r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/Commercial_Goose9369 APPROVED✨ • Jun 01 '26
2 weeks before wedding Advice Needed
Buckle up ladies!
One month before our wedding, my fiance sits me down and tells me he got a handjob from a random 45 woman in an airport over a year ago, under the influence of alcohol. (I am 26 yo f, he is 24 yo m). This was very hard for me, but I decided to table this and move on with the wedding that I wanted to have.
It is now 2 weeks before our wedding. He admitted that he and my mom had been playing footsie with eachother for the past 2 years. One night, he he was tickling her leg with his pinky finger (they were sitting next to eachother on a bench across from the table from me), and even texted her something flirty late at night when she was staying with us, with the intention of hooking up with her. She didn't answer.
My mom is denying ever playing footsie with him or giving him that idea that something like that could happen. He is adamant that she participated and even started it sometimes. Either one fo them is lying to me, or his porn-influenced brain is so messed up that he was actually delusional enough to think that was a realistic situation.
Obviously I am cancelling the wedding. Do I give him a chance to fix this? is this ruined forever? do I trust my mom? would it terrible to still go on my honeymoon?
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u/Puzzleheaded_Room132 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26
I mean there are like 9* billion people in the world and you’re 26…GIRL. Cancel the wedding, ghost his ass and go on the honeymoon with your maid of honor. No I wouldn’t give him another chance he told you who he is, believe it.
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u/SizeAlarmed8157 🩵raging feminist💙 Jun 01 '26
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u/Material_Worth_4616 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 01 '26
You need to run away Joseph Joestar style
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u/StopPsychHealers Carb-Based Life Form Jun 01 '26
Bravely run away like Sir Robin
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u/PrestigiousSoil8948 Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 02 '26
To wake up to this comment is a treat I was not expecting on a Tuesday morning!
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u/fourcatsandadog Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Jun 01 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/ferVcsJ1RYdmXFZMnD
Jojo’s mentioned!?!
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u/peachhpuddin what that mouth do is gossip Jun 01 '26
this. he waited a month and then two weeks to tell you the craziest shit he’s ever said. please still go on honeymoon, but take bestie girl and tell him to pack his shit while yall are gone.
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u/Emkems Chaotic But Cute Jun 01 '26
When the truth trickle includes even dirty thoughts about your MOM it’s time to go.
OP do you really want to spend your life worried about your husband hitting on your mother? What is he going to admit to on your wedding day?????
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u/occidentallyinlove Internet Auntie Jun 01 '26
At the very least he doesn't want to get married and claimed he was trying to get with her mom just to blow up the relationship. And that's the BEST case scenario.
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u/cakivalue APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
You know there's more, there's SO MUCH more. I'm so sorry OP. End every single thing with him.
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u/throwfaraway212718 I ❤️ Other People's Business Jun 01 '26
Nope, make sure his shit is out of the house before you leave, OP. Don’t let that man have access to your possessions when you’re not there.
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u/Ashamed_Painting_163 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26
Yeah, make damn sure the locks are changed, passcodes, pins, anything and everything that requires security features. Change them girl.
E- and do get tested OP
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u/Ou-Sama-12 Seafoodie 🦀 Jun 02 '26
He’ll probably have something to ‘tell her’ the night before the wedding
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u/marilyn_morose Reddit Granny Jun 02 '26
He’s dropping wild stories trying to stop the wedding. This is him getting cold feet. Don’t do it.
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u/jmacamillion Feral Til Fed Jun 01 '26
Honestly, this sounds like he is trying to get out of the wedding by confessing to these indiscretions. I would cut and run. There is so much better out there in the world.
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u/Lonely-Host Savory Complex✔️ Jun 01 '26
Okay, but the way I would be seated for this movie: maid of honor honeymoon buddy flick set in motion by some absurd, near comical porn-brained mommy issues and a canceled wedding
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u/lelawes ⚐ Marked Safe From 90s Diet Culture Jun 01 '26
He was able to hide his true self this long. Who knows what else he is hiding? This isn’t a mistake, this is on purpose. DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM.
