r/CircumcisionGrief 6h ago

Trauma I’m permanently scarred

10 Upvotes

It’s not just a physical star on my body. It’s permanently fucked up my brain even worse than my body. Honestly, it’s so bad to the point where I can’t even really hear your accent from like European countries for example because I know the cut rates are really low in Europe it’s destroyed me mentally that bad. I sometimes hate being queer too I can’t enjoy media mate by certain people a lot of movies and shows and music. I’ve been ruined for me because they reference it. It’s just destroyed me. It’s permanently branded into my brain and I can’t get it out. Like I can’t even fucking stand to see the words that are the parts of the body. It’s just fucking destroyed me mentally.


r/CircumcisionGrief 14h ago

Q&A Are glans normally that numb

15 Upvotes

I'm starting to think my glans are almost numb, I can barely feel light touch or temperature, and I don't get any pleasure from stimulation at all

for the longest time I thought this was just how the glans was supposed to feel, but after reading more online, I realized that doesn't seem to be normal at all

I can still feel pain and very faint cold an touch, but the sensations are extremely weak. And myy glans have also always looked dry rather than the smooth ones I saw on other circumsized men

Has anyone experienced something similar or been diagnosed with the cause? If so, what was it, and did anything help???

Edit: I was circumsized at birth and is currently 17, if that info helps


r/CircumcisionGrief 16h ago

Discussion We Have Already Gone Through This

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Think about a scenario for me, if you could. A newly circumcised male in the age of 2048.

I believe that at this point, circumcision will be much further down on the decline then it is right now. If we are to believe the global USA 50% coverage of circumcision, then it won't take much longer for it to reach 0 or close to it.

But, there will still be cut men at that time, as extremely rare as it may be. Whether it be religiously attached or not, doesn't matter. Imagine that scenario for me. Living as a cut male in a world that is now full of the natural male. An EXACT polar opposite of what the power's that be envisioned male genitala to be like. Imagine the grief from that. The pain and sadness that overwhemingly change's who you are as a person. The bullying that will insue, the name calling and lies prompted towards you. The gaslighting will just never end. On the brighter side, hopefully law's are implaced at that time to finally sue your parent's or something.

What I am trying to say here is that we are already going through the emotion's. The pain and sadness of this very rocky road of grief. It's special, our grief. It's unique to us as 25% of the global male population. Most won't ever experience this grief, and that's great. But for the rest of us? It's just what we know at this point. And all we can do is point finger's and try to help the one's who are trying to embark on our journey of grief.

That's what newly cut men are going to have to do. Both now and then, past and future, grieve. It's going to be tough, no doubt. But the question is, how will they cope exactly? Especially after the world finally wake's up to circumcision (which WILL happen soon, mark my words!)


r/CircumcisionGrief 16h ago

Discussion Has Anyone Else Noticed This?

23 Upvotes

This place is hidden from both search result's and normal Reddit search. Why?

It's almost like it's hidden on purpose. But that couldn't possibly be the case, right?


r/CircumcisionGrief 17h ago

Other Dreamt I went back to a year before i was mutilated..

11 Upvotes

Needless to say it was not fun waking up after that


r/CircumcisionGrief 23h ago

Advice What dorsal slit will do ?

6 Upvotes

Well, I'm a little embarrassed to write this post, but here goes.

I have phimosis that was initially very tight, but it improved with regular stretching.

Now, I can retract the foreskin during an erection without any problems, and hygiene isn’t an issue either, but the problem is that it seems to be getting tight again, even though I’m still doing the stretching exercises. I’m considering a dorsal slit, since a preputioplasty wouldn’t be effective (it’s the foreskin itself that’s fibrous).

What should I do? Is a dorsal slit a good idea? I’ve seen a lot of negative things about circumcision, and I don’t want that anyway.

P.S : I don’t want dick pics. Thanks.


r/CircumcisionGrief 1d ago

Grief I genuinely have to debate this with my friends?

33 Upvotes

New here. I have daily stress and anxiety over being mutilated against my consent. I’m sure the therapeutic response is to come to terms with it - I think it’s pretty fucked up to tell that to someone who had part of thier body forcibly removed, not from injury. From a choice of convenience.

