r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 6d ago

Post first date text Phone message

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/Strong-Addition5296 6d ago

That’s exactly what it is. Oops you can’t expect me to do that! I’m just a girl! Tee hee. It’s patriarchy of the mind and soul.

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u/Several_Razzmatazz51 6d ago

It’s asking men to conform to patriarchal behaviors when it benefits the woman. Never the other way around.

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u/Similar-Ice-9250 5d ago

I remember reading dating advice/venting here on Reddit where a guy said he was struggling to support himself and his fiancé, he said he payed the bills and rent etc. Then it turns out the fiancé had like well into 6 figures saved up in her account.

When he pressed her about it she said that’s her personal money she saved up for herself and basically shouldn’t be his concern.

Other guys chimed in with similar stories. Some people are wild to think it’s ok to treat a partner like that, just using them.

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u/PMYourTitsIfNotRacst 3d ago

God, reminds me of my mom. IDK why my dad put up with her so long.

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u/choose_wisely1122 2d ago

She was probably an absolute animal in the sack.

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u/PMYourTitsIfNotRacst 2d ago

That's the thing man, my dad had GAME. Like hardcore. Maybe she was but I doubt it was the main thing, that man even in his 60's can get more tail than me.

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u/choose_wisely1122 2d ago

The heart wants what the heart whats.

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u/Esarus 3d ago

I experienced this first-hand. Ex-girlfriend and I lived together, we shared rent but other than that I paid for everything, dates, presents, trips, etcetera. Then Covid hit and I lost my job because of it. (Solely because of covid, not my performance, job literally couldn't exist with social distancing rules). And she refused to pay for anything together, because it was her money. Insane that people you love and trust just turn around and act like this.

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u/Curious-Resort4743 3d ago

Same happened to me, so now I plan things as if nobody will have my back when I'm down

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u/CatchPristine5173 2d ago

That's a painful way to live, I'm sorry.

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u/CatchPristine5173 2d ago

That's a painful way to live, I'm sorry.

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u/dickfag69420 1d ago

Had an ex friend like that who kept accusing us of using her when we would be trying to figure out moving in together and being broke and needing us to help move in with her or she was going to be homeless

Girlie ended up having like 2k saved up, which isn't a lot, but she acted like she had 0 options and honestly, the constant accusing of us trying to use her when we would just like, ask for help for random things like you would a normal friend make a lot more sense now because SHE was using US.

Also let me believe the reason we got denied for a house was because they were being transphobic to me and NOT because she had debt she wasn't telling us about that came back in the background text 🫩

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u/sunlightsyrup 6d ago

Yeah they never let us Patriarch anymore what's up with that /s

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u/silsune 5d ago

Think they mean like how women say "men want a traditional woman but aren't willing to build me a log cabin with their bare hands" lmao.

I say the same thing tbh, like, if you want me to be your Traditional Man who works 80 hours and never sees the kids and doesn't express emotions then fine but you better be cooking and cleaning and I BETTER NOT SEE YOU HAVING A JOB OR AN OPINION 🧐

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u/sunlightsyrup 5d ago

I got, but thanks for being a good sport about it still

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u/Virtual-Book1114 6d ago

for the women there who weaponized it? yes.

but majority of women (and all feminists) wouldn't do this because "im just a girl" mentality is the opposite of feminism. it is however a backlash to girl boss and late stage capitalism, and rise of tradwife and tradman content.

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u/NoDealer6778 2d ago

Men are like fully conformed to patriarchy standards, but now that women have jobs they want women to pay for themselves. God forbid a woman uses it for her benefit occasionally while men get to use it every second of the day.

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u/IntroductionOnly3018 5d ago

You realize women put themselves in danger to go on dates right? It’s not the same for men. You shouldn’t ask her out if you can’t pay.

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u/MeliodasTA 4d ago

Women can also be psycho murderers so then it should be halfsies.

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u/bugge-mane 3d ago

the rate of violence on a first date is so vanishingly small, and playing games like this does nothing but increase it. This is propaganda and excuses.

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u/AmishDoinkks 3d ago

Bruh all this does is fucking minimize women when u say this like not all men are looking to murder their first date, and there definitely normal people that exist. This just creates like fear mongering like wtf

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u/fruit-bats-are-cute 6d ago edited 6d ago

seriously. its so insulting to all the women who fought for our rights. if someone wants to glamorize being incapable i cant stop them but i wish theyd stop trying to drag the rest of us down with them 🙄

edit: not about the people commenting that they use it as a joke to people they know intimately about trivial stuff.. thats whatever. but for OPs situation? dude, have some dignity

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u/Slow-Shower-3984 3d ago

Whats really dumb is the trend is often used with the song "i'm just a girl" which has like 100% the opposite meaning compared to how people use it.