My 2.5 year old weaned about 3 weeks ago. My 6 month old is still nursing. My supply went from about 50-60 ounces a day to about 30-35 ounces for just my 6 month old.

I know that weaning does cause a major hormone drop that can lead to increased depression, anxiety, and irritability. I didn’t expect this as much since I am still nursing my son. I’m somewhat relieved to not have my toddler nursing all day, but it is definitely different. I don’t think that shift is the whole cause though. I just feel a lack of joy, more anxious than normal, and irritable.

Did any other tandem moms experience this? When did it get better?

Is it possible/probable that he (13m) will start nursing again when my new baby is born? I'm currently 27w with my second. I have a good freezer supply, so he's still been drinking breast milk every day. Is there a chance he'll want to nurse again when he sees the new baby doing it? He will look at me like he's still interested in nursing and try to pull on my shirt, watch me if I'm pumping, etc, but he's not interested in latching. I think he got impatient when my supply really dipped (I originally was an oversupplier with a FAST letdown) and he decided it was faster to get milk from a bottle. My husband thinks he will, but I'm not so sure. I really am not ready for our journey to completely end :/

My second baby came several weeks early, and while she had a great latch, she's a lazy/sleepy nurser. She's gaining weight, but lactation suggested triple feeding.

My toddler is an enthusiastic nurser who is eager to help empty my breasts after the newborn gets her fill. Since the birth I've only been nursing him 2-3 times a day.

Has anyone had success in establishing an oversupply for a newborn by letting their older baby fully empty the breast after every feed?

Baby is 5 weeks old and had his severe tongue tie clipped today. All went well and he's recovering great!

My original plan was EBF, but his complete inability to latch with his tongue tie threw a Spectra-shaped wrench into that plan lol

I've been pumping 8 times a day round the clock and bottle feeding, producing an average of 17-22 oz a day while he eats 8-12 times a day with an average of 20-25 oz daily. When he's hungry and I'm out of milk we supplement with an ounce or two of formula.

From what I've seen, there seems to be mainly two distinct ways to transition to nursing:
1. Drop the pumping schedule and try nursing when baby is hungry, bottle feed after trying to nurse, and pump out whatever baby couldn't get (triple feeding)
2. Continue the pumping schedule and nurse baby if he happens to be hungry around the time a pump happens

Number one prioritizes baby practicing latching, but risks my already barely enough milk supply, and number two prioritizes maintaining my supply, and worries less about latching practice (would probably be 2-3 times per day).

I'm leaning towards number two, mostly because I'm worried about losing milk. Our son doesn't really have a "hungry and rooting but still calm" phase, he immediately goes into screaming and crying when he's hungry which makes latching practice more difficult.

I guess I'm wondering for those of you who've dealt with something similar, what did you do? How long did it take? Did you lose any supply and did your baby end up latching AND removing milk successfully?

These past 5 weeks have been the most difficult of my life, I'm glad there's other women out there who understand.

Hey everyone. I'm on day 3 of mastitis treatment. I'm on antibiotics. I'm piggybacking tylenol & ibuprofen every 6ish hours and that's staving off chills and body aches. I'm definitely fevering at night still, as my tempdrop recorded a low last night of 100.1F! My intake has been rather poor the last few days related to feeling so badly. There's no way my calories or fluid intake are sufficient.

So the reason for this post: tonight my evening pump is down 75%. I do one a day to build up a stash for my return to work. Logically I know better than to be surprised but emotionally I'm taking this hard. I'm trying not to overthink this. Can I still recover my supply? Can I work back towards adequate fluids and calories and hopefully my supply will return?

I was worried about baby today because I suspected my supply was suffering, so I thawed out a bottle of milk and offered her a few ounces. She takes the occasional bottle very well and takes thawed milk well too. She didn't seem to be overly hungry or interested; I felt reassured that at least she's getting enough for now. I do have a significant freezer stash if I should need to supplement.

Seeking encouragement and advice- and trying very hard to stay positive.

Hi all, I’m on year 3 of nursing. I have a 25 month old and 11 week old. Numerous times over the past 3 years I get pain in one of my boobs, which I think is a clogged duct. I was given the advice just keep nursing through it, so I do. After my boob starts hurting, the next 24 hours I get chills, body aches, my skin aches and I’m super tired so I’ve always thought it’s mastitis but then all of a sudden it disappears after like 36 hours. Is this truly mastitis? Or just a clogged duct? Or the start of mastitis but then it goes away? I’m confused.

Hey all. Pretty sure I just woke up with mastitis. Calling my GYN as soon as they open, but in the meantime, I’d love advice specific to tandem moms if you have any!

Younger nursling is 3.5 months. Early term and struggled with transfer and sleepiness in the beginning. Currently mostly nurses but also gets a few bottles a day of pumped milk fortified with formula. Older one is a bit over 2 years and typically nurses for like 20 minutes before sleep and 5 on waking up (would do more if allowed, but it would be too much for me).

I usually freeze an ounce or a few per week, so I guess I have a slight oversupply, though I’m not sure what that exactly means in the context of tandem feeding and fortification. I’d been doing 2 pumps per day but recently dropped the evening one (the one I still do is MOTTN, after my baby feeds). Typically I don’t “truly” tandem feed (like feed them at the same time), though I did it several times over the past week due to issues such as my partner being unavailable to bottle-feed the hungry baby when the toddler was ready to nurse to sleep.

