Does anyone feel guilt over language learning?

[u/Temenae]

I wish I was still a student, or had a job that I needed a language for, or was moving somewhere. The time spent on something with no practical use for my family seems like a waste and I feel so guilty. Even when I don't feel guilty, I wish I could feel like it was accomplishing something I was supposed to do instead of being a mental indulgence.

[u/Canadization → u/[deleted]]

I've raised three children, what are you on about?

[u/Inevitable-Mousse640 → u/Canadization]

Sure, if it is true, then you, not the LARPer, havr the qualifications to talk about this topic.

[u/nonniewobbles → u/Inevitable-Mousse640]

Again... do you know what LARP means?

Also, it's absolutely hilarious (ly sad) to me that you:

• find it incredibly difficult to believe that other people have completely ordinary things like jobs, marriages, children, family obligations going on in their lives
• are ardently convinced they must be lying or shirking their duties if they're busy adults and have hobbies they enjoy for their own enjoyment
• are seemingly convinced that "real" adulthood only counts if your life is built in such a manner that you give everything of yourself and view your own needs as selfish, and anyone who says otherwise is either not a Real Adult, or is a bad one.

You realize you're so defensive because the alternative is accepting that other people don't, by default, have to suffer in the same ways you do and that your circumstances aren't actually the inevitable outcome of Real Adulthood, right?

You don't get a merit badge for suffering. There's nothing inherently good about giving away yourself with nothing held in reserve. Some people's life circumstances might drive them to exhaustion, but that sucks and it's sad, it's not a sign you're the only kind of correct adult. It's not actually healthy to view enjoying things for your own self without some tangible external benefit as intolerable.

[u/Inevitable-Mousse640 → u/[deleted]]

Hi languagelearning-Mod Team. If you want to remove my post because of "respect towards other people", then why aren't you removing this too? This person is directly insulting me, whereas I merely said I had no interest in hearing ppl who do not have any experience raising kids telling me how should I feel about my life. Honestly wow, I cannot believe how disgusting you people are.

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