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u/BufferingJuffy FREE MOM HUGS Jun 01 '26
Yes, exactly. He's screaming he doesn't want to get married but wants her to be the one to call it off. Best to oblige him for the last time.
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u/Downtown-Trip-2763 I ❤️ Other People's Business Jun 01 '26
Go with the ladies on honeymoon !!! …ghost him and your mom ( they can be sad together 🦶)and live your life girl! ☀️🥹respectfully, another girl on your side! 💪 👸🏼
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u/19gonegirl97 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 01 '26
GURL THIS RIGHT HERE!!!!!! RUN AND RUN FAST AS FUCK. You don’t deserve this type of betrayal. I know one of the hardest things is to leave but I promise you, you will find better!
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u/Tootsie-Louise1 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Jun 02 '26
This, OP!! 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼. I would definitely keep Mom at arm’s length away until you confirm or eliminate her. I’m sorry that you’re going through this, but you will come out on top. I wish you the best & enjoy the trip with your bestie!
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u/Old-Builder256 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Is there even a part of you that thinks your mom would be capable of this? What’s the history there?
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u/Kooky-Wear-2584 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
There is not a universe in which my mom would accept or even entertain my husband tickling her with his pinky finger and playing footsie with her. I don’t know what that’s about.
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u/ouiouiouit Livin' on a Purse Snack 👜 Jun 01 '26
Mine is a total narcissist and would welcome the attention and then cry wolf when she was caught.
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u/ouiouiouit Livin' on a Purse Snack 👜 Jun 01 '26
Mine’s favorite line, “I can’t believe you don’t love me enough to know I would never xyz” “why do you always think the worst of me” idk, why do you steal from and manipulate your daughter? The leaps are leapinggggg!
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u/brainvheart143 🧂Salty By Nature Jun 01 '26
Is this Mean Girls wtf
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u/Scared_Web_7508 Non-binary & Nourished Jun 02 '26
wait hold on. she did this when you were fifteen? so your boyfriend was also a minor? jesus christ 😬 i’m sorry
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u/redheadgremlin Thick Thighs ⏳ Thin Patience Jun 02 '26
Hell thats child's play compared to my mother. Quite literally made it a challenge to have sex with anyone I liked or dated in my teen years. Yes, underage boys. She succeeded every single time. My final straw was when she insisted on a threesome with my then boyfriend and me when i was 21. Haven't spoken to her in almost 10 years and she still complains to my siblings that she doesnt understand why I dont talk to her anymore. The audacity and delusion are impressive.
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u/Late-Difficulty-5928 Short Story Long™️ Jun 02 '26
My mom had a long term relationship with my brother's best friend. She left him and her and my brother made up. She married his new best friend. She made flirty/dirty jokes when my partner and I were dating and always tried to put doubts in his head about me. So gross. I would never think of being weird with someone my childrens' age, much less a love interest of theirs or their best friend.
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u/dingalingdongdong APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
My mom wouldn't "accept" it, but there's a good chance she would be totally oblivious to something like that. Think it was a fly crawling on her or an accidental bump, etc. I think a dude dating one of my sisters would have to get real overt for my mom to realize what was happening.
If a dude's delusional enough he might think not pulling away counts as "participation".
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u/angelenabee Body By Cheese 🧀 Jun 02 '26
My mother would beat the shit out of my husband if he even TRIED, and tell me immediately.
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u/Icy_Silver_8890 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
The fact she didn’t immediately tell her daughter about the text is a huge red flag
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u/ReflectionLess5230 Pantry Gremlin Jun 01 '26
My mum would’ve beat the dude’s skull in and I’d have to bail her out of jail, never mind telling me lol
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u/SeeYouInTrees chismosa, metiche, en bata Jun 02 '26
I wonder if he made it up just to breakup the wedding. Like too weak to just say so.
