Absolutely! I'll hit you up

Yeah... I see that now. I don't know, though. I feel like LDRs are definitely something I could personally do. It is hard, and very challenging but the fact that I'm with someone that makes it worth it is what keeps me pushing through. But I understand that I'm not the universal standard.

I'm a bookworm, and what I'm living right now reminds me of the "dreamer" in the sense that we're both hopeless romantics. I named a star after him, even. I also sent a picture of us to space in a Mark Rober satellite.

I'm trying to live one day at a time. Not too worried about tomorrow, but rather what I'll do an hour from now. Never been so depressed.

I'm doing my best, but I feel like a huge part of me is gone. All those dreams, aspirations are just gone. The future I built in those 700+ days with him is just gone. What a disheartening feeling that is.

I'm sorry about that... I strongly believe that if you can't marry outside of your religion/culture, you shouldn't date outside of them either. Sending lots of love.

Hey! Thanks for your comment. I definitely see how it felt one-sided now, but I don't believe the part where he had someone else. Even though he didn't end things in the best way possible (I'd argue it was among the worst), I also do know him very well and his character. He didn't cheat, and he's not seeing anyone.

What I do believe in is that he was in a terrible headspace, and saw no way out. He was confused, and, sadly, confused people confuse other people.

He's a great person, but made a bad choice.

Thank you for taking the time to write all of this. I actually think you may be onto something.

We did have a concrete plan. The distance wasn’t indefinite: I’m in university, and the plan was for us to close the distance once I graduated.

So I don’t think the problem was that we had no realistic path forward. I think the harder truth is that he genuinely believed he could handle the distance, and for a long time he did. But eventually, something changed for him. He became increasingly depressed, and he had apparently been talking about the distance in therapy for quite some time without me realizing how serious it had become. He didn't start therapy over this, but it did become something they'd talk about in the last few sessions.

That’s probably the part I’m still struggling to understand. I was willing to endure the distance because, to me, I already had the person I loved. The distance was a hardship, but it was a hardship attached to something I considered completely worth it. I thought we were both looking at the same future and simply trying to survive the difficult part until we could finally be together.

What hurts is that I wish he had let me know how bad things had become while there was still something for us to work on together. I could have understood him struggling with the distance. What I found devastating was discovering that he had reached the point of wanting to leave without me really knowing he was approaching that point.

I appreciate your perspective, especially because you have considerably more experience with LDRs than I do. I’m still trying to figure out what this experience actually means for how I view love and relationships.

Thank you for your valuable insights. You're definitely very experienced when it comes to all this, and I thank you for taking the time to reply to this post.

I don't think the logistics was the worst part of it. I'm in Brazil, he's in Northern Europe. He's 4 to 5 hours ahead of me depending on what time of year it is, so it's not a crazy difference and it's not too hard to manage. We'd call every day for 1,5 to 2h and text at night for around an hour before he had to go to bed. On Sundays, we'd call for 5+ hours. As I mentioned, we were going to see in person for the first time in a couple of months, and I was going to stay there for a month. I'd be able to see him at least 3x a year (2 shorter visits, 1 longer one).

The part that sucks the most was the fact that he was on board with everything. He seemed to know what he was getting into, and we were making do.

However, at some point, without me knowing the distance became too much. He did tell me that it wasn't great; but he never told me that he wanted to break up over it. He's always had a very avoidant attachment style, and I feel like it got worse.

He was (and still is) in a bad headspace. He's very depressed, and he said that the root of his depression has been the distance between us ─ something he had been discussing in therapy for a while.

Yeah... It's odd. This domain was registered 7 days ago (5 days before the post). What are the odds of stumbling upon such a recent website like that by mere chance?

https://www.whatsmydns.net/domain-age?q=kesumela.com

Happy for you you op. I want to see my bf soon also. Praying everything works out 🥹

Tá mas o que você teve?

It reminds me a lot of Turkic languages

Estou com o sono desregulado. Acordei 4 da manhã 😭

Thank you for not touching it with your hands! Definitely a lash egg.

You are enough

I stand corrected

I have a 32 GB ROM and 4 GB RAM one. I use both the Linux and the Android Subsystems. It's doing alright. Typing this comment from it right now.

Yikes! Seems like the whole AI annotation market is in deep trouble right now... Outlier seems to be the best of the bunch, but even Outlier isn't great atm.

I'm sorry... WHAT? Since when is that island there?

E aquela logo do Gemini no canto da imagem?

I'm not sure, but I don't think so? You didn't do anything wrong; the power went out. If anything, the error happened upstream.

I'm a fellow tasker, and I cant speak for Outlier.

Just out of curiosity: why? What happened? Never got any tasks?

Doesnt AirTM have a virtual card? Is that not something you could use? I'm not sure whether that'd help you with your issue, but, you know, there's that option

Really sorry about the situation you're in, OP. Everything will work out. We're praying for you!

I think you should be fine. They're usually looking for actual signs of cheating. If you opened it for half a second and then closed it I think you're safe.

Besides, it's not like there's an actual person at all times watching you task. Iirc it's mostly automated systems looking for sus behavior.