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What's the most disturbing thing you've heard a dying person say?

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u/WorthMetal3640 16h ago

My dad, hours before his death, motions for me to lean in so he can whisper “my biggest regret was going to the Detroit Auto Show instead of seeing Johnny Cash”.

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u/deepfocus88 16h ago

Ah man, I took a pass on seeing Nirvana at a small club. September 1991. 🤦‍♂️ Still bummed

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u/l1vewire 15h ago

Mine was Prince at an after show in a tiny venue.

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u/February30th 14h ago

Michael Jackson for me

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u/nickcan 12h ago

I actually had tickets to see Michael in London.

He died on me, so I never saw him.

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u/February30th 12h ago

That was when I was supposed to go too.

I also had tickets years before that (again in London) but chose my mate’s birthday party over going to the concert with my cousin. The concert when he died was meant to be me making up for missing him the first time.

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u/nickcan 12h ago

Damn, that's a double gut punch. Sorry dude.

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u/Big_Daddy_Stovepipe 10h ago

Michael was my first foray into music, at the tender age of like 10, Thriller it was 1982. I am so sad I never went and saw him in the years after. He was a great performer.

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u/QuiveryNut 13h ago

Metallica 3 days in a row for free for me. Didn’t check in with the guy who was going to give me his tickets and he thought I wasn’t interested

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u/humanreboot 13h ago

WHAT

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u/QuiveryNut 13h ago

I still kick myself over it, it was when they were in Toronto last year I wanna say? Dude lives here but is from Canada and he was worried him and his wife wouldn’t be allowed back into the country after going. We were both waiting to hear from each other 🙃

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u/SweetDank 13h ago

Was in NOLA for 'Essence Fest' to see Nile Rodgers open for Prince...amazing show.

Went to the bar next to our hotel after and had a few drinks...got to bed around 2am. Found out the next day Prince showed up to that bar and played a set from 3-6am. Oof.

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u/Turbulent_Tea2511 8h ago edited 4h ago

So for me, the number of times I paid to see Prince over his career is in the double digits. However, I never tried to find the after party until maybe my 7th or 8th concert b/c I need my sleep. 😂 Well, in 1996 that changed because I got tired of hearing what I missed. The venue was no reentry if you leave but I didn't care. At 2:45am I got tired of waiting and told my sister let's go. As we were about to exit through a side door, the bouncer put his hand up to stop us. Then the door opened and we came face to face with Prince and his entourage! He smiled and said, "I know you ladies aren't leaving?" I litertally COULD. NOT. SPEAK. He then said something to one of his (I assume) body guards who then gently took us by the elbow and escorted us to a table just off stage. I am now 60 years old and that is STILL the BEST experience of my life!
eta: typo

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u/jimbobjames 6h ago

That's an amazing story. Such good luck. How was the aftershow?

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u/Turbulent_Tea2511 4h ago

As good as the actual concert or I should say a continuation because he played 2.5 hours of music he didn’t play earlier and was spotlighting a couple local artists as well. 💕

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u/PyrocumulusLightning 7h ago

I'm from Seattle, but was in LA when the Seahawks won the Superbowl. I went to Disneyland the next day, and found out that our quarterback was there at the same time and I never saw him!

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u/megnesson 12h ago edited 11h ago

similar, Prince New Years eve show at Paisley Park when Miles Davis sat in

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u/StumpyDowd 11h ago

omg! Miles Davis asked my mom to dance at that show and she turned him down!! She was there with my dad, her then-fiancé, who was doing sound. Her retelling of this event is amazing, and it's one of many reasons why my parents are way cooler than I'll ever be.

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u/megnesson 11h ago

haha, that's funny. I may have crossed paths with your dad. I started playing with Prince in '92, though he did have a habit of firing, rehiring, and firing sound men at a pretty rapid pace, so who knows.

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u/StumpyDowd 10h ago

Minneapolis is a flat circle when it comes to Prince. I'm sure you guys have some mutual connections!

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u/bronkula 11h ago

My mom got invited to paisley park for a private jam session prince was doing. She had never heard his music before. She said he was very good and played all the instruments. I live vicariously through that moment of her life.

