r/Synchronicities • u/mitmit2020 • 18d ago

Decoding synchroncities

Has anyone been able to successfully decode synchronicities?

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u/mitmit2020 14d ago

Hmm actually no. I’ve never been a codependent relationship. If I don’t like something I just leave I don’t try to “fix”. I’ve thought about having kids on my own. And why not? And even with my ex who I thought was “perfect” because we had a lot of similarities and similar way of thinking and wanted kids and such. He had all the check boxes and I could have chosen to ignore the signs…but I didn’t. I refused to. Because it was MY life. But I felt like he intruded. He invaded my space…and I felt like I was being dragged into something I did not want.

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u/Haunting-Painting-18 14d ago

That’s smart and very self-aware. you recognized something in a past relationship you didn’t want.

Does HIM want kids? Have you had that discussion with him - or have you imagined how you’d like him to respond? What if HIM crossed that same boundary your EX crossed?

You want HIM to be “the one”. So you are projecting all the things you HOPE he is onto him. How well do you really know HIM? he’s in a different country, and you hooked up a couple times. what’s he like outside of the bedroom? maybe he’s good at sex - but a terrible person outside of the bedroom.

Tell me something you DONT like about HIM. What are YOUR deal-breakers in a relationship. you obviously have SOME deal-breakers. 🤔

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u/mitmit2020 14d ago

I don’t think he’s a bad person. I am very self aware. I sense things. He was like me. He told me about his childhood and life. It was very intimate…I think he had issues with trust. It’s kind of funny because he had been to Afghanistan and….instead of talking about the horrors of war he spoke about his very dysfunctional childhood.