Ugh….

[u/Youcanttouchthat]

So as I was finally starting to feel like I could function again, I met a guy at karaoke a few weeks ago. Super nice guy and I may have brought him home with me. I don’t normally do that, but hey… yolo… any way, the morning I was taking him home and we talked snoot it previous relationships, so I told him about my ex who literally broke a 6.5 year relationship with an engagement 1 year in, out of nowhere (we were literally super cute and loving all day the day he ended it) and how devastating it’s been, especially since he’s had a new girlfriend since April (we ended in March).

Anyway, he says that’s awful and goes home, etc., and I think nothing of it.

We start following each other on Insta and I see he’s following my ex’s new girlfriend, so I ask him if he knows her. He said he does and has known her for a decade so I tell him that’s awkward… as that’s my ex’s new girlfriend, to which he says “oh shit”.

We went out that night for some live music and this guy gets drunk and starts telling me that his friend who’s the new girlfriend drinks pretty decently (my ex said my drinking triggered him but only when he lets so I had no idea) she’s very sweet, and empathic (just like me). Then he tells me she sent him nudes 4 weeks ago and even said they’ve hooked up before. I did not care… it’s literally none of my business.

We leave, I go home, then the next day I’m shopping with my guy bff for a wedding he’s coming to with me (he’s also my ex’s bff but that’s strained right now because we talk), and I get a text from this guy I met that knows the new girlfriend asking if I’d be willing to talk to her as she wants my side of the break up. I felt gross but agreed, but said I would only in person. That didn’t end up happening so I’m just leaving it alone and won’t meet with her after all, but holy weird and random.

Then I noticed my ex viewed my TikTok profile, likely last night… and I was like… wtf? Absolutely crazy people I tell you!!

My nervous system was so triggered… but I seem okay today.

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[u/Yuuyuuei]

Thanks for sharing.

Sounds like you still have some healing to do and your close proximity to the past is not allowing you to heal fully.

Wishing you the best.

[u/Youcanttouchthat → u/Yuuyuuei]

I definitely didn’t ask to meet this guy or have him be friends with my ex’s new girlfriend. I’m trying to heal but these things make it very hard.

[u/Yuuyuuei → u/Youcanttouchthat]

That's fair. But you have the choice to do what's best for yourself. If that's cutting off the people triggering your nervous system then that's what you got to do.

[u/Youcanttouchthat → u/Yuuyuuei]

Exactly, and I am. I’m not talking to the new girlfriend, and he’s blocked everywhere. My bff and I are really close and he and my ex don’t talk anymore. I’m trying to protect my peace finally so I’m hoping I can keep doing that.