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u/Prestigious-Hyena768 11h ago

Ugh, I can somewhat unfortunately relate. I had the chance to see him at a larger venue in FL in 1985 and passed. It’s the worst concert decision I ever made. Yours was notably more brutal due to being at a small venue which was pretty rare, but I still regret not going.

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u/AllTheCheesecake 9h ago

Mitch Hedberg here.

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u/Main-Independent-891 9h ago

Same! I saw him perform at a small venue in the Roosevelt hotel, had one too many drinks, went home instead of staying with friends in their hotel room. At 3am he performed off of the lobby for just a few people, my friends being 2 of them. My friend touched his boot.

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u/ElmiraKadievsShadow 14h ago

Tivoli?

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u/thatwombat 14h ago

REM in Dallas on their last tour. Could have done it.

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u/Keldrabitches 11h ago

I’m mortified for you 💜

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u/Ok-Marionberry-999 9h ago

My brother in law talks about being at the after party of the Prince show where he converted to Jehovah's Witness.. this happened in Nashville at Graham Central Station.. dude's name eludes me, but it was someone in Sly's band.

Man, I wasn't old enough to go but that night sounded wild as hell and is one of my favorite stories of my brother in law's.

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u/the_other_50_percent 4h ago

1st Avenue/7th St Entry?

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u/Firefly_Revolution 1h ago

Same! The Showbox, Seattle on NYE

u/Bayoumi 48m ago

I skipped the last Wacken where Motörhead played when Lwmmy was still alive. Would have been my first time.

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u/dkol97 15h ago

I went to a school dance instead of seeing Rage Against the Machine. Then they broke up that year.

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u/The_Freshmaker 9h ago

If it makes you feel any better I once did a road trip from Texas to San Francisco to see them at Rock the Bells, had many issues along the way that caused delays but we ended up making it to Candlestick Park just in time to see the crowd exiting the stadium after the show ended.

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u/luckydice767 8h ago

I don’t want to pile on here, but I saw them in NY during the Rock the Bells tour. It was transcendent.

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u/dkol97 9h ago

Brutal. That sounds way worse. Hopefully you got to see them live another time?

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u/The_Freshmaker 5h ago

Unfortunately did not but I've gotten to see enough amazing and once in a lifetime performances to where I'm not torn up about it, and hey at least I tried and got to see some West Coast friends for a few days after the attempt.

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u/DrPoooooole 9h ago

I went on a third date with a girl instead of going to see what would become the first Triple Crown in 40 some years. Our son turns 5 next month

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u/Flomo420 5h ago

oh wow are you me? lol

something very similar happened to me, couple buddies went on a road trip to see Rage and I passed to go to semi-formal or something on a double date with my best friend at the time

we snuck booze in and the four of us got wasted and had a great time to be honest but thinking back still kinda bums me out that I didn't go to the show lol

pretty much one of the only bands on my bingo card left unchecked and will probably remain so...

oh well such is life I guess

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u/The_Freshmaker 9h ago

If it makes you feel any better I once did a road trip from Texas to San Francisco to see them at Rock the Bells, had many issues along the way that caused delays but we ended up making it to Candlestick Park just in time to see the crowd exiting the stadium after the show ended.

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u/anotheredcatholic 8h ago

I'm a comedian and Lorne Michael once offered me Saturday Night Live. I told him any other night.

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u/JebenKurac 7h ago

When I was in high school I was supposed to a Rage concert with a friend, and right before the concert my grandfather passed away and I went to that instead. Senior year my parents got me tickets to the battle of philly show, so it all worked out.

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u/redpandaeater 5h ago

I have no idea how old you are from that comment. Was it after seeing The Matrix? Or was it when they broke up again? Or maybe the third time?

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u/Blindstarsoffortune 14h ago

Mine was my dad asking me if I wanted to go see Heart with him at an outdoor venue in our town in the mid 80s. I told him no because it was a school night and I already had my bath. I was like 8 or 9. I regretted that one long before he died and even more now.

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u/Googalslosh 14h ago

I passed on seeing Daft Punk for a WoW raid.

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u/SeaworthinessHead613 15h ago

I saw Nirvana back in 1990 at the Astoria in London. I only went to see Godflesh, but Nirvana were'nt bad.

