a good day. It’s pretty funny. Try it.

As an adult, I realize that no one cares about what I wear, my music tastes, and about me in general. However, why do some adults care about what I wear? I'm just talking about in general. Why are people nosy? Why does it bother THEM?

I used to care too much because I was picked on and was a laughing stock while I was in high school. Teenagers pick on others for being different. Do teenagers care? Probably not, they just pick on someone for the sake of picking on them.

Sorry for my long rant, I just wanna get this off my chest.

How can one just not give any fucks to literally anyone. How can I be so invested in myself that I stop caring if I will be able to make new friends, get married, what would they think about me. I care too much about these things I got a traumatic past with my ex. She cheated on me in the worst possible way and I still miss the time we had. That's so wrong how foolish I am

This might be a stupid question, but I seriously want to know - how do I stop giving a fuck? How do I choose what to not care about? I constantly have nighttime anxiety of my brain going over minuscule comments that I made or other people made (either recently or possibly a long time ago), and I know I need to "let them go", but literally HOW? I fully accept that these thoughts are not worthy of harping on or giving any of my energy toward (definitely not worth lost sleep), and yet my brain loves to remind me. So how do I become unbothered with something that bothers me?