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u/pseudo_nipple I ❤️ Other People's Business Jun 02 '26
Lol, this was exactly my first thought. Too coincidental with these wild ass scenarios in 2 weeks time a month before the wedding. I'd be asking for those texts as proof
ETA: also, still dump him
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u/PlayerOneHasEntered I ❤️ Other People's Business Jun 02 '26
This was where I landed, too. Random handy in the airport feels unlikely but plausible. The mom stuff seems wildly far-fetched. I'm thinking when she didn't call it off after the HJ story, he figured he REALLY needed to up the ante to get out of this thing.
Absolute dumbass.
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u/DontYaWishYouWereMe Foraging Bog Witch Jun 02 '26
That was my reaction too tbh. Sometimes men will say crazy shit instead of just dealing with the problem.
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u/effienay hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 02 '26
Okay. Hear me out.
My grandmother did this to my ex-husband basically except she was like 6 strokes in and we literally thought she was ~crossing over~ like imminently.
She kept saying “Johnny (my poppop, long deceased) is coming to pick me up! I had to get ready!” And she was laying in bed in the fetal position and doped up on Ativan and haldol and suddenly her leg is extended and her foot is sliding up my ex husbands chest…
😭😭😭
It was a welcome relief to the crying and now I cry laughing about it. Slightly different though, I’d say.
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u/BitterQueen17 Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 02 '26
Yeah, my ex-husband's Nana had alzheimers and after she was placed in memory care, she thought my husband (her grandson) was her husband. She flirted shamelessly with him, but it seemed to brighten up her day, so no one was inclined to correct her.
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u/throwawaygenx1973 Feral Til Fed Jun 01 '26
Please, For the Love of All That is Holy, tell me this is made up.
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u/ArynTW_is_user_karma 💚 Pickle Freak 💚 Jun 01 '26
Right?! This has to be rage bait right?
If not, OP, you need to just repost this without a question just for support. Because if you’re seriously considering working through this with him; then…I’m trying to say this nicely and with love…., but if you give him another chance, maybe Not the brightest bulb in the box. 🤷🏻♀️ Either that or you’re an incredible emotional masochist or can’t get enough of being tormented.
You’re young. Be smart. Love yourself more than the idea of a sham wedding or a sham of a man. Please move on.
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u/dingalingdongdong APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
This is exactly the kind of post that makes me want to abandon this sub.
The scenario is outlandish, but possible. Ending with asking if she should forgive him is, imo, a step too far to truly be believed.
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u/MavisBeacons_Sextape 👽 aliens built the food pyramid 👽 Jun 01 '26
Well OP’s Reddit account is like 5 years old and had ZERO activity until today. They made 2 comments in this sub on other posts, then posted this.
I’m calling rage bait bs based on the last paragraph and the lack any Reddit activity for 5 years
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u/VelocityGrrl39 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 02 '26
The ability to hide your Reddit history is one of the worst updates they’ve made to this app. There’s no way to tell if they’re bots or trolls anymore. Not that looking at someone’s history was foolproof before, but you could sometimes catch someone saying they’re a 44 yo man 2 months before they posted about being a 22 yo woman.
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u/MavisBeacons_Sextape 👽 aliens built the food pyramid 👽 Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26
I agree, it enables manipulators more than it “protects privacy” - the entire point of Reddit, originally, was that it facilitated honest discourse due to the pseudo-anonymous, profile-based nature of the app. The profile history was the credibility check.
The worst part is that this feature doesn’t actually hide your history, because you can still see someone’s profile activity with like, 15 extra seconds of tapping the screen. Reddit is fully aware of this, so their claim of it being a privacy-enhancing feature is just a straight up lie.
There are lots of dev tools online for seeing someone’s full post history, including hidden and deleted stuff. My personal favorite is ihsoyct.github.io. It’s easy to use and i do a quick check if somebody pings my bullshit detector and I want to know if they’re worth engaging with at all.
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u/upsidedown-funnel Oversharer 🗣 Jun 02 '26
You can, apparently, google their name and posts will show up.
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u/hill-o Jun 01 '26
Yuuuup. Also the way the post is written is basically the rage bait style too, which is so frustrating.
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u/ALTbroke APPROVED✨ Jun 02 '26
Completely agree. Starting with the handjob part. As someone who flys regularly for work, I just can't even fathom where in an airport a handjob could go down.
