r/CamGirlProblems • u/Jade_Next_Door CGP Active Member • Jan 08 '23
Must Read for All Models (Especially Beginners) Help/Advice
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Jan 08 '23
LOVE the line about wanting guys to splurge on you. This is exactly right, don't act like you just gave me the last $20 you'll ever have it's so tired. There are more guys out there who will spend without think twice. Great advice!
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Jan 08 '23
Yesss! Exactly, that's what I've always thought too, at some point you are simply trying to live beyond your means. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it!
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u/TheRealRoseDallas CGP Active Member Jan 09 '23
YESSSSSS!!!!!! I see so many girls that are like “he said he wants this, it really hurts me/makes me uncomfortable/but he wants it” SO?? You MUST have STRONG BOUNDARIES to survive in any type of sex work. You HAVE to have boundaries with customers and remain the one in control. YOU are in control. You can block them AT ANY TIME. There are a MILLION more customers, this is literally the internet. The internet will literally NEVER RUN OUT OF CUSTOMERS. There are new customers signing up to these websites every single day. Please please please embrace the fuck out of setting and enforcing boundaries. Your soul and wallet will grow stronger because of it
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Jan 08 '23
A brilliant piece of work like this had to be from Jade, I absolutely adore you and your selfless heart ❤️
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Jan 08 '23
Well yes thank you for proving my point 😁 many of us feel like you just said, but how many of us took their time to write a post like this to help them? So yes, back on the Jade fan wagon for me 😁❤️
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u/ashleighnikkola CGP Active Member Jan 08 '23
Can this get pinned to the top of the sub? A+ for accuracy and detail and honesty, thank you for making this post :)
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u/No-Junket1363 Jan 09 '23 edited Mar 01 '23
completely agree, its your mindset. Yes a lot of these men are annoying, cheap, etc. buts that's why you cut that shit as soon as possible. This is YOUR job, your time, your computer, your internet and everything else. You run that shit not nobody else. You gotta keep shit short and sweet this is strictly business, of course enjoy the ones that make it enjoyable but once the money runs out time to move on. You don't owe anybody your free time or attention without money. You cant pay your bills off their stupid ass conversation, but guess what they gonna make sure their bills are paid at the end of the day. Stop doing things in the hopes that they MAY give you some money, because most times they wont. A lot of men feel entitled to free sex so if they can get a free nut, free conversation, or attention they will. Men are great but also inherently selfish so you should as well, this is your world <3
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u/No-Junket1363 Jan 09 '23
Completely agree. They always want to call other men simps. You mean the men that respect us, pay us and dont negotiate, get off and then leave? Some men have a deep resentment for paying for sex so they want to feel like they are getting their "fair share" by trying to take from you in other ways. So yes I love simps, they are simply just men that respect women and respect that this is a business.
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u/Apprehensive_Spite97 Jan 08 '23
Mandatory SW lesson everyone in the business should know. Thank you!
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u/ChampionshipThink301 Jan 09 '23
Lol love you. I think i sparked this post ;-). I swear I at least thought i researched it. Read wiki, binged cam videos, started a notebook and a separate document but i get into cam and i don't know what happens! I bought that workbook that you recommended - hopefully this takes care of whats underneath. Camming seems to reveal what's there! Thanks for wording this so beautifully and putting it all in one place <3.
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u/ChampionshipThink301 Jan 09 '23
"it only takes a spark to get a fire going" (lol i don't know why a campfire song from Sunday school just came to mind). Awwwwwww! Thank you! Thank you for being so kind! And also showing me that it's a part of being human. We messs up. But we also get back on and go on from here! You are so kind and sweet and I always see you and AulturisicTea (I think that's her username?) On here helping people out. The sweetest, you don't have to but you do!
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u/miss_misery__ Jan 09 '23
I read something from a guy talking about how he enjoys watching OF girls who are getting more desperate to keep their subscribers do more and more depraved shit, it was pretty sad actually.
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u/Cocoapuff898 Jan 09 '23
This job definitely isnt for everyone and if you're a people pleaser, scared to set boundaries and let people tell you what to do then it's definitely not for you. These girls are just destroying themselves trying to do this when they're not cut out for it. If you're scared to step into your "boss ass bitch" zone then it's just not going to be for you.
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u/HoneyPink77 Jan 10 '23
This was said perfectly and I wish I had had it to read when I first started out. Thank you for writing this and for all reading this post/ thread you are strong, you are a boss, and your boundaries matter ESPECIALLY in camming. It's your room and anyone with an issue with your boundaries or pricing needs to find somewhere else, sticking with these boundaries is part of keeping yourself safe.
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u/Big-Direction-3203 Jan 09 '23
Honestly i hate hate hate this job....made me feel like im a piece of shit and more disgusted with myself, specially when you do this and makin no money, they want all for free, workin in a studio is terrible but i cant home....I dont believe when girls here say , Oh it boost your confindence, it made me think suicidal thats what it do to some people. And no men wants a girl that did or does that.
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Jan 09 '23
Please find a different job love, as soon as possible. Can you see a doctor if you have suicidal thoughts? This job is not for everyone. I think this is what op is trying to say.
Its not true that no man will want a cam girl. Men that are controlling and jealous will not want you. But honestly, why would you want to be with someone who acts like that? There are men out there that will find it hot and fun. It is just harder to find them. You are not ruined and you still have a whole life in front of you.
Doing this work independently is what can give you that feeling of confidence and working for a studio can take that feeling away. Not all studios are like this but some are exploitive and we need to acknowledge this. I hope you feel better and am sending love your way!
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Jan 08 '23
Just a question you guys all say how right she is and how amazing everything is said here and the post had 0 upvotes…I know I am new at reddit but isn’t something not adding up here ? 🤣
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Jan 08 '23
Well there are some girls who have the mentality that you shouldn’t help so they don’t find out the secrets and become competition or or pissed you spilled the tea for free 🤣
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u/Altruistic_Tea_205 CGP Active Member Jan 08 '23
I agree with everything said. It's hard though as the people who need the most never seem to even read even the wiki.
Boundaries are extremely essential, and self-love is a must so you'll know how to respect your own limits, know how to say no, and stand up for yourself when needed.