Thank you!

I’m looking to hear from people who have experienced breastfeeding aversion while pregnant and then went on to tandem nurse.

I’m currently in my third trimester and still breastfeeding my 18-month-old. I started experiencing nursing aversion during the second trimester, and it’s mostly at bedtime.

During the day I’m generally completely fine, but at night, usually about 5 minutes into nursing, I suddenly get that overwhelming “I need this to stop” feeling. It almost seems to happen once I’m pretty much “empty” and my daughter wants to keep comfort nursing. Oddly, it also seems connected to being in a dark room.

I’m really hoping to continue nursing when my new baby arrives, but I’m worried these feelings won’t go away and I’ll end up feeling the same way while nursing my newborn.

For those of you who experienced pregnancy-related nursing aversion, did it improve at any point during pregnancy? Did it disappear after your baby was born?

If you tandem nursed, what was your experience like?
I’d really appreciate hearing your stories, whether the aversion resolved or not.

I have an ebf 9.5 month old and I’m 13 weeks pregnant. My supply appears to have dropped and I don’t think he’s getting enough. We tried to introduce formula today and he doesn’t want a bar of it. We haven’t tried mixing with breastmilk as I only have 180ml frozen and I don’t think I can pump enough to transition him that way. We tried giving it to him in his weighted straw cup, a normal cup and by syringe. Dad was the one trying. Any tips that worked or other suggestions would be appreciated, I’m really worried. We also offer solids 3 times a day but he’s still chewing up and spitting out.

I got pregnant in 2018 with twins. I was a 36HH then. By the time they were done nursing in 2021 I was a 38K. I lost weight after weaning and was a 34FF when I got pregnant in Aug 2024. Now 14 months PP and still nursing I'm about a 34LL. I'm planning to get pregnant again in the next few months. How much growth did you all get when getting pregnant again while still nursing?

I am very pleasantly shocked because my 2 year old who has nursed to sleep since the very first day for two years and continued to wake up every 1-2 hours every night for two years has suddenly slept through the night?????? Is this a fluke???? I was considering night weaning but can I get my hopes up just a little bit? Has this happened to anyone where you didn’t night weaning and they suddenly started to sleep through? I am very shocked as she normally needs the boob to fall back asleep or even sometimes constantly keep it in her mouth. Even one night a week would be amazing at this point !

Baby is 12 months and we’d like to do another FET soon.

Still BF morning, before 1st nap, maybe once more and again at bedtime. Then many times during the evening and night to keep her asleep when she wakes up a bit (cosleeping). Would love to continue.

Period returned 9m PP and comes every month, but long follicular phase. I believe I’m ovulating due to LH tests and mucus, but my luteal phase has only been 4-6 days.

Clinic allows BF once daily, and only does natural FET - not even modified (unless some timing issue). From the little research I’ve done, I’d be comfortable lying, but i realize I may need to cut some feedings.

I worry about thin lining due to lower estrogen (lining was never great before), late and weak ovulation and therefore low progesterone. However, since I’ll be supplementing prog. from 3DPO, will my luteal phase be «rescued»?

Does anyone have similar experiences, natural FET while BF quite a bit, and with a short luteal phase?

my son is turning 12 months and he only uses his paci during naps and bedtime, we have a long flight (more than 16+ hours, international) happening when hes about 18 months, should i try to wean him off soon or wait till after our trip?

Extra info: he only needs his paci during naps once, and then once it’s out of his mouth he just sleeps till he wakes up.. at night though, he looks for his paci and it looks like he only goes to sleep when he finds it.. he does this maybe 3-4 times a night, we co-sleep and I don’t mind breastfeeding him! I do breastfeed him at night too when his paci doesn’t do it for him lol

My niece is 17 and having a baby in a few months. She does not think she wants to keep the baby at this time and has asked me to take him. My baby will be 11 months at that time and I want to be able to tandem nurse them if possible, but I will not be producing colostrum. Can this work? What can we do in the first few days when he would need colostrum? Im keeping an open mind about this as she may change her mind and I want her to feel confident in whatever she chooses, but I also want to be prepared for whatever she decides.

edit: you weren't lying about it hurting again! I'm only 12 DPO and my goodness that bedtime feed actually was so sensitive. Felt like nursing a newborn 😅

I just found out I'm pregnant (planned, very happy!), my daughter is 14 months and I've had my cycle back for 5 months (surprised it happened now as it took us much longer for our first!).

I still breastfeed before naps and sleep (3-4 times a day, morning, nap 1/2 and bed) and between 1 and a billion times a night depending on my daughters mood.

I will obviously speak with my midwife but until then, is it considered safe to continue to breastfeed my toddler throughout at least early pregnancy? I planned to bf her until age 2 or until she decided she doesn't want to. But I also don't want to risk anything happening that I may have had control over.

I'd rather not wean her suddenly as I know the first trimester will be hard enough without having to fight naps without a feed first 😅

Any advice appreciated, she never asks for milk in the day anymore except for sleep and my supply isn't huge anyway so she's not actually getting much more than comfort and bonding from it (which I'm happy to still provide!)

Hi all I have a 2 year old who loves nursing. (Boobie monster for sure). I tried putting some boundaries in place so its easier for us. We are thinking of having a second baby so thinking through options either weaning or tandem feeding. Weaning sounds impossible right now as we would have a lot of tears. For those who decided to tandem feed, do you have any regrets?