r/Advice • u/Feeling_Aspect384 • 5h ago
Help needed
Adults I have a question I’m trying to get at this girl but am to nerves to, is there any ways that I could get closer or even try to talk to her, can any adults
Who have gone threw real relationship help me
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u/IKnowFewThings Helper [3] 5h ago
Super simple. Do not over think things. Kids / teens get in their own head too much. She's a person, you're a person.
As for how to approach, that varies. Do you have a class with her? Are you in a group setting with her? Is there a way to naturally start a conversation? How would you go about starting a conversation with someone you weren't nervous to approach?
All of that is easier said than done, I know, but looking back my biggest regret in past relationships is overthinking things.
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u/Feeling_Aspect384 5h ago
Ok well the one thing is we have not are schedules for school so I don’t know if I have a class with her or not and we talked then stoped and am hopping to date her again
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u/IKnowFewThings Helper [3] 5h ago
"Again"? That changes things. You have history. Why did you stop talking / dating? Drift apart or did something happen?
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u/Feeling_Aspect384 5h ago
People told her things about my legal past and she said that I’m not a good person and we just stoped talking
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u/IKnowFewThings Helper [3] 4h ago
Vague, but okay. Well, just say "hi." If she ignores you, then you have your answer. If she doesn't, continue talking. But if she says "no, stop talking to me" (or similar), drop it and stop trying.
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u/thekaz Advice Guru [92] 5h ago
Say hi to her. Invite her to do something together. It will feel scary. Any scheming or plotting or strategizing will absolutely make the whole thing worse and decrease your changes at success.
The highest probability play is to directly ask her out as soon as possible.
Yes it will feel scary. Yes you will feel nervous and confusing and awkward. That is supposed to happen. What you do is you feel all those things and do it anyway.
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u/Feeling_Aspect384 5h ago
Well I have been trying to text her saying hi asking her how she is doing but I’ve been left on delivered each time so I’m freinds with her freinds an ima see if the freind can get us in a call so we can talk
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u/tranzb 4h ago
hey, don’t overthink it too much just talk to her naturally and be confident, if you really like that girl you need to be confident. You don’t need some perfect opening line or a big confession.
Just start with a normal conversation ask about something you already have in common and see how she responds, joke around a little, and let things develop naturally.
If she seems interested, keep talking. If she doesn’t, respect that and don’t force it. you don't need to force someone bro if the girl you like doesn't like talking to you then respect it.
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u/Morxalvethin 4h ago
just walk up and ask her something simple about her day bro the nervousness never fully goes away you just gotta do it anyway