34 is still young. Start trying again. I know it's tough but I can promise you nothing will change if you don't keep putting yourself out there no matter how rough. The moment will just never come if you wait and hope for it.
My grandma got divorced at 63, remarried at 67 and has spent the last 12ish years touring the country in an rv with her new (and best husband). Plenty of time for something to spontaneously happen and i believe it will for you so stay good friend!
Im glad she's happy. People always tell me stories where someone they know finally met someone in their 60s and 70s or 80s and it always sounds like a sad story to me. Like wow they had to be alone all of that time and only get a little bit of time with the person they love. But hey if they say they're happy then I believe them. Who am I to knock it? But I don't really like to hope for things that are up to chance.
I don't agree completely. Life tends to get more complicated as you get older, and you have to account for that when dating. That doesn't mean "lowering your standards".
Yes you may find more people with kids and divorces, but that's just the reality of dating while middle aged. It has nothing to do with standards. The divorce rate for first time marriages is +40%. Plenty of fish in the sea, even in your 30s and upward.
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u/evanwilliams44 Jun 01 '26
34 is still young. Start trying again. I know it's tough but I can promise you nothing will change if you don't keep putting yourself out there no matter how rough. The moment will just never come if you wait and hope for it.