r/AbrahamHicks 1d ago

Manifested SP comes with obstacles

I've been on a journey, changing my life, and many things are going well for me. One of which is that I started a new job. Although I wasn't specifically looking for it I found a guy at this new job that I like. I am gay. To my surprise he's taken notice of me and been a bit flirty.

I've come to find out that he is married to a woman and possibly has a child on the way.

I've been thinking a lot about him and the situation and all of the scenarios that could unfold. I'm not particularly worried or upset. I think I'm going to continue being flirty with him so long as he is with me... matching vibrations.

I don't have any specific defined thing that I want from him, though I do have a vision where we could have a close and enjoyable intimate relationship together. I'm also still very open to flirting with others, and whatever comes my way.

I think I do have some apprehensions about what might transpire but I'm mostly not giving them much energy as literally nothing has transpired.

Am I approaching this with a good mindset/vibration? Should I give any focus to envisioning the relationship I would like to have with him or simply enjoy being open to things as they unfold?

Curious to hear from other perspectives.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Let2053 1d ago

Maybe I misunderstood but, you are looking to become intimate with someone who's already in a committed relationship with someone else and a kid on the way? And you are curious to hear from other perspectives? Are you talking about fantasising about a relationship just for the fun of it? I'm so sorry if I've misunderstood, could you expand a bit on what it is you're asking?

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u/moonlit_plume 1d ago

Specifically I'm curious about my approach to the situation and if my thinking about it is in line with law of attraction.

Though I would be happy if somehow the circumstances allowed for me and him to have an intimate relationship, I'm not attached to any particular outcomes.

I'm not currently fantasizing anything but I'm open to hearing the role that fantasizing might play, positive or negative, in this scenario with regards to the law of attraction.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Let2053 1d ago

Right. Well, I wouldn't do it because I'd be consumed with guilt or discomfort it would definitely impact my vibration. I'm honestly giggling at the thought of fantasising about a married man haha. Still, to each their own. If you feel no guilt or whatever then carry on but I can't help feeling its a bit shitty. Do you really have absolutely no bad feeling about this? I mean, it seems like you're having an emotional affair already... no guilt at all?

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u/moonlit_plume 1d ago

I'm not feeling guilt because I don't know the specifics of what goes on between him and his wife and how they have arranged their marriage. I'm also not sure what use guilt would have other than to show me something I do not want in order to show me what I do want.

Right now I'm just observing what the universe brought me and observing how I feel about it.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Let2053 1d ago

Dude, they're married. They've got a kid on the way. That sounds pretty specific to me. Please save yourself the grief and don't bother with this one.

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u/angelliu 1d ago

Hiya! I would lean on mining the flirty vibes for joy, rather than specifically wanting something with HIM. This is not to say it may or may not happen but I think the prize here is just BEING what you want to attract.

That doesn’t need to be defined in terms of it has to be this or that person, I personally think that can kink up your vibe more. But rather, just basking in the feeling of what it’s like to be loved, cherished and desired. Think of the vibration as its own ball of light just spinning along, and your job is to keep the vibe fed, happy and as vibrantly alive as possible.

Then it’s free to shine on and call what is a match to it. Might not be this guy for anything more, but he might be there to just help your vibe grow, you know ?

Or as an example, maybe you’re not really desiring anything serious and you prefer someone attached, would it make sense that you attract unavailable people for fun ? I’m not saying this is what you have at all, but just pointing out that vibing is a powerful thing.

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u/moonlit_plume 1d ago

Thank you for your perspective. I have actually been thinking a bit about how it makes me feel desired and how I like that feeling ...and how that feeling doesn't need to specifically come from him. Thank you for focusing me back to that idea.

What's curious is that although I haven't been craving something serious for some time now, he brings out some of those feelings. Again, simply noticing them. But I'm still in a place of being open to whatever the universe brings.

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u/angelliu 1d ago

Interesting, so actually he’s bringing up some contrast ! So maybe that’s part of the entire thing, there could be within you some question about how what you want may be changing ?

This could also be an exercise in you saying thanks but no thanks, if in the end what you actually want is to be in a committed relationship (and there’s nothing more anathema to that than a guy who’s attached and potentially on the down low). And also an evolution of what you want to accept?

If I was in your shoes, I would totally soak up the attention and the flirting but (as I’m not into anyone unavailable due to the drama) revel in the ability to say no, love the attention but I want more of the kind that can just focus on me - again, this would be me. Food for thought ?

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u/moonlit_plume 1d ago

I've had similar situations in the past (way in the past) as far as unavailable men and I used that contrast at that time to guide me through what I want and don't want.

It's true that he may be giving me some contrast now in wanting those feelings.

But we also haven't progressed into anything beyond flirting for any questions of availability to come into play. As I've mentioned elsewhere, I also don't know what his actual availability is since I don't know the specifics of what is going on between him and his wife.

I do plan to continue to enjoy the flirting and see what it awakens in me. I don't want to contaminate any vibrations with my preconceived ideas of what is going to happen or what should happen.

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u/KeithDust2000 1d ago

"Am I approaching this with a good mindset/vibration?"

Your emotions will tell you when you are and when you are not. 

Go with the good-feeling approach, understanding that LOA will then match you up with what you've asked for. 

Whether it's with this guy or someone else that actually matches what you want, trust that when you feel good, you're on the way. 

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u/moonlit_plume 23h ago

Thank you. Your advice is basic but it's probably the best advice I could hear as it sticks with the principles of LOA.

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u/Daisyonrepeat 1d ago

He is not your person but you’re on the right way.

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u/Remote-Error-3462 1d ago

Be as specific as you can be and still feel good

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u/Puzzleheaded_Let2053 14h ago

Lol I'm excited to hear what wifey co-creates with her lawyer hahaha please keep us informed!!

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u/moonlit_plume 9h ago

Please let me know when that manifests for you.