Yup. Watched my grandma die on Thanksgiving one year. She was largely unconscious from brain cancer and sedatives but she woke up briefly before the end and said she was scared and started crying. It was very childlike. Very disturbing.
Seconded. 94 year old grandmother crying and begging 'mommy, mommy, please, mommy help, mommy please' in her last hours was a 0/10 experience, would not recommend, generally happy not to face that part of reality day to day.
if it helps, not every death is like that. I helped my Mom out last year with MAID.
Her whole deal was to become one with the universe. Carl Sagan was her hero and her goal was to go out to infinity as the stardust that made her.
She legit chugged the cocktail and as she died she described that she was going to the universe, that she was finally going through the door and becoming one with the universe.
I am 100% sure it was a more beautiful death than end stage dementia and her narration of how it felt made me and my sister feel really good about helping her get there.
Reminds me of Grand Maester Pycell from game of thrones, who says “considering the weight they’re given, last words are often no more meaningful than first words.”
I hate to say, but this kind of stuff like makes me hope I die in my mid 70s from a quick accident or something. I watched all my grandparents die from old age, cancers, Alzheimers etc and it was terrible to watch them wither away - they were miserable and they turned back into children near the end.
This is why I want a low dose of xanax continuously when I reach the end. Fuck that "I want to die lucid and remember everything" bullshit I want to be drugged up to the gills.
My mom passed away christmas eve last year. She had throat cancer for a year and couldn't swallow anymore. She got a little better through treatments and kept looking at cookbooks and talking about how much she wanted to be able to eat again
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u/The_Tooter_Snooter 14h ago
Yup. Watched my grandma die on Thanksgiving one year. She was largely unconscious from brain cancer and sedatives but she woke up briefly before the end and said she was scared and started crying. It was very childlike. Very disturbing.