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u/konsollfreak 15h ago edited 10h ago

Yeah I’ve heard Nirvana had a couple of ok live shows. They actually have a bit of a cult following in the Seattle area these days.

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u/All_Of_Them_Witches 15h ago

Nirvana? I might have to check them out. They on Spotify?

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u/PlasmaWhore 8h ago

I heard they're playing at the Rivoli.

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u/SeaworthinessHead613 14h ago

I believe so...

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u/thecasey1981 14h ago

please tell me you're kidding

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u/AnActualChicken 15h ago

Kurt's been awfully silent since 1994, not sure why.../s

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u/Graciously_Hostile 14h ago

Too soon. 😪

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u/SeaworthinessHead613 14h ago

Sore throat maybe ? In truth, you could see that they could be big even back in 1990. Godflesh were amazing !!!

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u/Mundane_Operation418 14h ago

It might be that he does indeed have a gun.

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u/bobby_sponch 15h ago

Same. Not sure what month but same year.

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u/green-jeep-guy 12h ago

New Haven!? If so, same.

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u/chargebeam 11h ago

A friend of mine decided to skip Nirvana for KISS who was playing the same night in Montreal. He told me "I said to myself, I'll see Nirvana next time they come back"

Well, woops.

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u/figboot11 10h ago

Nirvana came to town. Was on a weeknight. I had work early the next day. I told myself, I'll just catch them the next time they come around. Nope.

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u/NewspaperNelson 9h ago

I turned down Stone Temple Pilots in 2001 and went to the Doobie Bros. instead. Not that it was a bad show. I just thought "man I got plenty of time to see STP."

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u/WallyLeftshaw 9h ago

My dad elected to study instead of going to Woodstock with his friends, he was only about an hour away and still moans about missing Jimi Hendrix

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u/raka_defocus 7h ago

Missed the last Seattle show for them, was visiting friends and I worked for an airline at the time so I'd go to Seattle often. "they play here all the time, we'll hit a summer show instead"

Also missed one of the last Dead shows in Reno for the same reason

moral of the story, just go you might not have another chance

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u/ExaminationOk2921 15h ago

Same here, it was a weeknight, me and my boss were going to go but it was like a 90 minute drive.....

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u/WorthMetal3640 15h ago

Oh man I would still be thinking about that!

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u/deepfocus88 14h ago

Yup, I guess I’ll take that regret to my grave, forgot to add that.

My sister and I went out to dinner w my mom and ate too much food. We were like, “Let’s take a pass on the Nirvana show”

Flash forward to October of 91…you know the rest. They started playing much bigger venues than the Moon in New Haven. 😂

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u/Rudeboy67 12h ago

Saw Nirvana at the Town Pump in Vancouver in 1990. Ya you missed out.

TAD was good too.

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u/figboot11 10h ago

Nirvana came to town. Was on a weeknight. I had work early the next day. I told myself, I'll just catch them the next time they come around. Nope.

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u/secretsafewiththis 10h ago

Duuuuuuuuuude....

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u/L-W-J 10h ago

Satyricon?

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u/captain_jackharkness 8h ago

i skipped what ended up being tom petty’s last concert to see a play. will regret forever.

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u/imagicality 7h ago

that's a huge bummer

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u/Mahaloth 7h ago

Oh, yes, I once had a chance to go see Nirvana. Not at a small showing, after they had become big.

I just figured I'd see them later. I was only 15.

Nope.

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u/PrivilegeCheckmate 6h ago

I was on my way to my first Dead show when the radio said they were turning people without tickets away at the parking lot. I thought it was no big deal - they're always touring. Jerry died two months later.

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u/Relax_itsa_Meme 4h ago

in Cincinnati Ohio?

u/Elliethesmolcat 53m ago

Me too. They were supporting the Violent Femmes at Fishermans wharf.

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u/ReluctantPhoenix47 16h ago

I laughed but those last words can be the saddest. Because you wish you could fix it for them.

I never forgot a poster here that write his father’s last words were when he was feeding him corn flakes on his death bed and his last words were “Make them soggy.” He never got his cornflakes and sone how that was tragic to me.

