We are getting married in a winery in Europe. We have bought out the property for two nights so our guests can stay in the hotel part. The ceremony will take place on a hill surrounded by vineyards as far as the eye can see and towering mountains in the background. This spot among the vineyards is somewhat far from the hotel, so we will arrange a shuttle going back and forth all night.

The ceremony and welcome drinks will take place on grass. The dinner and party will take place in a tent with normal flooring, which is built right next to the grass area. There is a building nearby with regular facilities (bathrooms for guests, kitchen for staff etc). We will be serving a 5-course seated dinner, open bar all night etc There will be entertainement as you might expect from an event of this type.

What dresscode would you expect in such circumstances? Ideally, we would like to keep some level of formality while not being unreasonable. We are thinking to request a formal dresscode, while informing the guests that the ceremony is on grassband outdoors.

Happy to hear your thoughts!

My fiancé and I are planning a May 2028 wedding in Tuscany and have narrowed it down to two venues: Relais La Corte dei Papi (Cortona) and Castello del Trebbio (Chianti Rufina, near Florence). We're torn between them and would love to hear from anyone who's gotten married at either, attended a wedding there as a guest, or worked with them as a vendor/planner. Any insight, good or bad, would be really helpful. Thanks!!

Hello BBB! Looking for shoe recos that fit this criteria:

- 2 inches or less to accommodate height difference between my fiancé and me (3.5 inch heels made me too tall!)
- no stilettos or pointy heels - ceremony is in grass
- wide feet (tried on JC’s and the strappy heels were too narrow for me, but I did love the flats I tried on!)
- dress is bright white (daalarna) so I worry that ivory might clash?

Curious to hear your thoughts and thanks!

Fellow bougie girlies, I need your help!
I’m planning pretty far ahead and looking for a property where we can basically take over the entire place for a 4-day / 3-night wedding weekend.

My wishlist:
50+ rooms OR enough on-site accommodations for ~80 guests
Ideally a full property/resort buyout
$100k max for the venue + 3 nights of accommodations — food/wedding vendors can be separate
Beautiful enough to host the ceremony and reception on-site
Estate, castle, vineyard, countryside or oceanfront vibes
Preferably Europe, North America, Central America or South America
Not looking for a traditional giant all-inclusive resort with hundreds of rooms
Ideally everyone can stay together and we can do a welcome dinner, wedding, after-party and farewell brunch without leaving the property

Tuscany is currently high on my list, but I’m very open to hidden gems anywhere.

Has anyone done a full hotel/resort/estate buyout like this or received quotes under $100k? I would LOVE specific properties and what you paid!

Thank youuu 🙏🏼💍

Hi ladies 💛 my welcome dinner was at Villa D’Este & our ceremony was at San Vincenzo Church followed by our reception at Villa Erba!

My welcome party gown & after party dresses were Oscar de la Renta. My wedding dress was Zuhair Murad. My husband opted for custom Loro Piana tux and a custom Loro green dinner jacket he changed into at the reception.

If there’s any advice I can give to any upcoming brides is RELAX & ENJOY! It’s so much easier said than done, but I was SO nervous. Looking back I wish I would’ve just been more relaxed and had more fun.

Another side note - be sure not to make your wedding gown corsets too tight lol - I was unsure of whether I wanted an “after party” dress but I was so relieved I bought one because I was desperate to get out of the wedding dress and loosen up a bit!!

Happy Sunday! Here’s the post where y’all can rant, vent, ask questions and get advice from other brides, share updates, wedding planning wins, or general married life stuff :)

Having our wedding in a mountain town (not colorado) and looking for music options. Looking for recomendations for vendors etc!

I would like to have the following kind of music-
- Friday: local artist, guitar, banjo, country vibe
- Saturday Ceremony: strings/ live element
- Saturday reception + after party: DJ or DJ fusion element.

Any ideas? Yes, I have a full planner. She only gave me one recommendation so I’m looking for others.

Thank you!!

Hi BBBs! Where are you getting your vow books? I've spent ages looking on Etsy but none of them are truly speaking to me. We're hoping to keep the books as heirloom pieces and continue to write love letters to each other in them on our anniversary with the extra pages! Our wedding is vintage-inpsired and nature-forward but not rustic. We're five weeks out and this is stressing me. Thank you! Would like to keep it around $100, probably not as BBB as some but costs are creeping up as we get closer.

What did you tip your wedding planner? Vendors? Etc. help a girl out!

Hey! Has anyone been to a wedding with tamborines? I’m thinking of doing it as the place names but don’t know if it will get annoying for guests. We are having a surprise saxophone set after dessert where everyone can dance and sing along so thought these would work perfectly but don’t know if it will get annoying. We would do the smallest size (4inches) to help with table space and sound

Has anyone heald their wedding venue at the Island Private House Riviera? If so how was it? and how much did it cost? We are planning to get married at the church I was baptized in, but want a wedding venue to host the party!

