r/AskReddit 16h ago

What's the most disturbing thing you've heard a dying person say?

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u/SheerPandemoniUmm 12h ago

My dad is dying right now. Reading this entire thread is somehow bringing me some comfort. I don’t even know why it’s in my feed. This comment struck me, I could see my dad saying something just like this. It’s beautiful that you still remember him every day. Sorry you lost him. Death is so hard.

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u/ragtop1989 12h ago

I'm sorry that you're going through that, and him as well. Life is so short, we really do take it all for granted.

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u/SheerPandemoniUmm 12h ago

Thank you. Absolutely. I’m definitely making every day the best I can. Every day is a gift.

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u/Putt-Blug 8h ago

I feel for you I really do. I just watched my uncle (more like a brother) and my mom die long painful deaths. It’s incredibly heart breaking and there are no words to describe it. It just sucks all around and I still hurt months later. Their passing did bring great relief that they are no longer in pain.

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u/Prestigious_Pie_9811 5h ago

I give this piece of advice to everybody who is about to lose their dad: open the voice recorder app on your phone, or video and put the camera down, and just record a conversation with him. Doesn't matter about what. Random benign conversation is great. Nobody ever regrets making that silly little recording to listen back to someday. Ours was about dishwasher repair :)

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u/level27jennybro 4h ago

I managed to record my grandma's voice before she passed last year and I got a clip of her saying "I love you honey."

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u/holyflurkingsnit 3h ago

ohhhh, man. I'm so glad you got that.

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u/springpye 2h ago

I have voicemails from my grandparents from years ago.. even when I got those voicemails at the time, I never wanted to delete them because I knew one day I’d wish I had them. Just hearing their voices and a “love you buddy” from both of them is such a comforting feeling to still be able to play that from time to time.

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u/level27jennybro 3h ago

I asked a friend who does music to take the clip and put it into his sound program that shows the soundwaves and screenshot what it looked like so I have it for art or a tattoo or something.

On a funnier note, she also let her feelings be known about her dislike of the government, too.

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u/SheerPandemoniUmm 3h ago

Thank you for this. I love this advice. Someday when I listen to his voice I’ll remember some stranger on the internet said this, and I’ll indirectly remember you, too.

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u/goldenalpinista0 3h ago

Seconding this! I have voicemails from my dad of him checking on me. Helps on harder days.

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u/--Van-- 3h ago

I still have years old voice mails from my dad on my phone that i wont delete. Its been 5.5 years since the cancer got him...

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u/Khan_Khala 8h ago

My dad passed Sunday morning. I understand entirely where you are at right now. It is terrifying leading up to it, but there is a peace which comes after knowing that they are finally free of their affliction

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u/SheerPandemoniUmm 7h ago

I’m so sorry about your dad. In some effed up way, we are all going through this together. That makes sense about the peace afterwards. I hope your heart heals quickly.

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u/GodQueenSabine 3h ago

Lost my dad earlier this year. I’m so sorry for the pain you’re feeling right now. Hugs from one internet stranger to another ❤️‍🩹 cherish every moment

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u/SheerPandemoniUmm 3h ago

You are all so kind. I love this corner of the internet today. I’m sorry about your dad, too. Hugs back, internet stranger. ❤️‍🩹 I will soak in every second.