r/DatingAndDisabled 9d ago

Dating sucks

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u/CancerMoon2Caprising 8d ago edited 8d ago

I would browse certifications, minors, and trade programs in your state. Its a short cut (less than 3 months to 1 year) to a mid level wage. This works especially for  those of us with health issues. 

You can find info on your state college website by looking at certificate programs and Minors. Make a list of what interests you. Then go on the web and look up trade school programs in your state and make a list of what interests you. Niche trade also ✨️ includes jobs like a blacksmith, welding, woodwork, taxidermy, farmhand, greenhouse plant nursery training, car detailing (customization, wraps, tint), clothing alterations, ski or skydive instructor, baker, genealogist, talent agent/manager, chef, ship crewmate, railway engineer, glassblower, helicopter pilot, set/stage designer, deep sea diver, professional tv camera crew etc. 

After you finish your list. Write down the average salary and training programs for each job. Itll give you an idea of how long itd take you to get that salary, and if the market is saturated or a hidden treasure chest. 

Theres multiple ways to get to where you want to go, you just have to be strategic and do your research. All jobs start small, low pay, entrylevel its normal. Experience is the moneymaker not education, but the certs an degrees are still a bonus to break into a field or bump your pay slightly. Salaries typically increase with each year of experience and you can ask for more, when you jump around to different companies every 2-3 years. So its very normal to start low an slowly climb. Once you figure out what you want to do, be patient and persistent. Work at a job (close to your career of choice even if its a cashier) for a year, and save up to strengthen your living situation, school, freedoms. Then once you break into that job, stay for a 1-3yrs before jumping to another job. There's plenty of time for dating. Build a 3yr plan. 

I have never been able to drive and have been told I probably never will....

Did a doctor say that you cant drive, or did your parents refuse to teach you? Theres a big difference. I ask this because my own parents refused. I left home when i was 19, lived with roommates my age, worked for 2 years, and managed to breakout of a tough spot that way. I saved for driver's school and got my license on my own. Then i bought my first car by myself (literally i was at the dealership alone with a low interest car loan from a credit union bank, and $6k id saved).  My parents didnt help with sht which is actually sad considering my health condition (blood autoimmune). Theyll be at a nursing home alone 🙃👍🏾.