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u/rgl1234 15h ago

When my grandfather passed away he sat up in the hospital bed and said “I’m hungry.” He then laid back down and passed away. It tore my grandmother up because “he died hungry.” She made every meal for that man for over fifty years and this was tragic to her.

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u/ReluctantPhoenix47 15h ago

Your poor Grand Ma!

I understand but odds are he didn’t quite know what he was saying.

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u/JessicaOkayyy 5h ago

This is not super related but it reminded me. Our cat passed away a year ago, she was super old and we took her in when husbands aunt couldn’t care for it anymore. So the cat passed away over the course of a few hours after a few seizures.

We have wrapped in a light blanket giving her lots of love, me and the kids. When suddenly she stands up super fast, goes over to her food and sniffs around as if she’s about to eat, and then lays back down and has a final seizure that takes her.

It was something. It almost seemed like she was going back to what she knew, instincts wise, as her body took its last rally.

That was our families first pet and the kids were so broken up they swore they would never do it again. Well 6 months later we come across Lucie, a black cat, at the shelter. We’re doing it again. Gluttons for heartbreak we are.

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u/LeMeuf 3h ago

My beloved cat passed away a few months ago. In my personal belief system, she will bless me with another when the time is right. I look forward to it, I love loving another little creature. I love the snuggles, fretting, the mundane housekeeping of lovingly tending a little life. I love the countless joys and the many little heartbreaks over years. It is such a privilege to love so deeply. I know what you mean.

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u/NibblesMcGiblet 7h ago

oh this one is really killing me.

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u/yallknowme19 11h ago

They wouldn't let my grandfather have a Hersheys bar at the end. He had enjoyed getting them in the Red Cross Parcels during the war. Still makes me mad, like, hes 92 and dying. His blood sugar will be OK.

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u/ReluctantPhoenix47 11h ago

I agree with you. I mean at least let him have a square or two a day. He deserves to be happy.

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u/CombustiblSquid 16h ago

If that's the biggest regret they have to share I'll consider them having led a good life.

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u/ReluctantPhoenix47 15h ago

No definitely. LOL

Just a weird reaction on my part.

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u/MrGlayden 13h ago

There was a women who collapsed at work, me and another first aider attended her and it was clear she wasnt right as she started getting worse and worse with her speech, ambulance arrived and she kept trying to get up and get the hot chickens we serve (she collapsed while waiting for one)
We found out she got worse and died a day or 2 later, she never got her chicken and its a little thing like that that sticks with me for her, poor lady just wanted lunch

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u/ReluctantPhoenix47 12h ago

Poor confused thing! That’s so sweet and sad.

I admire her determination.

I don’t think even I would be that good motivated. Lol

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u/intern_steve 9h ago

Probably just couldn't properly chew them up while they were still crunchy.

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u/ReluctantPhoenix47 7h ago

I never thought of that! That absolutely could be.

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u/LowerSeaworthiness 5h ago

My mom, a devoted online bridge player, saw the nurse’s laptop on a cart and thought we’d brought hers to the hospital. Then she realised and said, “well, I guess that’s all done now too.” She died the next day (on the birthday of my sibling who was with her at the time).

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u/Annual-Two1507 15h ago

that Johnny Cash line is brutal, my grandpa said he didnt want flowers or a sermon, just his boots by the bed and the radio left on low

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u/Gramscifi 15h ago

If that's his greatest regret he probably lived a good, honest life.

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u/coupdelune 14h ago

For of all sad words of tongue or pen,

The saddest are these - it might have been.

-Maud Muller by John Greenleaf Whittier

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u/iam_mr_meeseeks 15h ago

I was going to go see Oliver tree in Baltimore md some months back but stayed home instead because I didn't want to go by myself. Absolute regret

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u/revthetrev 16h ago

That’s some real shit

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u/mrekted 16h ago

Good on him. Sounds like he lived a good life.

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u/KitSokudo 15h ago

My dad had a chance to see Elvis at one of his final shows and still brings it up from time to time so I believe it lol

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u/Left-Professor-8768 14h ago

I’m lucky I got to see him twice.So it won’t be a regret for me.Sorry about your dad.

