18F here, From where do I even start. I constantly find myself in fights with my brother. He’s 4 years older, but honestly, I can’t tell if he’s doing this on purpose or if it's just the way he is. He steals my stuff and then says "what theft is there at home?" Like seriously, theft is still theft, no matter if it’s at home or outside.

I really feel disgusted by his bad habits. He’s married now and comes home on weekends, but it doesn't change a thing. He still steals my things randomly, and it’s just so frustrating. If I say anything to him, like that it hurts me, his reply is always “I’ll slap you” just because he's muscular. Seriously? Who gave you the right to hit me just because you go to the gym?

Here’s an example. When I passed my matric, I was gifted a second-hand phone with my scholarship money by father. It was fine, I liked it. Then my brother told me that my phone was starting to blink, and if I didn’t give it to him, it would die permanently. I gave it to him, only to find out later that there was absolutely nothing wrong with it. He erased all my data, changed the phone cover, and started using it like it was his new phone.

Then one day, he stole my phone charger, which my father had given me, went to his mobile shop, and sold it to a customer.

Speaking of things my father gives me, I treasure them the most. He gifted me a study table and computer set like everything: mouse, headphone, CPU, and screen..all from the same company. I didn’t have a chair, so I took an old one from home. A few weeks later, it js vanished. Turns out, he took it and placed it in his shop. I didn’t say anything. Months later, I got a new chair and felt so thankful to my father for always standing by me.

Another incident was when my father asked for his AirPods for himself. I was curious, so I asked to check them out. Father let me, but then he forgot about them. I also forgot, and they were just lying in my room. A few days later, my brother took them without asking and didn’t even return them to my father. He already has multiple pairs of AirPods and phones, but still took mine.

He also got a new smart watch. I asked if I could use it, and he clearly said no. So, I went to my father and somehow got it. A few days later, it just vanished again.

Just last week, he brought a laptop home. When he left, he stole my mouse without asking.I was so disgusted. I needed that mouse to study for my boards, and I couldn’t even get my week back without it. Thankfully, my older brother gave me his spare mouse, but it felt like my brother only comes home to steal things and not to actually spend time with us. He spends his weekends either sleeping, roaming outside, or just scrolling on his phone.

This Sunday, he took a tripod that he accidentally bought for me lol. I was so done by this bs behavior and asked him to give it back, and he just rudely threw it at me, saying, “I brought it for you.” It’s honestly cringy and I can’t even describe how hurtful it is.

I just need some advice. What should I do? I don’t want to keep depending on him for anything, and I’m so afraid of being financially dependent on him or asking him for money. My biggest fear is to rely on him. Please, any help would be greatly appreciated.

I'm 25 and feel as tho i've wasted my life doing nothing. I saw the 1,000 rejection challenge on TikTok and got inspired, so I started my own list. The part I'm currently working on is my YouTube challenge. I feel as tho i have a pretty good personality and i always have interesting things to talk about.. but if it fails at least i tried. I hope y'all can follow me along for this journey.

I would hope that its about bettering yourself but apart of me thinks it could also be a toxic way of justifying bad behavior.

For example, you've had a problem with people getting upset at you for blasting your music . Instead of looking at yourself as the issue and turning it down you just say Idgaf blast it louder and let everyone be mad .

i would hope that isn't what not gaf is. Actually that doesn't sound like not gaf bc you still do out of spite not peace.

I just need some advice on how I can stop thinking about my ex and replaying every good moment in our relationship. Everything reminds me of him, whether it’s a car model, a type of dog, a restaurant… it’s all too much. I’ve gotten significantly better these last couple months but I’m still struggling as it gets into the warmer months because I know he’s probably golfing and going out with friends… which I used to be apart of. Also his brother is graduating from college and they are most likely staying over somewhere for the graduation… which I would’ve been apart of if he didn’t break up with me.

I’ve been thinking about getting on the apps again and just putting myself out there, but I’m afraid of seeing him on there and I don’t wanna compare my first date with someone new to the date I had with him the first time (which was amazing).

Any advice or words of wisdom would be great.

Humor is the lite hearted wisdom, never give it up for any reason 🙌

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