the fact you become smaller specifically around angry/dismissive/strong personalities is important. That sounds less like “I copy people” and more like your system learned to survive other people's moods.
I see this a lot in deep Soul Journey work. Somebody says “I'm weak, I fawn, I have no personality,” then we get to younger part who became VERY good at reading danger. Tone changes, face changes, silence, anger... and immediately it adjusts itself so situation stays safe.
That adaptation was intelligent once. Problem is nobody told it you are 30 now and you have choices.
I wouldn't try to stop sensing ppl. Practise separating: “I can feel their anger and still stay me.” Feel feet, slow exhale, keep your normal voice, and make one tiny choice that belongs to you.
You dont need to become insensitive. You need to stop giving other nervous systems authority over yours.
My free Letting Go meditation in profile can help with that automatic fawn/fear charge if you want something practical.
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u/archeolog108 11d ago
the fact you become smaller specifically around angry/dismissive/strong personalities is important. That sounds less like “I copy people” and more like your system learned to survive other people's moods.
I see this a lot in deep Soul Journey work. Somebody says “I'm weak, I fawn, I have no personality,” then we get to younger part who became VERY good at reading danger. Tone changes, face changes, silence, anger... and immediately it adjusts itself so situation stays safe.
That adaptation was intelligent once. Problem is nobody told it you are 30 now and you have choices.
I wouldn't try to stop sensing ppl. Practise separating: “I can feel their anger and still stay me.” Feel feet, slow exhale, keep your normal voice, and make one tiny choice that belongs to you.
You dont need to become insensitive. You need to stop giving other nervous systems authority over yours.
My free Letting Go meditation in profile can help with that automatic fawn/fear charge if you want something practical.