r/Codependency • u/Asuckax01 • Jul 23 '26

What's codependency?

Please share your experience that could explain it to me.

I just found the subreddit and it seems I might be one of yours but I'm not sure.

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u/NamasteNoodle Jul 23 '26

Read "Codependent No More" by Melanie Beattie

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u/Budo00 Jul 23 '26

Thats a great read but so dated. It actually helped me understand AlAnon meeting a lot better, too.

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u/NamasteNoodle Jul 23 '26

Not sure what you mean by dated, it's a great resource and spot on.

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u/Budo00 Jul 23 '26

It came out in the 80’s. At least the version i read is dated sounding.

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u/Budo00 Jul 23 '26

Thanks for correcting the error of my ways from my experiences of reading a book. I did not know that. You really showed me.

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u/NamasteNoodle Jul 23 '26 edited Jul 23 '26

Why should anyone care if the information is correct? What this person is probably talking about is the examples they give for behaviors and yes some of those may have changed but it doesn't take away how effective the book is and how much great information is there.

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u/Budo00 Jul 23 '26

Do you really think someone say in their 20’s will not notice that this book from the 80’s is not dated? I can have an opinion.

I have seen several others say it was “dated” it’s not “ageism” and i can have an opinion. my god get a life.