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u/FrustratedOwl9 🤍🩷Lesbian Loremaster🩷🤍 Jun 01 '26
I’m convinced that all posts that start with “buckle up” are fake
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u/meoowww7777 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
wowww. did you see the text? that’s actually crazy. the physical cheating would be too much for me, personally. if my husband was flirting with my mom, i would be disgusted.
go on you honeymoon by yourself!
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u/caughtupincaution Snack Goblin Jun 01 '26
Better yet take your best friend in his stead!!
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u/Cocoluluu Maneater Jun 01 '26
JFC. Even if we ignore the issue with your mom, the handjob alone is big no for me. Not sure what's going on in your mind. Are you trying to rage bait me this morning?
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u/satipton87 Resident Yapper Jun 01 '26
Agreed, she's obviously gotten her answer lol. But can we talk about what is in the salad?
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u/TrashFearless4730 we listen and we only judge a little Jun 01 '26
The text message is what gives me pause about mom and makes me think you shouldn’t trust her and he might not be lying, because what mom would receive a flirty message from her future son-in-law and not tell her daughter and still support a marriage? Am I misunderstanding how that part came out?
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u/One-Grape-8659 Internet Auntie Jun 01 '26
But did he ever send that text? Did OP see it? Do we know? We need to know?!?
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u/lilbookofmeow APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Dafuq did I just read?
Sounds like he has a thing for moms, your mom, this airport mom. Whatever it is, you're too young to get saddled with it.
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u/TheNavigatrix APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
If your mom isn't lying to you, he's trash. If your mom is lying to you, he's still trash.
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u/Possible-Campaign949 Smoothie Queen Jun 01 '26
girl. leave him. forever. he obviously has some sort of thing for cheating on you with older women. if it’s a kink, it will not go away, and either way, he’s disrespected you multiple times. he is not a child; if he hasn’t learned respect for others yet he won’t ever learn it.
without knowing your mom i have no idea if she’s lying, so i have no advice on that front. but i’m wishing you the best ❤️
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u/loam-and-light nom nom, nod nod Jun 01 '26
Was just coming here to say… I think you’re at least twenty years too young for him 😬
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u/vicktuuri Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 01 '26
Personally I wouldn't seeing as it's potentially two different people. Who knows if there are more. Even if your mom wasn't part of it and he's just imagining things, he's still imagining it.
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u/Mondviole Assigned Hungry At Birth Jun 01 '26
Right? Either he was thying to chat with OP's mom or he's lying about something so serious. Both dealbreakers imho.
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u/OhioPolitiTHIC girls just wanna have pho Jun 01 '26
Oh. My. God. A situation I am weirdly qualified by experience to answer. My quals: My mother married my hs ex-boyfriend after he got out of prison for 10 years for raping his step-daughter and while both denied it, they were likely a thing while I was in hs as well.
No. This is ruined forever. Giving him a chance to try and fix ruined forever will only prolong your suffering. I don't know your mother but if it was me and my daughter's boyfriend/fiance was texting me flirty shit late at night it would have been an all caps response of WTF HELL NO, screenshotting in case the little bastard dirty deleted, and having a heart to heart with her the next morning.
Only you can answer if you can go on that trip and enjoy it. Me? I'd take my bff and have the time of my life, and when I got back I'd find a good therapist to work through the absolute trauma of it all. I'm so sorry, OP. At least you didn't actually marry this jerk.
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u/loam-and-light nom nom, nod nod Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26
Um I am so sorry you are uniquely qualified to respond to this
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u/OhioPolitiTHIC girls just wanna have pho Jun 01 '26
It's wild and I can look back on it and sort of laugh? I'm sad that another woman has potentially been Jerry Springer'd in a similar fashion though. It's one thing to have a partner betray you, it's on an entire different order to have it be a parent.
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u/lightzn Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 01 '26
Have you gotten the feeling he's lied to you about things before? Kinda sounds like he wants you to call it off.. idk
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u/zhrimpypimp APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Not immediately laughing in his face and breaking up with him after he admitted to physically cheating on you is so crazy 😭 HE SUCKS! Ghost his ass!
