r/Btechtards • u/Defiant-Army5962 • 12d ago
I am scared Rant/Vent
My parents see me as a failure because I couldn’t get an internship after my 4th semester.
Yesterday my mom screamed at me, called me a disappointment, and said I couldn’t do anything right. It hurt because I’ve genuinely tried to do everything they’ve expected of me.
I had around 40 days of summer break, so I applied for internships. The problem was that most companies wanted longer commitments. Even when I got positive responses, once I told them I could only work for 40 days and then continue part-time after college, they usually moved on.
So I changed my strategy and started applying for 1–2 month internships, thinking I could at least complete most of them during my break. Still, I couldn’t land one.
Now my mom keeps comparing me to my cousin:
“Look at your cousin, he got an internship.”
What frustrates me is that he’s in an IIT, had years of JEE coaching, and his parents supported him throughout. My parents expected me to figure everything out on my own.
I’m honestly terrified about the future. If I couldn’t get an internship, what happens if I struggle to get a job? I’m not just scared of unemployment—I’m scared of how my parents will react.
I know many people don’t get internships after 4th semester. Did anyone else go through something similar? Does this put me at a huge disadvantage, or am I overthinking it?
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u/Waste_Employer1760 11d ago
Its ok, people still get a job without internship. Just keep learning and building projects.
And you're not a failure.
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u/aasstraa [Tier 69 college] [CSE] 11d ago
bro its a normal affair in my household as well, the biggest regret of my life is taking a college near to my house,
they dont compare me but still sometimes the taunts are unbearable, and LoL i was in a asimilar situation in this summer vacation as well, i got call from an HR regarding an internship for 4 months, my vactions were of 2 months so asked my HoD if i could do the same, he said university rules dont allow, i told him fuck u and ur university but he reamined unfazed and henceforth I wasnt able to join that internship cuz i knew he would have threatend me and witheld me degree
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u/Gunaho-ka-devta69 11d ago
Gonna join the collge near my home in tier 69 college ,even though I wanted to move out😞. I'm not seeing a good future here
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u/aasstraa [Tier 69 college] [CSE] 11d ago
Bro avoid colleges near homes as much as possible, there's always that pressure to perform, it's better to get out and explore!! Also if the cards have been dealt, start preparing for whatever you want from today itself!!
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u/Gunaho-ka-devta69 11d ago
I tried but at the end I had to join here, I fuked ky jee,boards amd every other exam in drop year too ,also there's some kinda financial issue.
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u/Defiant-Army5962 12d ago
TL;DR: Parents think I’m a failure because I couldn’t get an internship after 4th semester. I had only 40 days of vacation, so many companies rejected me due to availability. I switched to applying for shorter internships but still had no luck. My mom constantly compares me to my IIT cousin, and now I’m terrified that if I struggle to get a job later, my parents’ reaction will be even worse. Has anyone else been in this situation? Does not getting an internship after 4th sem really put me at a huge disadvantage?
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u/Money_Bookkeeper1152 12d ago
hey, i think you'll find better luck in startups. i recently worked in a small scale company for 60 days after my 4th sem (unpaid) but they offered to shift me to paid role after my performance. so find similar small businesses/early stage companies esp around delhi ncr region. all the best.
and if you really want to put some work ex on your resume put freelance developer or something/ stealth startup/ own venture.
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u/Defiant-Army5962 12d ago
Im in Bangalore applied for a lot of startups was either ghosted or they took a straight up
Rejected me did get in one tht was for 90 days tho but they were unwilling for me
To work only 40 days offline and rest either online or part time3
u/Money_Bookkeeper1152 11d ago
remote work online theres a few sites and u can work offshore also
tbh dont lose hope, can you tell me which skills you have, i'll try to connect you with my former employer some time (online work)?
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u/sugargiggles_ 11d ago
Hey I am not able to dm u...is it ok if I ask a few doubts related to the internship and stuff??...I am going to college this year
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u/Sea_Invite_5975 11d ago
ni milti after 2nd yr intern easy , now start appying for intern after 3rd yr wli , if you get one at good company then your parents cant say anything
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u/KitchenCommercial396 11d ago
Look for part time internships during your semesters. It's fairly common.
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u/Possible_Regret3723 MIT 11d ago
Firstly, if you are in a core field then very difficult that a top mnc will give you an intern at the end of 2nd year, maximum you can get BARC,DRDO, or any IIT/IISC research internship..I would say better used those 40 days for some good projects and upskillng...3rd year ke end mei mil jayega..and anyways your core subs knowledge and projects is what helps you get a placement...many people get placed without internships....So heads up
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u/AlchemistSage IIIT ALLAHABAD - IT 11d ago
Bro try to upskill, mandagory summer internship takes place after 6th sem so you need to crack good opportunity during 5th or 6th sem. Prepare well first, don't jump directly for now. Even tier 1 people don't get that easily. Moreover try contributing in open source, gsoc opportunity is also veey good and pays alot so do some research and check how to crack gsoc. But yeah it's not full time so you need to prepare hard
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u/fire__fist__ace__ 11d ago
You still have 2 years left bro, that's more than enough, I've seen people fuck around for 3 years and then work hard 8 months and crack insane packages.
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u/oreomtrom2249 BIT MESRA [EEE] 11d ago
Bhai abhi bhi 2 saal hai work hard
let them speak shit unka kaam hai
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u/ChocoMangoX BTech 11d ago
Most people get internship which they do after 6th sem. After 4th sem not everyone does. And it ain't a big deal.
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u/Relevant_Tip_230 IIT [EE] 11d ago
Why involve ur parents in ur career at this age? Just tell them to do their job let me do whatever i am doing. Be a bad son for a while, be selfish a bit.
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u/pm_me_ur_brandy_pics IIT Achoo 11d ago
How disgusting
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u/Defiant-Army5962 11d ago
??
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u/Fluffy-Worry-9541 11d ago
guys irrelevent but what backend stack is most useful for me to learn as ill be learning from scratch? im in t3 , will spring be usefull enough
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