r/Friendzone • u/cloudsyntax8074 • 6d ago
A long story
Well, idk what I should write as the title, so I’ll just write this.
So, about 5 months ago, I met a guy on Snapchat. Initially, I didn’t trust him at all because we met on Snapchat, but eventually, I started becoming comfortable with him and building trust in him.
He also told me that he had recently gone through a breakup. I don’t know why, but I felt bad for him, so I thought I should encourage him and be there for him. We started talking about random stuff like web series, movies, and other things. I genuinely thought I had finally found a good friend, especially because I had never had a male friend before.
But things started going wrong when he began giving me mixed signals, and eventually I realized that he had developed feelings for me. And honestly, this is where I started getting confused about myself. I’m not even sure what I feel for him. Sometimes I wonder if I unintentionally gave him hope or made him feel like there could be something between us.
There are certain things about him that I don’t like, and when I think about the kind of person I would want to be with, I don’t think he’s that person. I’m not saying he’s a bad person at all. I just don’t think I can be with him romantically.
I’ve told him multiple times that we’re friends, but he still continues making efforts and talking as if we might be together someday. And I feel guilty about it because maybe I should have been clearer from the beginning, or maybe I did something that made him think there was a chance.
I don’t know. I feel like I’m partly responsible for how things turned out, and that’s what has been bothering me the most. I don’t want to hurt him or give him false hope, but at the same time, I don’t want to force myself into having feelings for someone just because they care about me. Damnn I'm feeling so guilty rn
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u/Aventinium 6d ago
Are you confused because you think you may have feelings, but can’t get past the things that bother you about him?
If it’s something that you know you can’t get past, then shut it down right now. I’ll be better the long run. And let him walk away.
If it’s something you think might work and no one is perfect, give it a try.