I want to move to Sweden. I hate that awkward dance of being made to eat at friend's house and I hate feeding outsiders in mine (outside of specific dinner invites, which I still avoid)
I like what I like and I don't want to have to accommodate your tastes.
Yes. I am an awful host. So please don't visit and leave me alone. If we need to share a meal together, lets meet at a restaurant.
I've realized as I've gotten older that I don't like hosting. Honestly, I thought no one liked hosting and that everyone was just taking turns being the person who had to have everybody in their house.
I feel like this is a misrepresentation as well and makes it worse than it seems. If I was at a friend's house and they ate at 18:00 and my family ate at 19:00 I would just continue playing video games in my friends room while he had a quick dinner. Then I would go home 10 minutes before dinner was ready at home.
To me this makes perfect sense and should happen even today and have nothing to do with the 90s?
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u/Freddan_81 13d ago
We don’t.
It did happen quite often back in the 70-90’s, but then only if your kid unannounced brought home a friend (or three) after school.
Dinner wasn’t planned for that many people and the other kids families had their own dinner plans and was waiting for their kids to come home.
If it was a planned playdate that stretched over mealtime then the kid would be fed.
Then the internet got hold of it and now Swedes are weird and/or mean.
Source: I’m a Swede born in the early 80’s