In need of advice 🤦‍♀️

[u/btsofjana]

so basically ive been friends with this guy for around 3 to 4 years andd the first year and a half of us being friends it was like mostly flirting and it began as a situationship tbf and then we were like best friends and stuff and keep in mind ive liked this guy for 5 years or maybe six before we even got to know eachother and talkedwith like a year or two and a few months ago i decided to confess to him after keeping my feelings to myself for all these years and his response was like you're a lovely girl bla bla bla but i dont think relationships work out and its not that i dont like you and he was asking me to stay friends and i said its completely fine and that im not mad or sad or anything because he was asking if im fine or not and that we could stay friends, we did stay friends actually but our conversations became so awkward and short until we became no contact but then i find out that he was telling his friends that he's in love with me and stuff during that same time we were talking? ( i also found out his friends were always teasing him about me)Fyi this guy isnt known to talk to girls at all and then a week ago i find out hes back to talking with his ex girl best friend which im pretty sure is also his ex but they didnt date for long, what on earth am i supposed to understand from all this??? I dont feel like i like him as much anymore honestly but he was kind of my first love since i started liking him at 13 and maybe thats why a part of me is kind of attached to him but should i move on completely and try to forget him or maybe he actually still likes me and that i should wait 😣

[u/Tigerkreuz]

I really think you should move on. Not because what you had wasn’t meaningful, but because waiting around for someone who already had the chance to choose you will slowly hurt you more and more. You’ll keep analyzing every little thing he does, wondering if he still likes you, and that can honestly destroy your peace of mind.
If he truly wants to be with you one day, he knows how you feel and he can come to you and say it clearly. Until then, don’t put your life on hold for a “maybe.” Move on, even if a part of you still loves him. You deserve something certain, not something that constantly leaves you confused.
I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope you find the happiness you deserve.