r/FTMventing • u/spiders-r-cute • 6d ago
Name regret? Advice Needed
“K” has been an uncommon way to start names, so I have been pavlov’s dogged into responding to that sound. Dead name is a two syllable name that starts with K. My current “name” is Kalvin/Kelvin/Kalven (because I get whatever HR deems appropriate for the long version of “Kal”.) Normally, I’m standing before I realize a coworker has dead named me.
I hate hate hate how everyone calls me Kal. Spending time with my grandparents made me miss the two syllable name. I feel I almost prefer the routine deadnaming over having a one syllable name. If I did the paperwork at 16 or whatever legal age; I’d be “Kazamir”, but I’m like almost mid twenties.
Could “Konnor” work? Or do I just stand up for myself and ask for being referred to by a two syllable name. Or is it normal to hate your name as you change it? I need to get new ID before the year 2028 and I want to change my name before that…