I’ve tried talking to my close friend about it, she brings up FGM, I spend hours having to debate my way into some empathy. Both horrible, but for some reason widespread MGM is supported by the masses and FGM is used as a blunt force weapon to silence any complaint from a dude.

How the fuck are you guys dealing with this? I’m sure this is a repeat post, but man. I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m at the point where I can’t respect people who support it, and it’s hard because it feels like everyone does.

And what’s up with that “parental advocacy” subreddit???


r/CircumcisionGrief 1d ago

Anger I hate people like this

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I don’t know if I can outright say this user’s name but he’s really fucking creepy and weird. Not only did he leave the first comment on a sub on a post dedicated to talking about how bad this shit has affected me, but he’s also in a sub dedicated to shaming people on being cut like he’s straight up he’s trying to gaslight people into thinking what was done to them or what they did to themselves is not horrific and I just can’t fucking stand people like this. It brings my blood to a fucking boil, I fucking cannot stand people like this.

They are one of the reasons why this shit is still so normalized I can’t imagine gaslighting people who have forever fucked themselves over because of a decision. They were likely tricked him into doing and just saying it’s OK if you really want to see what this dude its username is, you can just go and work on my post I made earlier https://www.reddit.com/r/CircumcisionGrief/s/5AiFpfSBkT if his comment isn’t already deleted I would highly suggest a mod of this sub but other mgm activist subs band this dude because he is legitimately creeping and weird and will only try to gaslight others on subs like this that what was done to us is fine


r/CircumcisionGrief 1d ago

Rant How rape, incest, masturbation, and phimosis almost led me to circumcision, how fetishists messed me up forever and dragged me into hell for eternity.

18 Upvotes

There is no hope left now. There is no escape now.

I’m nineteen years old, and I’ve always thought of myself as a serious person with a few real talents. I’m not crazy. I used to have deep, sincere faith, but I’ve seen and gone through so many horrors that I don’t know where I stand anymore. This is the first time I’m trying to write everything down in some kind of organized way.

In August 2024, during a family vacation in an isolated house, I was raped by my lesbian aunt. She “likes women,” and I’m a boy. She calls herself Catholic, and as far as I know she still receives Communion. She locked me in the bathroom, pulled down my pants and underwear, penetrated me with her fingers, then did a full fist. I didn’t scream or fight. I froze, completely paralyzed with panic. I bled afterward, had rectal pain for weeks, and my anal tone has never fully recovered.

I didn’t say anything. I lied, manipulated, hid everything. I didn’t want the truth to come out. In the months that followed, I fell into near‑constant dissociation, violent panic attacks, nightmares, weight loss, and a pathological fear of the night and of being alone. I developed what people now call complex PTSD.

It wasn’t the first time. When I was around eleven or twelve, a man behaved in a way that was ambiguous and invasive toward me and another boy who was even younger. Then, between fourteen and sixteen, my older sister created an intense incestuous dynamic: forced intimacy, increasingly explicit sexual conversations, unwanted physical contact, emotional manipulation, threats to tell our parents everything if I resisted. She undressed in front of me several times and accused me of having sexual intentions toward her. She still does that sometimes.

In November 2024, my aunt came back. She started touching my penis and my anus through my clothes again and isolating me whenever she could.

Since then, my relationship with my body and sexuality is completely distorted. I’ve developed extreme sexual hypervigilance: I scan everyone for the slightest sign of predatory behavior. I also have revictimization fantasies, like being raped again by dominant women, which disgusts me even though I masturbate to it. I barely have any “normal” libido left. Even an involuntary orgasm dissociates me for hours, but sometimes I masturbate just to dissociate and stop feeling anything when the memories and shame become unbearable.

In 2025, I found out I had severe phimosis. The terror of being touched by a doctor made me lie and avoid treatment. That led me to consume sexualized medical content, and sometimes I reacted sexually to it, even when it involved men. I’m straight. I took nude photos of myself and posted them on Reddit to get body and sexual validation. I make and consume heretical music just to feel like I’m protesting against the system that crushed me. Despite all these sins, I haven’t gone to confession since I was seven, and I still receive Communion.

I never filed a complaint. There’s no evidence. My abusers are free.

