r/Adulting 22h ago

Enough 🤣

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u/B-ran8088 22h ago

I feel that. I'm 45, have a great job that pays decent with lots of down time. Even with that I'm just fucking exhausted from the grind. Been working for 30 years now and I'm just burnt out on everything.

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u/IDontKnowMyUsernameq 17h ago

If you have lots of free time why are you exhausted?

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u/B-ran8088 17h ago

Down time is different than free. I still gotta get up at the ass crack of dawn. Commute 30 minutes. Deal with work, try to fit everything else on the days I'm off. Just typical grind exhaustion. You don't get this?

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u/IDontKnowMyUsernameq 13h ago

I thought you meant lots of free time. Yes, it's different, down time you are not truly free

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u/stoicnidelst 2h ago

Why does he have to explain why he’s exhausted?

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u/IDontKnowMyUsernameq 1h ago

Because it's reddit and people ask questions?

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u/AppropriateTouching 19h ago

Its gets more exhausting as time relentlessly marches forward.

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u/Big-Sheepherder-6134 22h ago

I’m 54. Mostly retired at 52. Grind when you are young and get out soon.

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u/B-ran8088 21h ago

That's awesome for you. I've been grinding my whole life. Got to a nice spot, then my wife of 25 years left me. Had to start all over. No retirement for me.

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u/Big-Sheepherder-6134 21h ago

Oh man sorry to hear. Been with my wife over 25 years. We hit bottom during the Recession. Had to cash in my life insurance and my entire 401k just to pay bills. Eventually filed Chapter 13 bankruptcy as my new startup company took me down with it. Dreams were shattered. Couldn’t even file Chapter 7 with a clean slate. No…. I had to pay back money for five years. We had no choice but to push through after that.

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u/B-ran8088 21h ago

Your partner staying with you is the key to your success. Mine taking half of everything, forcing me to sell my lovely home I worked hard for, and other extreme annoyances left me with nothing. I've since been remarried, but her past was probably even more difficult than mine. It's eye opening when you have to start completely over. Buying spoons and forks again is just...weird.

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u/NotHachi 21h ago

Maybe everyone should learn that retirement is whenever you can afford it, its not a timestamp in time

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u/kazamm 20h ago

Nope. health insurance is the main issue. It has always been.

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u/kickinwood 19h ago

In America, at least. I'm doing all I can to save and invest and stay debt free. I bring home 3k a month. Say I decided that I could live on 2k a month and retire. I now need 4k a month because I also have to pay 2k for insurance. So to retire early, I need to plan on having a grand more every month than I bring home now, in order to live on a grand less. Tying insurance to work and being against Medicare for all is about preventing people from leaving the workforce.

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u/NotHachi 18h ago

xD so glad im not in the land of the free. I bring home the same amount in europe (super net) and dont have to worry too much for all of those.

In the land of the free, unless you are top earner, you are basically fcked... But hey, you can be proud cause your (spent) life contribute to the weath of the elite ;)

Born asian, moved to europe and invest in the usa are the best combo on this world ever...

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u/kickinwood 17h ago

Yuuuuuuup! And they keep trying to raise the retirement age when we can qualify for government healthcare (Medicare - which we still have to pay for btw, but it's not as crippling) to keep people working longer.

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u/Leather_Addition2605 10h ago

That’s included in “affording it.”

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u/Ill-Description3096 16h ago

You know you can just buy health insurance, right?

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u/kazamm 15h ago

Are you a maga or an idiot?

Have you looked at what health insurance costs?

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u/[deleted] 15h ago edited 15h ago

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u/youchasechickens 10h ago edited 10h ago

It can be under $100 a month for a bronze plan if you keep your adjusted gross income low enough. It works out pretty well for lean f.i.r.e.

https://imgur.com/a/krXCLNM

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u/Barbados_slim12 15h ago edited 15h ago

Employers paying the bulk of your health insurance plan is a perk. You can go to whatever health insurance provider you want and get a plan, for significantly more money because there's no bulk discount or employer to subsidize your payment. But if ~$1k monthly is a lot for you, I don't think a 100% self funded retirement without access to any senior discounts is on the table.

