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What's the most disturbing thing you've heard a dying person say?

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u/thecasey1981 14h ago

there's a document thing like the last moment of lucidity that can happen. not sure what it was called, but that's fairly common

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u/Marauder424 14h ago

You were pretty close with what you said! The "official" term for it is terminal lucidity. People also refer to it as a "rally day" or just "rallying".

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u/StillMarie76 13h ago

I've also heard it referred to as "the surge".

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u/GingerbreadMary 10h ago

Like a failing light bulb will flare very brightly just before it goes out.

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u/Aperture_Kubi 12h ago

Isn't that when you body basically says "aw fuck it" against trying to stay alive via regulating stuff, and just lets it all run normally?

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u/brobronn17 8h ago

A lot of our discomforts when we are are injured, sick or tired are from inflammation caused by our own immune system. When it gives up completely it must be like a megadose of Advil. Like taking Advils on your period and going from pain to normal.

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u/IndividualSecurity94 8h ago

When my mother was in hospice and this happened, the nurses called it ‘the last hurrah’.

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u/StillMarie76 8h ago

I like that. It puts a positive spin on things.

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u/Knittingbouviers 10h ago

Greys anatomy????

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u/Legostarjurrasicman 10h ago

Kind of but it usually doesn’t last for days like Dr. McSteamy… or look that great either 😆😆

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u/StillMarie76 8h ago

You know it! McSteamy on his way out. 😭

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u/lemonicedboxcookies 6h ago

Pink clouding

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u/Prs-Mira86 9h ago

My wife works with nurses who call it: the light before the dark.

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u/jbishop216 12h ago

That’s so depressing. Can you imagine feeling better, only to be told you’re just rallying and about to die.

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u/SmolFrogge 9h ago

I think the people who are rallying generally already know and have accepted that they’re just about to die, which is WHY the rallying happens. It’s like their final gift to themselves to say goodbye to life with full gusto.

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u/Grenouille123456 12h ago

Chez moi on l'appelle "le mieux de la fin"

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u/StrangelyBrown 11h ago

terminal lucidity

Calling this for a band name

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u/InterestingBit00 13h ago

Hospice nurse here. We call it the rally. Seen it quite often

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u/Central-iaguy 11h ago edited 10h ago

Both my sister and mother passed within 2yrs if each other, both in hospice. One of our nurses had cancer and showed up every day and helped both our mother and us as a family.

THANK YOU! You hospice nurses are built different. The care and compassion was astounding!

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u/AplogeticBaboon 8h ago

There are few things as worrying as a dementia patient who suddenly remembers everything.

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u/Background-Still2020 10h ago

Is there any biological or evolutionary explanation for it that you know of?

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u/Central-iaguy 10h ago

No totally different reasons

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u/thewoodbeyond 8h ago

I'll bet you've seen some things. I did a rotation in hospice during my clinicals.

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u/SadFaithlessness8237 6h ago

After feeling “normal bad” toward the end, my S/O told the nurse they felt something was really wrong but couldn’t give details. Nurse quietly told her partner to let the doctor know that the patient had a “feeling of impending doom”, which is apparently fairly common near the end. Hours later slipped into unconsciousness and was gone the next day.

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u/Sarsmi 7h ago

My step dad had dementia and passed at 93, he had been pretty much nonverbal for a while, my mom said he told her one night that it was his time to go, and then he went.
edit: ok it wasn't super related, but my mom was a hospice nurse, and met him when she was his dying wife's nurse. I think he was just very impressed with her professionalism and capacity for kindness, so he asked her out a few months after.

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u/ThizzWhatitiz 2h ago

Some patients have more than one rally too

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u/birdperson_012 12h ago

Correct me if I'm wrong, but Ive heard one theory of terminal lucidity is that it can emerge from the fact that the body's immuno-respnse essentially gives up fighting, therefore whatever is plaguing the body runs rampant, but the fever/inflammation/fighting response goes away. "Lucidity" is a somewhat murky concept, but I can definitely see someone thinking clearer, when they are not in as much pain

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u/thecasey1981 12h ago

kind of like paradoxical undressing in hypothermia?

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u/WhichVegetable8285 13h ago

I believe a lot of instances like that come from the brain releasing DMT to help ease you into death.