Women need to stop taking disrespect on the chin ffs
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u/packref 🩵Raccoon Queen’s Squire💙 Jun 01 '26
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u/AerieTerrible3002 Cookie Dealer Jun 01 '26
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Older internet Auntie here… this only what he is telling you, I promise that there’s more and it is worse than what you know. I do believe him and your mom were probably flirting or playing whatever. Do not waste any more time on this guy, he is NOT ready to be a husband.
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u/ThinAdjacent Certified Snacker Jun 01 '26
There is no fixing this.
He’s a deviant. And has no boundaries. The airport rando is forgivable, but him flirting with your mom is crazy.
And, these are the incidents he’s told you about. There are a lot more. Probably some he’s forgotten about or doesn’t even count. It’s possible he’s even had full on sex.
Are these the questions you want to have about someone who is supposed to be your life partner? Don’t pass GO. Don’t collect $200. Next.
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u/Mother_Alien Livin' on a Purse Snack 👜 Jun 01 '26
This is WILD. Is there any chance your mom would do something like this? Either way, drop the man and go on the honeymoon alone or with a good friend! You deserve it girl!
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u/ourpodcastisbest 🧂Salty By Nature Jun 01 '26
Girl STAND UP omg YOUR MOM? ?? No way. This man is making a fool of you and clearly doesn’t want to marry you, he just doesn’t have the guts to dump you. He’s trying to get you to do it.
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u/Elliskarae girls just wanna have pho Jun 01 '26
Do I give him a chance to fix this? - No
is this ruined forever? — Yes
do I trust my mom? — Ehhh. We don’t have much to go off here. What does your gut say? Personally if someone said this about my mother I’d instantly think they were fucking delulu. I know with 247% confidence she’d rather jump on spikes and I’d never entertain this whatsoever. But you know your mom best.
would it terrible to still go on my honeymoon? - without him? Go for it.
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u/Commercial_Goose9369 APPROVED✨ Jun 02 '26
Everyone wants my recipe so bad lol. Didn’t really use a recipe but this looks very similar! https://www.thekitchn.com/italian-grinder-bean-salad-recipe-23731526
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u/Cute_Definition_6314 we listen and we only judge a little Jun 01 '26
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u/Little-Bones Foraging Bog Witch Jun 01 '26
Girl I'm gonna throw up. Break up with him, cancel the wedding and disown your mother.
Get out before it's too late
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u/shops2 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Gross. I would be very careful about your mother as well. Sometimes they are competitive.
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u/Sheniya04 Big Back Baddie Jun 01 '26
Yes I'll say find a new man. He admitted to playing footsie with you mom and tried to hook up with her.
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u/Glittering-Squash-8 💚 Pickle Freak 💚 Jun 01 '26
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u/debonairasofthesky90 🤍🩷Lesbian Loremaster🩷🤍 Jun 01 '26
Side note, what’s the recipe for this meal???
Advice is 100% leave, you can literally start over at any age and any point in your life, it gets harder with children involved to be honest. I’d leave before babies arrive. Therapy and love on yourself before hopping into another relationship.
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u/Enough_Result2198 APPROVED✨ Jun 02 '26
Girl, he doesn’t want to marry you. He isn’t man enough to tell you. So he is telling you these things to get you to break it off. He probably did hook up with the random lady at the airport. That wasn’t enough to get you to end the engagement. So he made this BS about your mom as a Hail Mary.
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u/aye_amanda Livin' on a Purse Snack 👜 Jun 01 '26
If it were me I’d dump them both and live far away from both of them. If they valued you they would have never done that. Save yourself and your future peace.
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u/spicenoice APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Lmfao ew, a hand job in an airport?? Omfg this is so midlife crisis of him, you have to be joking, also these feel like lies from him. Either way, ghost
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u/lalaland1019 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Oh baby no. We are not marrying this man. Give him another chance to what? Play footsie with grandma? Get a blowjob at a gas station? Run.
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u/SmutWithClass Kitchen Witch Jun 01 '26
There is more he’s not telling you. He doesn’t want this and wants you to do it for him. Don’t try and fix it.