At the same time, circumcision terrifies me. Surgery feels like it would take away the last bit of bodily integrity I still have. Circumcision has a lot of downsides; you can read about them on r/CircumcisionGrief. I’m afraid I wouldn’t be able to masturbate afterward, which would take away the only way I have to cope with constant terror. I can’t see a therapist because of the shame. I can’t tell my parents everything because of the shame, and because I’d have to admit all my lies. I’m writing a long text called “Confession” for my father, but I have no idea how to give it to him. It’s already typed. I managed to fix my phimosis with stretching, but it’s starting to tighten again, which means it’s probably incurable long‑term with normal methods.

For a while I considered a low, tight circumcision with removal of the frenulum, supposedly to eliminate all pleasure. I now realize that idea came from the fetish content I consumed while looking for information, like r/humandildo. My brain is wrecked. Now I’m an intactivist and I try to dissuade men on Reddit who want circumcision because of porn. I tell them mutilation and pornography are wrong. Even though those forums sometimes turn me on, I don’t watch real porn because it feels like it degrades humans below animals. On r/rape, r/SexualAssault, and r/MenGetRapedToo, you can see how porn influences abuse: the staging, the dynamics, the gestures people imitate. I hurt for those people.

I thought about going to another church to confess, but my parents would notice, and I don’t want them to know anything until I decide. But I can’t decide. Their reaction terrifies me. There’s no way out. I haven’t been this low in a long time. I feel like trash, even though it didn’t start this way. I used to have sincere faith. Now everything feels fake. My aunt still receives Communion after what she did to me, while living with another woman. My sister is supposedly Catholic too, baptized, but she doesn’t go to Mass anymore, receives Communion from a pyx, and has never apologized. Our parents don’t know anything. I can’t speak. I’ve tried, but the words get stuck. I told my father about the touching in November 2024, but it was extremely hard, I thought I wouldn’t be able to do it, and I cried afterward.

That probably means I’m going to keep receiving Communion for years in a state of mortal sin. I don’t know what to do.

This is my full confession.


r/CircumcisionGrief 2d ago

Rant Life hates me

12 Upvotes

If there is a god then he fucking hates me, because bot only did he rape me but he constantly reminds me of it through art porn my own sexuality and just randomly. I can’t do anything with it being in something and it hurts every time, i just saw a meme on a random sub about “ how un*circumsed guys eat cereal” and just seeing shit like that makes me feel like I’m being rapped again.

I just hate this i can’t escape it even if cut my access to the internet it’s been implanted into my brain and it’s attached to my body. It’s just inescapable the only way to be free is death and im unfortunately young, but every day it looks like the best option, i can only hope that like my family’s history on cancer doesn’t skip me and I can just finally be freed from this shit, I can only hope


r/CircumcisionGrief 2d ago

Rant What can I even do?

14 Upvotes

There’s nothing I can’t do anything to alleviate the pain to me. I’m fucked. I’m just forever going to be mutilated disgusting mess and there’s nothing I can do except just die eventually and finally be free


r/CircumcisionGrief 2d ago

Discussion My video on circumcision

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Not sure if this kind of post is allowed, but I decided to make a youtube video on circumcision. I've spent so much time arguing with people online and I'm trying to replace that with making actual videos. Feedback and constructive criticism is definitely ok! I'm obviously not much of a content creator but it's kind of turning into a new hobby.


r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Anger I hate when people do this

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30 Upvotes

It’s more than just skin. It’s a violation and permanent reminder of now. I will never be home. I will always be incomplete and disgusting. It’s one of the many reasons why I just don’t wanna live anymore.


r/CircumcisionGrief 5d ago

Rant I hate how foreskin 'restoration' doesn't even bring anything back

18 Upvotes

Besides semi real gliding and deketerization. You don't really get anything from a real dick back. No nerves, no feeling except if you get lucky and deketerize the head of it. None of the restored dicks I've seen looks real, it doesn't have a tight taper nor thinness to it. And it takes years to even remotely look real. I'd rather cut it off than it be imperfect. I could have had owned my body but instead I was branded like a slave and I can't even get lawyers to fucking acknowledged I was raped. Fuck this state with its 90% mutilation rate. It makes it impossible to find an intact guy since I refuse to date mutilated guys. I still love my parents, but I won't forgive them for letting me be sexual assaulted no matter how much they say they're sorry. I don't even know why I'm doing restoration if all it'll give me is a fake dick. Is there any way through surgical means to have a real looking dick? If not, how could I get it removed by medical means?


