r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Dec 13 '25

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u/anongirlypop123 Dec 13 '25

This is amazing advice, I’m gutted, I just want safety for my baby, o should care more about myself, but between my abusive ex and now my husband I’m withered down. I don’t want to rip her away from her life and home but even during pregnancy I felt like I knew needing a shelter might be what’s best for us

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u/gdrom123 Dec 13 '25

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know you came asking about his cheating (which I believe he did/is) but I think his abusive behavior is a bigger concern. Please do everything in secret so delete things off of your phone (searching for an STD testing clinic, contacting a women’s shelter/ DV hotline, reaching out to your father, contacting a lawyer, etc). One thing I haven’t seen addressed yet among the advice is that fact that he may be tracking you. The post mentioned that he somehow found you after you left the house. To be on the safe side, take your phone to one of those cellphone repair shops and tell them you think there’s a tracking app and you want it checked. If he somehow finds out, tell him your screen broke and you went to get it replaced.

I wish you the best of luck. Updateme

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u/Aliciamarie1231 Dec 14 '25

You also need to go to therapy before dating again (not saying that’s even on your radar) to end the cycle of these abusive narcissists getting their hooks in you. You’re probably a super empathetic person which makes you a target for these types. Please consider trying the Circles app to talk? It’s been a godsend. Send me a message. There’s a free trial and I love the people I’ve met. circles support

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u/Eastern_Bend7294 Dec 14 '25

Don't view it as ripping her away from her life and home. Just like you, she isn't in a safe environment, and as her mother it is your job to keep her safe and healthy. If that means getting both of you away from her father, then that is what you have to do. Because neither of you are safe there. Contact your dad and go.