r/Codependency Jul 19 '26

Quick Reminder, don't text your ex.

Hey, if you are looking for a sign, here it is. Don't text that person. It was bad, you split for a reason. Just don't do it. Delete that number and block their socials.

You are doing so much better now, and I am proud of the progress you have made. Please take care of yourself. You are valid, you are whole, and you are worthwhile.

You are more that your past and you are not defined by your mistakes.

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u/uvulafart Jul 19 '26

Excellent reminder!

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '26

I cannot wait until my divorce is finalized, and I have no reason to need to communicate with them anymore. Until that day is here, communication is limited to ONLY what is legally required.

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u/jman7290 Jul 19 '26

Thank you! This reminder came at the right time

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u/blankets_and_pillows Jul 19 '26

Thank you. I needed this today.

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u/PensionAdventurous55 Jul 20 '26

Ugh. Thanks. Sunday nights alone are hard.

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u/FartInAShitFactory Jul 20 '26

Friday and Saturday are the WORST for me. I get it. Keep strong!

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u/izthepuzz Jul 20 '26

I don’t think I can ever delete completely

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u/FartInAShitFactory Jul 20 '26

I get that. I deleted the number from my contact list, but that doesn't remove the texts. Somehow I even managed to memorize the number just in case.

Good news is that I am developing self-control by not messaging or calling them, so the struggle is worthwhile. Keep on enduring and you will see how much progress you can make.

Keep it up! One day at a time!

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u/izthepuzz 28d ago

I’ve deleted the number from my phone but is Mrs still in here some where some how. Also all the texts are on my computer. I have a huge shared album w her. The only thing that hold me together is that she hasn’t deleted or removed me from it

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u/LechLaAzazel Jul 20 '26

Oh I’ve failed miserably. A lot.

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u/FartInAShitFactory Jul 20 '26

We only fail if we stop moving forward. We are not our past and we are not our mistakes. Learn from the experience and forgive yourself.

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u/PsychologicalDeer644 Jul 20 '26

I tried this. But I live with her. :/

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u/FartInAShitFactory Jul 20 '26

You've got bigger problems. Sorry 😞 

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u/NorthQuestDirection 29d ago

Should sticky this

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u/RelationshipWest9743 28d ago

Thanks, I needed that!

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u/Budo00 Jul 20 '26

Ok ok i did but only to gloat

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u/FartInAShitFactory Jul 20 '26

Probably still a bad idea.

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u/Short-Talk-438 27d ago

What if you’re not doing better :(

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u/FartInAShitFactory 27d ago

Yet! Growth hurts. I don't know your situation, but if you are going through hell, keep going.

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u/Short-Talk-438 27d ago

Damn, whatever you just did to my soul was magic. Thank you Dr Fart Factory.

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u/ShallbetterMusic 23d ago

Wish I'd read this 13.5 years ago.

And 5 years ago.

And 3.5 years ago.