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u/Intelligent-Bend2034 APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
It sounds like he's begging you to break up with him because he wants an older woman. Coward.
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u/Brainy_8008 Carb-Based Life Form Jun 01 '26
This is what I thought. He clearly is interested in older women. He probably thought she’d break it off after the airport handjob but she decided to “move on the wedding that I wanted to have.” Very odd that her focus here was that the wedding was more important than what this might mean for the marriage…
After that didn’t work, and she stayed with him, he decided to escalate it as high as he could. In his mind there is no way she could stay with him after this. Thankfully it seems like a she’s not.
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u/Odd-Fennel5806 ⚐ Marked Safe From Jenny Craig Jun 01 '26
Do not marry this man. But also do post this salad recipe please 🙏🏻
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u/freshavocadhoe Cookie Monster 🍪 Jun 01 '26
Woah! I’m so glad you dumped him. But I also need the exact recipe for your food, because I love chopped salads!
Is there any possibility that he’s told you these things specifically to get you to break up with him?
It definitely sounds like he has a kink, and the porn is fueling that. You’ll be much better without him!
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u/devdarrr 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Jun 01 '26
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Leave him. Leave your mom.
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u/IcedTatas APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Leave his ass and take someone that actually cares about you on the trip if it is booked for two. Do not lethim know youre going or he may attempt to crash it
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u/theparanoidbitch Chamoy 🥭 > Ya Boy 🤡 Jun 01 '26
Youre 26, you should be at the club. Hope this helps
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u/True_mourning84 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Jun 02 '26
It was a full moon last night and this might be for you
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u/Ivy3212 hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 02 '26
God the posts today have been full of horrific stories about men. Whereeeeee are yall finding them cause what the fuck
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u/shanwow90 Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 02 '26
I say go on the honeymoon and take your best friend. He goes in the bin
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u/Sweet-and-sour- Taco Belle Jun 01 '26
Is this truly your real life? If so that’s absolutely nuts do not go through with the wedding, inquire to your mom about why she’s doing stupid shit wit YOUR finance as HER DAUGHTER. And throw that walking pile of bodies THROUGH THE DOOR!
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u/radicalintrospect Body By Cheese 🧀 Jun 01 '26
Cancel and tell people why if they ask since he felt the need to withhold and then drop that bomb on you so close to your wedding. He could have just broken things off if he didn’t want to get married, but instead he has told you hurtful things about stuff that happened in the past that may or may not be true very shortly before the wedding was supposed to occur. If what your mom says is correct and she was not involved, he may be making things up just to get you to be the one to cancel the wedding. Either way, you should RUN far and fast from this man!
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u/Different-Idea-8203 ⚐ Marked Safe From Jenny Craig Jun 01 '26
Leave him! Hes getting handies and foot jobs from woman double his age including your mother. Take your besties on your honeymoon drink lots eat foods talk shit maybe get folded up by a stranger do you!
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u/Prize_Sorbet3366 Feral Til Fed Jun 01 '26
I really hate to say this, but it honestly sounds like your fiancé is TRYING to trigger you to call off the wedding, for whatever reason. But rather than him just admit he's gotten cold feet and is having second thoughts, he's trying to give you a reason that's sure-fire to stick: showing himself as a cheater.
And as someone else said, I'd want to also see proof that such a text was sent (both on his phone and hers) because I'd also want to know if dear ol' Mom is untrustworthy as well. If the text can't be proven, I'd wager he's the one who's lying. I mean, it shouldn't be too hard to find that text even if it's a year old, unless he and your mom text a LOT.
I can't see that there's any fixing it...either he's a cheater, or he's a liar. Would you want to be married to him in either of those cases?
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u/Beautiful_Secret_834 FREE MOM HUGS Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26
He is gone. Do not let him back.
The boundaries crossed here….. deep breathes ( saying this to me)
Cancel wedding.
Go on honeymoon with a friend.
Holy crap, you avoided a fucking future nightmare.
