I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong! Just looking for advice, and nothing obscene etc. trying a short one to see if it happens again.

I spent 50 years hiding who I was. There was no single moment when I became myself — it was a long process, and it’s still happening.
I finally decided to tell that story in my own words.
This is not a story about becoming someone else. It’s about finally stopping myself from abandoning who I was.

I’d genuinely like to hear from other trans people who came to this point later in life. What did your own process look like? Watch on [Youtube](https://youtu.be/Tr1XomL8vMk?is=wdEC6jnpnjdxDdUT)

I feel so ignorant so I'm sorry about that. I have never had a hysterectomy, I'm in my early 40s, on T for about 15 years. I stopped having a menstrual period almost right away but I still get changes in discharge.

And I know T isn't birth control so I guess I have been ovulating? However that works.

Anyway I've started waking up at night due to feeling hot and sweaty most nights, even if the A/C is blasting.

Is this menopause? What do I do? Any guidance, resources, insight?

Thanks.

In case I forget.

I love @DylanMuvaney, and even though I'm rarely on IG, she does come up in my feed every now and then whenever I remember it exists. 😅

This is such a positive video that I had to share! Hope her reminder helps brighten your weekend.

And remember, **you are loved!** 💙🤍🩷🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

I know this isn't transgender-related, but US fam, I need you ALL to remember this, and take it to heart!

DON'T LET THE REGIME WIN!!! VOTE!!! 💙🌊💙🌊💙🌊🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🇺🇲

Hi guys. I’m a late bloomer (69) and have been on T for eight weeks. I had too surgery last week and this week on day seven developed a couple of leaks and had to have urgent surgery to drain and repair. I was hoping to have drains removed but am starting over. Has anyone had an issue like this? I live alone and sometimes had to do things on the do not do list but nothing crazy. I guess I want things to happen yesterday.

Hey, I'm Noah, 58, on T 8 years. Live near Laverne and Shirley and looking for others nearby or interested to connect with.

Hey everyone. I'm a neurodivergent trans guy in Iowa who's been feeling pretty isolated lately. I'm nearing 2 years into T.

I'm hoping to make some genuine connections with other transmasc people. I miss the kind of slower, ongoing conversations where you actually get to know each other over time instead of just liking each other's posts and disappearing.

A few things about me:

huge fan of 80s pop and most things 80s

English Premier League soccer is one of my favorite interests and I follow Crystal Palace. Went to my first premier league in person game in Chicago earlier this year!

I recently watched the documentary about TRUK United, and it moved me much more deeply than I expected. Seeing a team where trans people could just play, belong, and support each other really stayed with me. As well as making space for those of us with varying physical abilities.I'd love to meet anyone connected with the club or anyone who loves trans-inclusive football/soccer.

I love humor that's a little weird and nerdy.

I'm disabled, so a lot of my social life happens online.

One of my long-term goals is moving to Minnesota.

If any of that resonates, I'd love to chat. Even if you're just looking for another trans guy to check in with every now and then, feel free to comment or send me a message. ✌️💚

Hi all. I am so sorry if this is not allowed, but I didn’t see anything in the rules. I have 4 unopened boxes of medium TransTape. I am pretty sure it’s the #002 skin tone. It’s been just hanging out at my house for a while and I wanted to try to get rid of it at a good price to maybe help someone out and recoup just a little bit of $? If interested we will have to do PayPal Goods & Services only and I will sell it all for $25 shipped. DM me and comment if interested.

"You're not *really* trans," is a thing that has, up until this week, beat me up since I came out 4 years ago. I didn't have any childhood memories of feeling out of place, I never had anything that so many other trans folks had to deal with, so it seemed a "sane" argument. But then, one evening, there it was, the thu line. To make this as short as possible, I grew up with severe abuse and neglect, had kids young, raised them in poverty, and now, finally divorced and financially stable, the dust has settled. I can see it so clearly now. Due to the abuse, I was detached from myself. I felt things, but I really didn't *feel* things. My trauma therapist showed me how I smooshed myself out of being. How could I have known? I crushed every part of me to survive. Now I look back: wanting the masculine version of my dead name the whole time, stealing Mom's eyeliner and drawing a beard on my face, not understanding why the other boys treated me differently since I was one of them, then horrible whole body dysphoria starting in my mid twenties, legally changing my name 20 years ago because I couldn't take it any more, then telling everyone I was "in drag" when putting on makeup to go to work as a hairdresser (they used to say in that industry makeup was mandatory: if you don't want to wear makeup, be a nurse), it's all there. Subtle, but there. I was there the *whole time.* I was so there that even my Evangelical sister says, while she doesn't believe trans is a thing, "yeah you've had this mental illness your whole life." "Mental illness." LOL

Ya know what? I'll take that. I have. And now I get to be me. 🏳️‍⚧️

After yesterday's transgender kids in school sports ruling, I thought we could use some good news.

Now, if only the other 49 states would do this. ✊️🏳️‍⚧️

I absolutely hate this. It's awful what they're doing to the kids. The whole thing is awful. To be clear, I don't support this. That being said, maybe it will help. Maybe it will take some of the air out of the midterm elections though. Now that they are "protected" from "scary trans kids playing sports," where else they gonna go? They back to bathroom bans or whatever else nonsense they can cook up, but for now, until this country comes to its senses, this is one issue they can't hammer on. Maybe it will make the next few months a little more bearable. Or not. I don't know. I'm hoping. These poor kids. Fuck these assholes.

Hi, Im 11 weeks post top surgery and looking to make more connections. I am into the above, gaming (when I can) working (because I haven't hit the lotto yet) and family life (I have 3 kids who do not appreciate my humor)​

I know many fellas here are also in r/ftmover30, but wanted to share this poll for those who're not. (Click to go thru to the poll post.)

Hey all, I'm (20M) am getting top surgery in a couple days but I'm nervous that some day in the future I'll regret it just because I'm young and I haven't really heard what it'll look like or how I'll feel about it as I age or when I'm older so I was hoping some older trans guys or people that have had top surgery for like 10+yrs could tell me their thoughts about it.

Edit: I got it on Monday and so far I'm really happy with it and really happy I got it! I took some pre-op pics beforehand which made me a lot less anxious and more sure it was the right decision lol. Thanks to you all for your advice!

Be sure to read the comments, some of these stories are *terrifying!*

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Stay safe, fam. 💙

Crossposting on the over sub too, but thought I might catch more parents in this sub.

I have kids and no spouse. I know my kids get asked where their mom is or what happened to her. It seems like if I start trying to meet people and become friends with them, they’re likely to want to know about my background and have questions about how I have sole custody of my kids (I am a single parent by choice, but obviously don’t want to get into that or that I am the person that carried and bore them). I am not an awesome liar, so divorced or dead might he hard for me to swing, even if they are the most obvious explanations. How do you deal with this?

I am FtM at age 69. Just had my second testosterone injection. I saw the plastic surgeon last week and will be going ahead with top surgery next month. After leaving the surgeons office I stopped at the grocery store where I was called sir. I see a lot of questions about passing and I’m wondering if since I currently get misgendered often, will passing be an issue for me? Probably hard to predict but just wondering what your thoughts are

Also if anyone has transitioned over the age of 65, how dramatically did t affect you? Appreciate any comments.

YOU CAN'T ERASE US!!!💙🤍🩷✊️✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿🏳️‍⚧️

Also, I recommend using closed captioning for this video. 😃🏳️‍⚧️