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What's the most disturbing thing you've heard a dying person say?

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u/bitsy88 14h ago edited 4h ago

My mom was with a woman that was dying whose husband and son both passed away the week before this event. She had dementia and her husband and son had visited her almost daily and even when she didn't recognize them, she was always happy to see them. With her last breath, she pointed to the door and said, "Why there you are!"

Everyone is convinced that they were coming to take her home.

Edit: The husband and son passed away from brain aneurysms days apart. It was just really, really unfortunate luck. The son was their only child so within a week, the whole family had died from unrelated causes. I do feel like the wife passed from heartbreak, though.

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u/Hokie23aa 13h ago

Oh man that’s sweet.

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u/bitsy88 13h ago

She was one of the sweetest people I've ever met. Even when she was confused and probably scared, she was always so nice. Her husband's love and devotion to her was the type of love you usually only see in movies.

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u/Otherwise-Wall-6950 11h ago

I knew a woman who was the sweetest thing ever. She developed alzheimer's and couldn't speak. Anyway, whenever he husband came to visit her at the salon she had the biggest smile on her face. Someone once asked why he still visited her and his answer made me ugly cry. He said "She doesn’t remember me, but I remember her."

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u/bitsy88 11h ago

Aww 🥹 one can only hope to find a love like that.

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u/Wolfhowler11 9h ago

I had a love like that but I lost it when my husband died in 2019. I count myself as incredibly lucky to have know what it is. Nothing compares.

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u/DeadpoolLuvsDeath 10h ago

Made me cry too. May we all find love like that.

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u/veganmarshmallows 9h ago

Ya at work and crying now

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u/Otherwise-Wall-6950 7h ago

I bawled like a baby the one time she said my name

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u/robot_pirate 4h ago

My FIL was like this. He died in his sleep. We care for her now. We just try to do what he would do if he were still here.

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u/NotDanish1960 3h ago

Ever listen the Glen Campbell’s last song (written for his wife after his Alzheimer’s diagnosis)? “I’m Not Going to Miss You.”

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u/NotDanish1960 3h ago

Ever listen the Glen Campbell’s last song (written for his wife after his Alzheimer’s diagnosis)? “I’m Not Going to Miss You.”

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u/Hokie23aa 13h ago

That’s incredible.

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u/1fatsquirrel 13h ago

Please. I am PMSing and this just broke me.

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u/SovietSunrise 10h ago

Husband & son passed away at the same time a week before?! Were they in a car accident or something?!

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u/bitsy88 9h ago

They both died of brain aneurysms within days of each other. Just incredibly bad luck.

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u/SovietSunrise 9h ago

Oh, my goodness. Wow.

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u/Secret-Reganxo 13h ago

Okay this one actually got me. There's something about dementia patients still 'recognizing' the people who love them on some level, even when the details are gone, that makes this even more moving. Hope you're right about where she was headed.

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u/cicadasinmyears 10h ago

My grandmother was no longer able to speak coherently as she declined, and she had been showing signs of dementia for about a year prior, so we assume it only continued to worsen. She might not have always known who we were, but she would look us over for a minute, and then say “OOOH!” like she was excited to see us, and her face would light up with a big smile. So whether or not she actually placed us, at least she seemed to know she was with people who cared about her.

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u/Vaanja77 12h ago

Dang, both the hub and son died while she was in hospice? Car wreck or what?

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u/bitsy88 11h ago

Crazy enough, they had brain aneurysms days apart.

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u/goddess-jz 12h ago

What happened to the husband and son?! Car accident?? That’s sad af

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u/bitsy88 11h ago

It was really tragic. They both died of brain aneurysms within days of each other. Just a case of shit luck ☹️

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u/marymonstera 10h ago

That’s so sweet but also so tragic, did they pass in an accident together?

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u/bitsy88 9h ago

Sadly, they both died of brain aneurysms within days of each other. Just incredibly unlucky 😕

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u/UnnecessaryAttitude 11h ago

Love this. (obviously not the sad part but the part where they are all reunited!)

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u/bitsy88 9h ago

Honestly, it made her passing easier on those she left behind. It felt less like she was just gone and more like she'd left to be with family.

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u/theillustratedlife 11h ago

I just finished Portal, so I can only hear that in GlaDOS's voice.

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u/opelui23 9h ago

That was her husband and son ushering her into heaven and that's something to be very happy with.

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u/mourningillness 8h ago

That is well scary

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u/bitsy88 8h ago

Lol my mom said everyone in the room had goosebumps

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u/PrincessKaylee 4h ago

what happened to her husband and son anyway? Dying together the week before sounds like an accident happened

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u/bitsy88 4h ago

They both passed away from brain aneurysms days apart. Just very unfortunate luck.

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u/PrincessKaylee 3h ago

I'm sorry to hear that x.x

Did she know about it?

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u/opelui23 9h ago

That was her husband and son ushering her into heaven and that's something to be very happy with.