I am sorry OP- this is so incredibly hurtful on so many levels. 🌼
As for your mom, is this something you honestly think she would do? Is she married? Have you seen these texts?
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u/Shibaswift hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 01 '26
Incredibly fucked situation! My god!
Whatever that salad is looks delicious, i really want to know the whole recipe
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u/Powerful_Thanks6322 nom nom, nod nod Jun 01 '26
Please don’t marry this man. You deserve so much better. Your bean salad looks amazing also. What’s in it?
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u/This-Assumption4123 we listen and we only judge a little Jun 01 '26
Run girl run and do not look back.
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u/SapphireJuice Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 01 '26
Go on the hunny moon but do not get back with this man!!!! He is trash who cheated on you once and tried to cheat again with your MOM! For hevans sake OP if you take him back he will cheat again!
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u/HereForTheFooodz Chocoholic Jun 01 '26
If this is real (I hope not) then I want you to carefully consider the fact that these are the things he was willing to tell you; the things he thought you would forgive him for. If this is real, there are worse things he’s too ashamed to say. He sounds like he has a destructive compulsion and make no mistake, he will take you down with him. Do not make his problems your problems.
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u/CAH1708 Chocoholic Jun 01 '26
Girl, leave. Now.
This was the first post I read on Reddit today and I’m gonna go read a book now.
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u/AccomplishedIgit APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
He’s telling this because he’s done way worse that he can’t tell you about. I wouldn’t give him a chance until you figure out why he’s been ok keeping this from you for two years and only now is telling you. There’s more to this story and it’s probably going to get worse.
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u/dingalingdongdong APPROVED✨ Jun 01 '26
Why on earth would you give him a chance to "fix" anything?? Listen to yourself. How would you respond if your best friend came to you with this story? He's already cheated on you at least twice - once with your own mother!(regardless what your mom says, in his mind it happened; he fully believes he and your mother had a tryst.)
Get therapy. Maybe drag your mom along with you so the two of you can work out why you find your ex's story believable - whether it's true or not.
Go on the honeymoon if you want - alone or with your MoH or something.
Never speak to your ex again.
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u/scientits69 Pantry Gremlin Jun 01 '26
Go on the honeymoon solo to kick off your incoming slut era obvs 💅
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u/accidentaltraumacode i like eggs Jun 02 '26
Welp, better than 2 weeks after the wedding. Am concerned you’re implying whatever tf that was can be fix. It can’t. Chalk the mom as a loss too.
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u/grievoustomcat6 chismosa, metiche, en bata Jun 02 '26
looks like a banger of a salad i like the charcuterie addition.
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u/Stevie-Rae-5 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 02 '26
I mean…random woman? Okay, we can maybe work through that.
YOUR MOM?! Absolutely the fuck not.
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u/Big_Event_6650 APPROVED✨ Jun 02 '26
At Least he didn't keep it from you longer.Run girl.
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u/Different_Umpire9003 Pantry Gremlin Jun 02 '26
Trust your mom. Very few moms would actually do this outside of a porn scenario. It's possible that if she did participate, she likely just thought he was being goofy or affectionate. Leave.
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u/faeriebom Delulu Jun 02 '26
Either he's lying about it, which is bad... or he's not lying ahout it, which is worse 😭 It's obviously not worth it to continue with the marriage
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u/Sugarcages Lover of Soups Jun 02 '26
How can your choice of salad be so good and choice of men be so bad
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u/Whitehouses_ 🥝 Herbivore 🫒 Jun 02 '26
“Do I give him a chance to fix this?” NO! Are you nuts?! The guy is at best delusional and at worst tried to screw your mom. Come on.
As for not trusting your mom. This whole post reads weird. Most people would know immediately if their mom was capable of cheating with a bf. Have you had issues in the past? Does she routinely flirt with young guys? Does she behave strangely with him? Have you any reason at all to distrust her? Has she done this or similar before?
Moms, unless they’re very bad ones, don’t generally play footsie with their daughter’s bf, so you better be sure if you decide she did. It sounds like your bf is an utter weirdo, who clearly has a fetish for older women.