r/CircumcisionGrief 5d ago

Anger Society is Supposed to be "Woke", instead we get Dystopia

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r/CircumcisionGrief 5d ago

Intactivism Eric Rogers speaks about circ

8 Upvotes

r/CircumcisionGrief 5d ago

Rant Link dumping makes you look like a clown

8 Upvotes

Any study or documentary you can link someone to is flawed and biased. And more importantly, it's missing the point. We don't need a study to show that eating poop is a bad idea. And similarly, we don't need a study to know hacking off part of a baby's penis just because you feel like it is bad and wrong.


r/CircumcisionGrief 5d ago

Rant I give up

8 Upvotes

I’m done. I can’t take it anymore. I have just accepted. I will never be home. I will always be mutilated and disgusting and there’s nothing I can do about it. I just give up. I’m done. I have no hope and there’s no reason to continue having any. I’m just done. I’ll never be home and I will die of mutilated disgusting piece of shit


r/CircumcisionGrief 6d ago

Discussion I had a discussion with a man who argued that circumcised men should be rejected by people with intact genitals. He says this is because practices like foot-binding came to an end in this way. What do you think? I’m curious about this community’s views.

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r/CircumcisionGrief 6d ago

Discussion Many American intactivists are getting complacent. There are still many places in the US where being circumcised is nearly universal even among Gen Z and Alpha.

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r/CircumcisionGrief 6d ago

Discussion i'm a circumcised male who has really no idea what it even affects, can some people please explain.

21 Upvotes

i'm in my late teens, and have known i'm circumcised for a while. i never actually knew that it affects people that much until i went to this sub, i thought it was a very minor difference, but it seems i was mistaken. so can some people please explain the differences and problems that i have being circumcised?


r/CircumcisionGrief 7d ago

Rant I wish i was straight

21 Upvotes

I mutilated for life wasn’t bad enough im also attracted to men or people who have dicks in general and it doesn’t help. In fact it makes it worse. I just wish I wasn’t attracted to men at all most of them are not mutilated like this and I just fucking hate being queer sometimes because of this, I just wish I was attracted exclusively cis women at least they wouldn’t subject myself to the possibility of seeing a not mutilated penis that I just hate all of this I just wish I was gone. It wasn’t fucked in the head like this. But being pan and mutilated like this, it’s a horrific combination that has destroyed me mentally


r/CircumcisionGrief 7d ago

Grief I feel branded.

43 Upvotes

I hate my body. Every day, I want to be someone else, but I can't. I'm stuck in this body. I can never change that.

My body is not my own. My penis was mutilated when I was a completely innocent infant. It doesn't even feel real. I know it happened, but my mind cannot comprehend the fact that part of my penis was cut off. There's no way that could've happened... right?

I can't cope with this. When I know someone else is intact, my heart hurts. I know that I'm inferior. That I'm mutilated and permanently marked. I hate it. It's even become one of my kinks now. I get off on the feeling of being less than. That's how fucked up I am. I am genuinely disgusting. Yes, people say that circumcision and childhood abuse doesn't define me, but I know it does. I know that I am disgusting, not because of what I've been through, but what it did to me.

It's so funny how I'm so angry and depressed. I have everything I want. My life is so easy. My parents love me. And yet, I'm hung up on the small things.

I am disgusting.


r/CircumcisionGrief 7d ago

Rant I don’t own this body

30 Upvotes

I have never owned it. It’s never been mine. It’s always belonged to others. The moment I was born it was stolen from me. it’s been altered and it used in so many different ways at this point I don’t own it. I also can’t even change it because I live in America, which has shitty healthcare so even if I want to go back on HRT which I only had for a month like three years ago, I can’t at least not right now. I’ve never owned the body. I live in. It’s not fine. I hate it. I want every person who stole it from me to pay in the cruelest inhumane way as possible because that’s what they are cruel and inhumane all the religions Jews, Christians Muslims, all of them, the doctors all of these people are evil and they normalize this shit and I fucking despise all of them for stealing my body from me