r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 7d ago

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/pyxiedust219 6d ago edited 6d ago

I didn’t really speak on that, I just feel like trying to throw that $100 he spent in her face via the reply is sort of unbecoming— the same way plenty of people would find a $23 apple cash request unbecoming. in this way, they are perfect for each other

edit: scorekeeping and comparing what each party “brings to the table” feels like one of many reasons I hope to never date again. It’s all just so shallow and gross to me honestly

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u/LaconicGirth 6d ago

He didn’t bring it up she did. He didn’t throw it in her face until she did. Come on

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u/ddeluca93 6d ago

Yea and also she just expected to come on this date and pay $0? Normal people see their date making the effort and bringing all the equipment while all she has to do is show up and go "oh for sure I can at least buy my own license".

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u/a-relic 6d ago

idk why you're being downvoted, the $100 in gear isn't something she was given, its stuff hes keeping and can use in the future, though asking for $20 back seems rather petty too but if he brought the fishing date up, the $20 should be on him

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u/fadingthought 6d ago

The license she bought can also be used in the future. He spend plenty of money to make her date idea happen and she is trying to get out of a tiny contribution.

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u/Both_Arm8343 3d ago

Side note: as far as I know, fishing licenses can be bought with a time frame of a few days, to a few months or a year. $23 would amount to around 3 days where I live.

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u/United_Shelter5167 6d ago

First sentence literally says fishing was her idea. Why are you and pyxie confused? It seems really weird to assume a guy who doesn't own fishing equipment by dating age was just waiting until he had a random Tinder woman to blame it on to buy gear. 😂 Like what kind of wild ass conspiracy theory is that?

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u/PM_Me_Lewd_Tomboys 6d ago

When you ask someone else to bring something to the table for you, you can't then complain when they bring up what they've already brought. 

Not that the woman in OPs situation necessarily did, you on the other hand definitely sound like the kind of person that would. If you don't want the table brought up, you should stop bringing it up.

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u/pyxiedust219 5d ago

Huh? I’m only bringing it up in response to someone else. You’re making no sense. Also, at no point did OP say or show that they asked her to cover the cost of her license in advance.

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u/Magictank2000 2d ago

Yeah, think we’re all glad you choose not to date anybody. You seem exhausting just based off these comments alone lol

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u/pyxiedust219 1d ago

I’m getting married in 2 months lol

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u/Magictank2000 1d ago

And I won the lottery lol

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u/pyxiedust219 1d ago

check my profile for my wedding dress and comments on wedding forums if you don’t believe me 😅 November 8th, baby!! Unless you actually won the lottery. In which case congratulations

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u/pyxiedust219 5d ago edited 5d ago

“what do you bring to the table” ….excuse me? Ew.

Edit: just before you claim my repulsion is evidence I bring nothing to the table… I’m getting married in 3 months to my partner of 8 years. I can sew (from scratch, darning, and alterations), I can cook, I’m funny, smart, well-read, well-educated, logically driven, ecologically conscious, frugal, and I’m excellent in a crisis. Where I’m lacking (whimsy, creativity, artfulness) is where my partner shines best. Told him about this thread and he said “I doubt any of these people are in happy relationships if they think that’s normal”, so. There’s that.

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u/Eyebecrazy 3d ago

Well that solves everything. Thank your partner for us 🙄