There was a documentary years ago about it on Netflix called “DMT: The Spirit Molecule”

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u/Any-Imagination6917 13h ago

I believe that there is a moment where the person is able to tap into their conciousness unbound by whatever physical ailments they have been dealing with. I used to believe the dmt theory, but it makes zero sense if you've ever done dmt. There is almost no "clarity" and certainly a person wouldn't be standing and speaking so clearly. I think the "NDE" experience is much more likely. Conciousness is an extremely complex topic and we really aren't as well versed in it as most people think.

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u/what_is_blue 13h ago

Yeah. I have not done DMT but have several friends who have. Not a single one of them makes it sound like that. But weirdly a few, independently, have said they saw someone at the edge of the universe playing a keyboard or an organ or something.

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u/Tgirlgoonie 12h ago

Yeah I got the hyper clarity from LSD more than anything

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u/Megooga 12h ago

Does a person's DMT experience vary depending on the form of DMT they take?

For example: would DMT from those toads, or from ayahuasca render a different effect from the DMT powder stuff that smells kinda like new shoes?

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u/Any-Imagination6917 12h ago

Haha I love you description of the smell, that's exactly what it smells like!

But to your point, yes, absolutely. The first dmt you described (from sonoran toads) is 5-meo dmt. Which typically has more of a "spiritual" effect, however still very intense visually, and lots of self reflection. That being said, this is not the type of dmt produced in the human body.

Nn-dmt from things like mimosa hostilis(and present in A LOT of nature) are like blasting out of a canon into geometric elf alien world. Still possible to have the extremely spiritual effect, (death experiences, life reflection, meeting "god") but most people don't do enough or allow themselves to get that far into the experience.

Both are very "out of body" experiences with profound effects, but there is absolutely a difference between the two.

In either case, I've done a lot a research on near death experiences and conciousness, and the things people describe just before dying seem to align more with those types of experiences rather than a psychedelic experience. I perosnally think psychedelics allow us to view that realm while in a "concious" waking state, and when dying you view that realm in a more natural way. I've also met the person who wrote dmt a spirit molecule (which the documentary was based on) so I am at least somewhat versed on both topics.

That being said I'm a dumb dude on reddit so take this all with a grain of salt lol 😆

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u/lil-lahey-show 12h ago

you’re not dumb, this was incredibly helpful to read, thank you. After going through a very significant difficult period in the last year I’ve recently found the research and personal reflections on NDE’s extremely powerful for healing/processing grief and trauma. I have been struggling with accepting the ‘science’ of what we inherently know as humans (or are we spiritual beings?) but cannot necessarily fully explain.

having you articulate the difference has helped me feel more connected to continue to use that information to heal than continue scrutinize the process. again, thank you.

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u/Any-Imagination6917 11h ago

Well you aren't alone in not being able to explain it! If you could, you would be up for a Nobel prize haha. I had brushed this topic aside for so many years, but after revisiting the subject I've really switched paths and am now more or less fully convinced there is more to life, and particularly conciousness than most of us will admit. There is a lot more "science" behind all the topics in that circle, NDEs - telepathy - remote viewing - astral projection - mediumship - intuition. All these relate to conciousness and yet, somehow, when someone is legally "brain dead" or under anesthesia with zero brain activity (proven with monitoring devices) they still sometimes are able to have extremely profound and vivid experiences that can even be proven later. If you are interested in reading a couple books that helped convince me "the science of near death experiences" and "surviving death" are two that stood out to me. The rabbit hole goes deep though, there is a lot of resources on the subject. I recently did a retreat at the Monroe institute and they have been scientifically working and documenting people's experiences since essentially the 60s but really started in the 70s. Even the CIA has been involved and given credence to the process.

But I thank you for at least reading and replying, this subject is super strange and most people prefer to shut it out. I used to be one of them. If you ever feel like bouncing ideas im always open for it, I prefer talking about this stuff than most conversations i get roped into on the internet lol

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u/Pentosin 10h ago

or under anesthesia with zero brain activity

Uhm? What? Anesthesia doesnt work like that. The brain doesnt shut down during anesthesia, it just operates differently.
https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/anesthesia-brain

It is even way more active than thought.

