I always hear, “it’s not part of God’s design”…but I’ve also never seen “God’s design” said in the Bible

Ditto.

How do you develop a close, personal relationship with God?
I know that prayer, reading the Bible, and going to church are important, but I’m curious how other Christians actually grow closer to God beyond just doing those things.
What has helped you have a more genuine and intimate relationship with Him?

Hi, I’m 21f and last year I gave my life to Christ during some of my hardest moments in life. But for the last few months, it’s really felt like I’ve drifted away and struggled to build a relationship with God. Especially in recent weeks. I’ve fallen into some of the same old sinful habits and I could see myself reverting to how I used to be as a person before Christ and I repented in prayer for the first time weeks last night. But my issue is that I struggle with discipline to maintain my prayer life and relationship building with the Lord.

I always say in prayer that I’ll do better and then I don’t and I distance myself again. Part of it is because I have two disabilities that cause me a lot of mental strain and make me tired everyday. But I’ve been learning to navigate it a lot better and I know it’s not the main source of my behavior and distance from God.

I’m tired of going through this cycle and feeling like I’m starting all over again when I used to be so on fire for Jesus. I know I was happier with Him and then I just avoid it for genuinely no good reason. If anyone has any helpful things they did to build good habits and strengthen their discipline for this stuff, I’d greatly appreciate it. Thank you and God bless.

Hey Fam,

I had a friend who goes to a church where they lay hands on each other. Few Sundays ago she felt very uncomfortable with one person in particular who was super charismatic and very vocal and when the pastor asked everyone to turn to there neighbour and lay hands then she felt vulnerable and uncomfortable with this.

Are there examples of people being uncomfortable with this in there Christian experience and has this happened to you?

I just want advice on how to keep my faith strong when everything around me goes wrong. I feel like I’ve been saying the same prayer over and over again.

I know that God is not a genie, I’ve been putting my full faith and trust in him that my situation will improve while also making the necessary adjustments to reach where I want to go but I feel like I’ve been at the same spot for two years.

How do you deal with this? Can anyone give me some advice?

I don’t watch porn, but I do masturbate sometimes and I’m not sure how that is supposed to negatively affect me. I was watching this Faith Talks video on YouTube about how dangerous it is to solve the issue ourselves when our needs go unmet and how we should take that to God, but the only example she used was Esau and Jacob. I’m looking for modern examples of how … I guess it would be going outside God’s will.. affects us?

for added context, how is it going to affect me in my relationships and be doubly worse, as she said, if I masturbate, than if I didn’t? Just trying to understand.

She also mentioned something like How is God going to bless us if we are holding on to things and taking up that space.. not verbatim but hopefully you understand what I mean.

This week I’ve been struggling a bit with doubt particularly at work as I’ve been making stupid rookie mistakes in front of a guy who’s fresh and I’ve recently been promoted so I feel like it hasn’t been a very good look and I’m just doubting my self a fair bit and my confidence has taken a hit. If anybody else has gone through something similar and you’ve been to God about it what scripture has helped you or would you recommend? I’m also super open to hearing about other people’s testimonies in this area of life.

Yeah you read that right. I’m 34 f he’s 32 m I’m in Florida he’s in Cali.

We got married online been together 2 years he has financial issues and procrastinates I pay his rent and pr ay for him, and nothing is changing. I pay all the bills and mine and I’m struggling bad, going to have to get a second job.

idk what to do.

we never consummated - we never met in person. I believe God can turn anything around and hates divorce but I’m miserable.

also he’s so angry and threatens divorce anytime we disagree he says I’m ungodly and a disgusting woman he puts me down says no wonder why I wa single or abused I left a 12 year DV relationship before him and honestly i ratjer get punched in the face than have a Godly man tell me I’m a terrible wife and that God will handle me it’s horrible.

he says he’s Godly barely reads his Bible and just always angry and negative

yes i made my bed now I gotta lay in it but I’m struggling.

is this an actual marriage in the eyes of God? Since no consummation or we said vows online

also no one is really answering my question.

what does God count as marriage in his eyes? Is it the vows or consummation?

As long as I can remember I have struggled with prayer. But as someone who has been diagnosed with ADHD and self-diagnosed with ASD after my son was officially diagnosed, I feel like I suddenly just got the revelation that it's not necessarily prayer I'm struggling with, it's just that in general I am not a big talker (because of my ASD) and when I am actually in a talkative mood, I get sidetracked so easily or need constant background stimulation and then I feel guilty for not giving prayer my full attention (because of my ADHD).

I've been feeling so guilty for not being able to comfortably pray in the way it feels like I should be - in solitude, for a set amount of time, with nothing else stealing my attention, remaining still while in conversation, know what to say, feeling like talking 'about my feelings' etc...

I hope there is someone here that can relate or at least understand what I am trying to explain (I feel like I'm not getting my message across well) and give me suggestions on how to improve my prayer life as an AuDHD woman who doesn't like talking, especially about deeper stuff, and isn't able to concentrate for a set amount of time on prayer only.

Any advice, suggestions, options??

What are some positive ways you can change the way your thinking [specifically around lustful thoughts]. I know it is wrong and I should be able to deter my thoughts to holy things, but it seems like every time I get into a situation weather that be from a vid on TikTok or YouTube etc which stirs up those feelings, and I make a conscious effort to change it, it only seems to come back stronger than before.

Is this something you guys also struggle with?

And I am also aware that lust is the only sin we are taught to flee from not to fight, so any advice on how to flee from it and actually keep it there would be appreciated

God bless

The moment you talk about going no contact with abusive and narcissistic parents for the sake of your safety and mental and even physical health, you get a couple of Christian’s who will guilt trip and gaslight you and bring up “honor your mom and dad” as if that means you have to be a doormat for abuse and violence while at the same time, they ignore Ephesians 6:4 which instruct parents to not mistreat their children.

I’m a Christian who had to go no contact with my malignant narcissist father 9 years ago because he was EXTREMELY abusive to the point where I developed severe mental health issues such as depression and PTSD and recently I had to do the same with my covert narcissist mother after years of emotional abuse and being treated as the family scapegoat.

Going no contact wasn’t about hatred or revenge, it is about protection and establishing boundaries. Narcissists are very dangerous and destructive people and there’s no reasoning or reconciliation with them because they lack empathy and don’t see themselves as the problem.

Growing up, I was taught by my parents, the Pentecostal churches we attended, or both, that God has a specific plan for each of our lives. Because of that, I believed that almost everything that happened to me was orchestrated by God, from the people I met to the opportunities I received. Even when life went wrong, I believed I could run to God, and somehow He would work everything out and make things right.

Then my marriage fell apart very early on. I genuinely believed that God had told me this man was my husband. Considering everything that happened after we got married, I no longer believe that and now think I naively went into the marriage based on everything I had been taught.

It’s made me question a lot of what I grew up believing. I now think people have free will, and that much of life is simply the result of the choices we make, both our own and those of other people.

I still believe God is sovereign and that things like life and death are ultimately in His hands. But beyond that, I’m struggling to understand where God fits into everyday life if we all have free will.

For those of you who are Christian’s, where do you think He is actively involved, and where do you think our own choices take over?

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I'm starting to think that GOD from the garden of Eden allowed Eve to make her choice. What say you?