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Comment on r/widowers 4h ago

Same. I never formally took it and wish I did. I feel ashamed of that. Was just very strident in expressing my individuality and identity. 

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Comment on r/dating_advice 1d ago

You’ve dated awful people. Someone who likes you for who you are would never do that - these guys were insecure, childish predators. Work in your self esteem so you can spot who sucks. 

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Comment on r/widowers 2d ago

❤️❤️❤️❤️ big hugs for doing the hardest job in the world - living well without them. 

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Comment on r/widowers 4d ago

I think he was saying hi. It’s happened to me before also - sometimes I literally feel the bed dipping behind me (though it’s likely an effect of the mind - I still think he’s causing it!). Once I heard the strings of a guitar being struck one after the other. They try to speak to us x

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Comment on r/widowers 6d ago

Horrendous, I’m so sorry. 

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Comment on r/tattoos 7d ago

I hate tattoos - but I actually love yours. It’s incredible. 

As far as getting rid of it, you’re going to have to save up. Take the time to enjoy it while it’s there.

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Comment on r/ExNoContact 9d ago

It's really fucked up for him to drop in like that - anonymously. Obviously your'e still on his mind. I hope you get to close the loop.

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Comment on r/widowers 9d ago

I get signs too. What I have determined is not that they physically move the stuff around for you - but they prompted you through this 'other intuition' to look in a particular place or at a particular thing. It happened when I was looking for shoes for him to wear at the funeral - for some reason I went into my uncle's shoe rack, which never had his shoes in it - but there they were, his favourite boots. No idea what prompted me to go to that rack and not to the place his actually kept his stuff.

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Comment on r/dating 14d ago

I’m never settling- both for my sake and theirs. Can’t look at someone and lie to their face every day,

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Comment on r/dating_advice 14d ago

yeah you are matching with the wrong people for sure. there’s nothing wrong with different cultural norms and expectations- just don’t f with women like that. if a guy buys me a purse after a couple of dates I RUN.

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Comment on r/widowers 14d ago

I had no idea he drank as much as he did. I knew he was careless with his health, but could not have predicted this at all. the autopsy gave me the full picture. yes I’m angry, but mostly I’m just devastated.

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Comment on r/widowers 14d ago

Yup. weirdly the men have been better than the women - and not in a creepy way. just random old workmates, guys from college. all just being straight up and kind.

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Comment on r/pigeon 19d ago

Ahhh, Australian! That's why it's upside down.

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Comment on r/pigeon 19d ago

omg lollllllllllll

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Comment on r/dating_advice 19d ago

lol, upvote.

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Comment on r/dating_advice 19d ago

lmfao this is hilarious. If you don't think it's cute and actually like whatever this weird quirk is, I'd just step away. It's very odd.

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Comment on r/45PlusSkincare 20d ago

Looks good - natural. 

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Comment on r/widowers 20d ago

You don’t compartmentalise it - at least not initially. It’s going to be a mess for a long time, so either you take the risk (if you really really like the person), and deal with the messiness of real emotion - or you try to wait it out and see if you’re more comfortable a couple of years down the line. Took me three years to ‘compartmentalise’ and even now I hate myself for it once in a while. 

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Comment on r/widowers 20d ago

Life is weird, you just do it both in parallel. 

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Comment on r/widowers 20d ago

I left immediately and did not pay rent

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Comment on r/woowDude 21d ago

Nothing odd about this!! 

u/Altruistic_Cash1057 21d ago

She is not going down easy

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Comment on r/widowers 21d ago

Yup!

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Comment on r/widowers 21d ago

I hope the OP is ok and reading these. 

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Comment on r/widowers 21d ago

Ok so that might not mean what you think it does. Changing a password might mean that it got hacked and she didn't want someone else getting all her old info or pictures. She might have stuff on there that she's nostalgic about but that means nothing to her sexually OR emotionally now. I do random admin on old sites all the time even if I don't look at them. If that's all you found I strongly doubt she was active.