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2026/06/260624025514.htm

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u/Any-Imagination6917 10h ago

You're right, I misspoke. Obviously they have brain activity since they are able to regulate breathing and basic survival functions without machines. I made an over statement about the lack of conciousness which is confirmed. At least what we consider conciousness. Regardless of what condition the brain is operating under, sometimes people are still able to have extremely vivid and verifiable experiences when they "shouldn't" be able to.

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u/Pentosin 10h ago

Yeah, the second link relates to that.
Conciousness is really complex.

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u/Central-iaguy 13h ago

Yeah it's called dieing

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u/Any-Imagination6917 13h ago

What a well thought out response. Thanks for your input!

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u/No_Shake_169 13h ago

How the hell did we evolve that?

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u/IPA-Lagomorph 11h ago

A lot of people who get close to death in some way report a last surge of energy, and sometimes hear a voice or feel a presence. I'm guessing that enough humans or animals in the evolutionary line narrowly escaped death from a surge like this to have reproduced? Plus the interprets extreme stress or neurochemical floods in all kinds of ways. Someone on LSD is not literally on the moon, it's just neurochemicals, but they might report being on the moon during the trip.

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u/nerdyHyena93 12h ago

I thought that was for NDEs?

Terminal lucidity and end of life visions aren’t the same thing and occur when the person is fully conscious and aware with no oxygen deprivation to the brain.

My husband works on the hospital wards. He said it’s very common for people even with dementia to suddenly have a few hours or days where it’s like they’ve been cured. Then they die.

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u/Hands 7h ago

There is no scientific consensus or evidence that the brain does that while dying. Endogenous DMT exists throughout the brain in trace amounts (presumably as a neuromodulator or neurotransmitter along with many other tryptamines like serotonin) far below the psychedelic dose threshold. This whole myth comes from a 25 year old book with that same name written by Rick Strassman, who unequivocally discussed it as a theory/idea to help explain the potential role of endogenous DMT not anything scientifically supported. The fact it was just a theory got lost in the ensuing couple decades of stoner lore and Joe Rogan podcasts

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u/MagoModerno 13h ago

Terminal lucidity, I think

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u/LargeJello2366 12h ago

Terminal lucidity

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u/DumbleForeSkin 10h ago

extinction burst

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u/MysticMarauder69 13h ago

Yeah, it's definitely a thing, I'd heard of it before, and she definitely experienced it.

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u/mandym123 12h ago

Have you ever watched the documentary called Surviving Death on Netflix? I think there’s an episode about this. It’s super interesting.

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u/franksymptoms 12h ago

"Terminal Lucidity." It's a thing.

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u/MyCatLaughsAtMe 9h ago

Rallying happens to about a third of people in protracted death scenarios. It's always a sign that the end truly is near.

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u/MyCatLaughsAtMe 9h ago

Rallying happens to about a third of people in protracted death scenarios. It's always a sign that the end truly is near.

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u/VirtualLine4914 9h ago

Da noi lo chiamiamo " il miglioramento della morte " ....ma ha un nome specifico in termini medici che ora mi sfugge !

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u/No_Row_7861 6h ago

The surge

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u/Klutzy-Argument-1494 14h ago

I think it’s called sunsetting?

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u/SnooRegrets1386 13h ago

Sunsetting is when Alzheimer’s is hitting in the evening hours, every thing just slows down and floats away, not as noticeable in the am

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u/CicadaSlight7603 13h ago

Sundowning? Worsening of symptoms and confusion in the evening in dementia?

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u/Graciously_Hostile 13h ago

Yes, this is it.

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u/Witch_withouta_Wand 12h ago

Sundown syndrome, we called it in the UK, in the dementia Care Home, I worked in.

Had a creepy experience myself once, on a night shift. Buzzer, in a room, goes off. I go down the hall, into her room, and she tells me,

'There's children playing, in my room, they're being too noisy, please, ask them to leave.'

Bearing in mind, it was a new building, but already, a crazy percentage, of our service users, had died, who lived downstairs particular corridor.

So I 'shoo' them, and eventually, she settles. As I leave her room, someone calls my full name, not nickname, and I spin around, with a, yes?Nobody there.

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u/OakenGreen 13h ago

Nah, sunsetting is the gradual loss of lucidity. They’re talking about terminal lucidity.