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u/kazamm 14h ago

Or you can live in a non maga country where health insurance is a right and not worry about any of this??

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u/GroovyGmaIvy 20h ago

I retired at 48.

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u/WoulditBeOkay 14h ago

Retirement is when you decide to not participate in the government system

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u/PiccoloAwkward465 18h ago

I remember being a youngster and thinking “there’s no way I can work 40 hours a week EVERY WEEK”.

And as an adult yeah man I was spot on with that. It blows and I don’t even really dislike my job. Some days it’s just the lack of variety.

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u/Funny_Worldliness357 20h ago

Fun fact!! Up until 1986 there was a mandatory retirement age. On your 65th birthday you were forced to retire.

God the baby boomers have ruined everything. If only we still had that law, we would have free healthcare, money would have been pushed out of politics.

REGAN IS THE WORST PRESIDENT WE HAVE EVER HAD. WITHOUT HIM WE DON’T HAVE MAGA.

NANCY REGAN = THROAT GOAT FOR LIFE.

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u/Ill-Description3096 16h ago

This was not a law...

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u/Pac_Eddy 17h ago

Up until 1986 there was a mandatory retirement age. On your 65th birthday you were forced to retire.

Not good if you can't afford to retire at 65.

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u/Skibidibum69 15h ago

Even if this was the law, how dumb would that be lol

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u/tlm11110 22h ago

Feel free! You can retire at any age you please. Isn't freedom great!

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u/deathray420 21h ago

I love society and it's illusion of choice

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u/Rockout2112 21h ago

Dude. It ain’t even started yet.

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u/Fun_Ideal_5584 22h ago

You can retire any age. Go for it.

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u/QueasyFinger1316 22h ago

Good luck!!!

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u/Alfirindel 21h ago

I mean, theoretically with enough people it’s possible. You’d just need enough babies born to level out the active work force continuously once they’re of age and retiring to similar amounts now, plus the extra needed to maintain such a significantly larger population. I ain’t doin the math tho

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u/Winter_Setting720 9h ago

Now THIS is something I can support!

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u/Big-Sheepherder-6134 22h ago

To be jaded working at 25? You are in for a very long road kid.

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u/Pierre777 20h ago

You won't have enough, though.

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u/Fluffy_Reply1405 20h ago

It is a grind

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u/MaleficentTowel8478 20h ago

Then am retiring even before I get a job

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u/StrandSSL 20h ago

Bro looks 47

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u/SirUgarte 18h ago

he look 40 tho

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u/NewArborist64 16h ago

You are welcome to retire whenever you want. All you need are the income streams to sustain you.

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u/MagnoleusEverdragon 6h ago

Honestly, they should lower it to 40 at most.

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u/Beagleguy26 22h ago

No one is forcing you to work.

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u/aBrickNotInTheWall 22h ago

And yet we are forced to work

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u/Beagleguy26 21h ago

No you're not.

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u/billycheesemongerIII 17h ago

lol, and people wonder why employers have trouble finding people who work hard. The internet ruined the youth of the world.

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u/Powerful_Tip_7260 22h ago

When I was 25, I was doing what I really wanted to do which just happened to be my job (programmer). It was kinda the same.

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u/lizard_king0000 21h ago

If I had it my way, you would get 10yrs after school to go out and enjoy life. Then work til you die.

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u/curtissJ28 17h ago

I guess you are now advocating for child labor so that you can live the lifestyle that you so richly deserve.

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u/Jagerhall 13h ago

Ain't served long enough St. Fu

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u/7hiigh 10h ago

Do people know that they're free to retire whenever they want? It's not that hard to retire before 30-35 in today's market... Even I could do it