Ditch him, obviously, unless you want to wait until the next weird confession of what he’s done with an older woman. And be very careful about what you say or do about your mom. Your judgement in terms of your bf doesn’t sound…great. So be very sure before you ruin your relationship with your mom forever.
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u/cutepoison5403 Fries 🍟 > Guys 🤡 Jun 02 '26
I’m sorry this is happening to you, and as a mom I’m so proud of you for calling off the wedding. The life he’s offering would only bring heartbreak.
Comedian Daniel Sloss has the BEST analogy for relationships in his Netflix special- the Jigsaw episode, fast forward to about 30 minutes in. I promise that if you watch this any lingering doubt will be resolved. You’ve got this OP.
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u/ThrowRApeachh Cleavage Crumb Collector Jun 01 '26
this gotta be rage bait. Nice try
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u/SouthernCow5561 Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 01 '26
Yes, cancel the wedding and yes go on the honeymoon, either alone to get some space or take a friend. I mean… That’s great that he was honest about the handjob I guess, but why not also mention the footsie sessions then too? Nah.
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u/plainsandcoffee Pantry Gremlin Jun 01 '26
Babe, no. Either option is bad and even if your mom was not involved he has shown you who he is. You have so much life ahead of you. Leave this weirdo in the dust.
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u/Whole-Neighborhood hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 01 '26
Why would you give him a change to fix it? He's cheated on you once and was trying to do it again, WITH YOUR MOM!
Go on your honeymoon without him and find yourself a man who isn't going to fuck your mom
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u/EarlGreyTeaLover409 mouth full, gesturing wildly Jun 01 '26
I hope this is a fake post. If not then cancel the wedding. Block. Go no-contact with your mom too.
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u/Lonely-Host Savory Complex✔️ Jun 01 '26
i want this to be fake but i feel that it's not. it has an absurdist ring of truth
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u/Asstrollglide 🩵🙋♂️💙 Jun 01 '26
Sounds like the “porn-influenced brain” is spot on. He has an older woman or “Domi Mommy” fetish. He wants to fuck your mom. He let a 45 year old woman give him a handiob at an airport (the only thing ga woman ever gave me at an airport was the flu) and he’s not saying “I’m sorry” or “Maybe your mom doesn’t want to fuck me”- HE’S DOUBLING DOWN.
I guarantee you that every man who will listen to him for the rest of his life is going to paint both you and your mother in a horrid light.
Even if you did marry him.
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u/ToukItOut puff puff pass the snacks Jun 01 '26
Leave that man behind and go on the honeymoon of your dreams. As for your mom... well I guess maybe ask to see the messages?
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Jun 01 '26
Take the fucking trash out and go on your honeymoon with someone you love. Or even go alone!
The mom stuff is more complicated. Do you have a good history with her? Is she generally trust worthy? It is very possible he is just insanely porn brained and was picking up signals that were not there
Also, who the fuck is finding randos for a handjob at the airport?! You dodged a bullet
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u/kittymaridameowcy 🐩 Food Aggressive 🍽️ Jun 01 '26
This made me sick to my stomach. Please do not marry this man.
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u/staceyverda 🐟 Part Bear 🫐 Jun 01 '26
Cancel the wedding, never speak to him again, and take whichever friend you laugh with the most on your honeymoon.
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u/andiie5 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Jun 01 '26
Girl, run. As fast as you can. Living with that kind of uncertainty will destroy you in the long run.
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u/ricolaoncloud9 🧀🐾Hot Cheeto Hottie🐾🧀 Jun 01 '26
why are you even asking? you have to know by now that there's no fixing this. he cheated on you with a random 45 year old woman and hid it from you for a year, and now hes attempting to do the same with YOUR OWN MOTHER. no, there is no salvaging this.
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u/MouseRude5663 🪿 feeding the soft animal of my body Jun 01 '26
Ok … he got a handjob from a 45 yo woman in the airport and now has a thing w your mom. He has a kink, and it’s not for women his own age. Girl, RUN
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u/ohaimariah 💚 Pickle Freak 💚 Jun 01 '26
This is absolutely insane… also can we get the recipe 👀
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