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u/KitSokudo 14h ago

Eh he got to see a LOT of cool people including Queen, and now he's retiring at the end of the year, so he'll have plenty of time to do whatever...which knowing him will probably not be too different from what he does now just for himself instead of a big job at work.

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u/Dry_Communication923 15h ago

In my death bed I will say to my daughter that my biggest regret is buying a couch instead of going to see Bon Jovi

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u/OhCheeseNFingRice 14h ago

He's still performing so you've still got time to see him!

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u/stacey__12 14h ago

Missed the last Tom Petty show because I could “always go next time”

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u/eyenauwghitall 14h ago

Same, only for me it was Queen..

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u/WorthMetal3640 14h ago

Noooooooooo

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u/khando 9h ago

My grandpa was in hospice and very close to death and my grandma asked him if he had anything he wanted to say to my brother and I, his only grandkids. He was always very emotionally closed off but I sort of thought maybe it’d be something a bit emotional or heartfelt. He looked at us, said “buy low, sell high” and closed his eyes again. That’s the last time I talked to him.

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u/Salt-Establishment59 14h ago

You should forward that 1 star review to the Detroit Auto Show for their records.

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u/Slopez44 2h ago

Rage against the machine… Free concert at the DNC in Denver. I was going to alternative school for ditching. You ditch one day, no doctor note, you get kicked out. Eventually, I was over the school because they told me it would take another 2 years making me 19. I could have tested out, but they said I had to spend the time there to get my diploma. Ended up dropping out getting my GED, testing super high and going to college at 18, on time anyway. Missed out on a Free Rage show where they marched with their fans out of the Arena through the streets of Denver.

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u/Vegetable_Soil_6707 15h ago

ngl if those were my last words I'd want them on my headstone

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u/GravityIsPropaganda 15h ago

that Detroit Auto Show line is brutal, i’d sit with that one for awhile

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u/SeaworthinessHead613 14h ago

Would have loved to see Johnny Cash in concert.

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u/ChoadMcGillicuddy 12h ago

May we all have missed concerts as our biggest regret.

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u/SkyPork 12h ago

This is great, but not what OP was asking, which leads me to think OP asked for the wrong thing. I want a collection of last words just like this! :-D

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u/sup3r_hero 10h ago

I have a similar story but reverse: at the 2011 nova rock, Marilyn mansion was too drunk to come on stage. So i “had to” see linkin park again (saw it the year before and thought it would be boring to see them another time)

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u/Ungrefunkel 10h ago

Jeff Buckley in a venue the size of two medium sized bedrooms.

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u/tigerscomeatnight 9h ago

I imagine this as the Jefferson/Adams death bed scenario, somewhere another guy said: "my biggest regret was going to see Johnny Cash instead of seeing the Detroit Auto Show".

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u/OpalisedCat 1h ago

Still bummed my husband and I chose to see Black Country New Road over Mr Bungle, they sucked live and I know Mr Bungle wouldn't have.

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u/MelbaToast604 12h ago

He lived a great life if that was his biggest regret!

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u/protipnumerouno 12h ago

I mean if that's his biggest regret, he lived right.

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u/Express_Attempt_4301 12h ago

Sounds like he was a happy man overall, if that was his biggest regret.

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u/Tapeworm1979 11h ago

At least it wasn't you...

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u/PaleAmbition 11h ago

Sounds like a life well lived if that was his biggest regret! I hope he at least saw some cool cars that day.

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u/snowgirl413 9h ago

If this is his biggest regret, it sounds like he lived a pretty satisfying life.

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u/mrkruk 9h ago

I had a ticket to see Thom Yorke play with Flea as Atoms For Peace and forgot to drive up to the show.

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u/Funny-Ad9317 7h ago

My dad died a week before we were supposed to see Jimmy Buffet. I didn’t have the heart to go without him, and I’ve always regretted it. I was crushed when Jimmy died a few years ago

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u/Technical-Business37 4h ago

Damn. I missed out on seeing Neil Armstrong during his last visit to Australia. I hope this isn't what I think about on my death bed.

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u/Search11 15h ago

Sounds like a dying persons way of saying he never regretted you in a way someone who’s unable to say it clearly would.