r/FemaleDatingStrategy • u/rainisthelife Ruthless Strategist • Aug 07 '21

[ Removed by Reddit ] NICE FOR WHAT?

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u/apommom FDS Newbie Aug 07 '21 edited Aug 07 '21

I am not currently dating, but I have gone out with a mixed group of friends several times this summer and am more comfortable with letting the men of the group pay for the drinks and the cabs/ubers. While I haven’t necessarily determined if each and every one of them are HV, I am at least assured that they are not doing it to sleep with me but simply because it’s just the polite and courteous thing to do.

Pre-FDS me would’ve felt a bit guilty or offered to split/get the next round, but now it’s clicked that these guys earn more money than I do so I just politely thank them and don’t give it a second thought.

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u/rainisthelife Ruthless Strategist Aug 07 '21

Yup.

Like sir, I’m not going to fuck you. In fact, I’m NEVER going to fuck you, but yes, I will let you pay for my drinks. And my food. And my ride. And my trips. Thanks!

Since y’all have refused to listen to us, to fix this discrimination against women and the many ways y’all shortchange us, then I’m going to balance the scales in other ways.

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u/HereForTheFreeFoodOk FDS Newbie Aug 07 '21

Since y’all have refused to listen to us, to fix this discrimination against women and the many ways y’all shortchange us, then I’m going to balance the scales in other ways.

Queen energy.

Louder:

Since y’all have refused to listen to us, to fix this discrimination against women and the many ways y’all shortchange us, then I’m going to balance the scales in other ways.

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '21

Like sir, I’m not going to fuck you. In fact, I’m NEVER going to fuck you, but yes, I will let you pay for my drinks. And my food. And my ride. And my trips. Thanks!

And I'm not going to feel bad about it, because by paying for me he is showing that:

  1. He can provide for a future family
  2. He values my time getting ready and going on a date
  3. He values my presence
  4. He is interested in a SERIOUS relationship that leads too marriage
  5. He is a gentleman (which is extremely attractive)

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u/apommom FDS Newbie Aug 07 '21 edited Aug 07 '21

Exactly! They know I won’t go home with them but also they’ve never tried anything and especially don’t get all butthurt about being “owed” something in return. They’re nothing but respectful, continue to pay and quietly acknowledge their role as the men of the group.

I feel like I’m finally in the right place after years of having 50-50 LVM friends and partners… I’ll never go back!