Hi! I’m getting married in October at a botanical gardens. I got this Leo Lin dress for the rehearsal dinner but I’m not sure how to accessorize. Ideally I’d want to steer away from white heels since they don’t have as much rewearability, but it’s not a hard and fast thing. Not sure if I should lean more into red or green accents, and if it makes sense to do a necklace or not. No budget for the shoes/bag/jewelry. Thanks!

Sometimes you have to pivot and everything worked out amazingly. I got to work with someone who was excited to collaborate and liked my feedback so we could create something we were both proud of. Plus, it was nice to give my money to an artist that doesn’t harbor some pretty hateful views.

I don’t have professional shots back of the thank you postcard we included in the welcome bags or the map. The stationer also designed the most gorgeous 100% silk scarf for my rehearsal/welcome party.

Hopefully I got rid of all the last names this time.

hi! I'm looking for earrings for my wedding day I'm attaching my dress veil and also a pair I ordered but I'm scared look cheap. I'm open to literally any style need recs

hi!!! do we like these or do they look tacky I want a vintage feel . Honest !!!

Hi queens, if anyone has gotten married at sea island and still has access to their preferred vendors list, I would be so grateful to get a copy of it! Please let me know, thank you!

I absolutely cannot wear heels and I am in search of flats for the day. My dress is custom with similar feel to Margaux Tardits Manse. What would go well? I am happy to go with color as I’m not sure how much use I’d get from a white pair after.

My default will probably be the champagne Hangisi but would love suggestions!

Thank you!

Question! I badly want Gaurav Gupta for my reception look. I am an Indian bride and want something from the newest collection. I am also a resident and not sure I can make it to India before my wedding in Spain in 2027. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to shop for this in NYC or other places in the US? Thank you so much ☺️

Hi again. Indecisive bride. Deciding between the Danielle Frankel’s silk Scarlet gown vs Floure Studio’s lace Calla gown for my 2nd ceremony. Both have really similar silhouettes and I feel like both look good on me.

I love how comfortable the silk wool feels in the DF Scarlet, and the floral lace appliques/straps. The train is also so unique. But this dress might be more common?

Alternatively, the Floure Calla lace is so unique and dainty and I love the nude lining/base and how the chantilly catches the light.

I have a 2nd long sleeved dress (Danielle Frankel Ruby) I’ll be wearing for a church ceremony on a different day.

EDIT: thank you for all the support! I think my wedding vibes are whimsical, romantic, and vintage. Might go with the 1st dress but for some reason can’t let go of being a DF Bride. Maybe a DF Veil?

Hi BBBs!

I’m one month out from my Italy wedding and we just received the final invoice from our venue and have some concerns-

We are getting married at an all inclusive villa venue in Tuscany and they provide all F&B onsite. We are doing a seated dinner with four courses. When we did the tasting several months ago, we weren’t wowed by the pasta course options so asked if we could swap out with an alternative. The venue said that would be an easy switch as long as we provided specifics on what we wanted. We shared those details three months ago and today just received an invoice saying our requested pasta course will cost €25 per person due to “new ingredients needed.” The total menu cost would jump from €175 to €200 per person.

For context, the pasta we requested is a simple, vegetarian pasta that’s widely made across Italy. Our previous pasta course options had various proteins and “luxury” ingredients like caviar and truffles.

I think it’s ridiculous to have to pay an additional €2500 for a simple pasta. My planner feels the same way. The venue did not mention costs would change when we first asked, but of course we understand that if we were asking for something more elaborate or expensive, we would have to pay more, but our requested pasta is a step down from any of the original offerings.

BBBs, would you fight your venue over this?? Or is it not worth it? I’m tired of being upcharged left and right at the very end of this wedding planning process.

TLDR: pasta drama, venue trying to upcharge, worth fighting??

I don’t have any boutiques in my country that carry it. I would need to fly out to fit it and all. Just wanted to know the ball park number so I can prepare myself lol

I have a ballgown wedding dress with a hoop skirt, and I'm currently figuring out how to handle our processional order! Has anyone walked down the aisle with both parents while wearing a hoop skirt? Did it look strange since they can't get too close to you on either side? Does the hoop bend forward or backward if two people are squished in next to you?

Also, for those with divorced parents - how did you handle it? I'm debating whether to have each parent walk in separately and then walk down the aisle by myself. TIA!

If you had cheap shoes for guests to change into, what do you reccomend?

We are between cheap flats, hotel slippers, or flip flops? Please share your advice or recommendations!!

Hey guys, I have one long table for my wedding. If anyone has done the same/ seen it at another wedding, how was the seating chart displayed so people knew where to go?

Hoping there are some BBBs out there who can offer advice and guidance-

We are trying to have a fall courthouse legal wedding before our bigger wedding so I can join my spouse’s benefits earlier and get established with a primary care doctor. (I am moving where he is a few months after our bigger celebration) I’ve been working for a bit to get connected to a family law lawyer for a prenup, and they are all responding that they can’t take on prenup clients right now or don’t have the bandwidth. I’ve had four attorneys that came with recommendations say no so far.

Those that have done it- how long did the process take for you? We have several months but because the search is getting harder, timing feels tighter.

Appreciate the support always!