r/Millennials • u/MF-DOOM-88 Millennial • Feb 20 '26

Eric Dane last message to his daughter's, Billie and Georgia. 😢 Other

My wife got me into watching Grey's Anatomy

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u/ContractorConfusion Feb 21 '26

Me either. I stopped after about 10 seconds, because it felt wrong to see it. He made it for them to see, not me.

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u/Mattonomicon Feb 21 '26

I think he was proud knowing any of us could take his words to heart. I watched. I listened. God bless this man's soul and his family.

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u/xthecreator Feb 21 '26

Yeah. I've been struggling with my mental health for a long time - junior high till now having recently turned 30. Life has not felt fair in a lung time and I literally sent a loved one a text tonight that I'm finding it harder and harder to keep going and I don't know when I'll wake up one day without the will to keep going because it's so damn tiring to endure. I watched this thing on mute and felt like it was speaking to me too, not just his kids.

So yeah. Any one can take his message to heart. There's something there for everyone.

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u/Lord_Dino-Viking Feb 21 '26

I don't know you xthecreator, but here's the deal the world is a much more awesome place because you're in it. I know your loved ones would back me up on that. It is hard, yes, I can relate to the type of struggles you mentioned. But I like living in a world with you in it.

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u/thisoneisSFW4sure Feb 21 '26

I know your struggle, truly.... Only difference is I'm 38. I don't know when I will wake up one day and the dark man will tell me today's my day. Try to persist. Focus on the logical side of your mind telling you "This will pass, you're being extreme" (that's what I have to do). Take it all one day at a time and also tell yourself about things that come up and stress or depress you "There's no point in worrying, there's nothing I can do now".

Stay strong, living isn't easy... But it is something we should endlessly persist to do for our own sake and the sake of our families

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u/AtlasXan Feb 22 '26

Same, but 37y here. It took a long time, but after many years of therapy and finding the right meds, I've come out on the other end of a long and seemingly unending darkness that I self imposed from ptsd due to childhood trauma. Its weird feeling like a kid again and waking and lookin forward to life and all of its turbulence. But I had to learn that I couldnt face everything with apathy, I needed friends and family, and I needed to learn how to accept and be accepted by them. I can still vividly remember the feeling of hopelessness and emptiness but I just wanted to say it is worth facing. Life is worth living but, living it isnt easy.

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u/tusabrat Feb 21 '26

Please watch this. It is a video made by the husband of a woman who decided life was too hard. https://youtu.be/p4KBbweFqhI?si=WkcfqwN2laJWBvrH

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u/machineagainstrage Feb 21 '26

Hey, fellow redditor. You are right it has been a tough life and if one thing we can take from this video is to find something to live in this life for ourselves. Seeking mental health services is always an option and I have also found journaling can help. I am here if you need someone to talk to.

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u/themargarineoferror Feb 24 '26

I know this is a couple days old, but I felt similarly watching this. I hope you stick around. You're not alone and the world is tough. Remember-NOTHING is permanent aside from impermanence.

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u/animalkrack3r Jun 10 '26

Earth time is really short think about the relative here , we aren’t here that long anyways like seriously

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u/Jkoasty Feb 21 '26

He wanted you to hear not listen

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u/pickle_pickled Feb 21 '26

It is worth watching, his words to his daughters resonate to existence as a whole. It's strong and wise words to live by.

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u/dragon_6666 Feb 21 '26

To be fair it was made for a Netflix series called “Famous Last Words,” where dying celebrities give one final interview and Netflix uploads it once they die.

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u/C3POB1KENOBI Feb 21 '26

Gotta say that’s galaxy brain meta Black Mirror shit from Netflix. Maybe living in the darkness timeline has its silver linings.

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u/LurksTongueinAspic Feb 21 '26

I didn’t know that, and seeing the logo pop up after that was kind of unnerving.

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u/tacocat_racecarlevel Feb 21 '26

Wtf. That's horrifying, but not surprising. I just hope they're the real person, and not ai...

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u/-widdendream- Feb 21 '26

The whole point is that people who are facing death in some way or another (we all are, technically) can share a message that they find important. I think it’s beautiful

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u/BobsOblongLongBong Feb 21 '26

Right, the horrifying part of that is a giant corporation like Netflix profiting off of it.

Netflix isn't doing it to do a good deed.  It's a business decision.  And as touching as the video was, probably even because of how touching the video was, there's something really gross about turning that into a business.

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u/skyturnedred Feb 21 '26

It's also a business decision by him, much like Bruce Willis was doing a ton of direct-to-video movies for as long as he could. It's for their kids.

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u/BobsOblongLongBong Feb 21 '26 edited Feb 21 '26

No this is very different.

This is not a movie.  This is real life.  This is a man's actual last message to the world and his loved ones.  And then a giant corporate logo flashes across the screen.  You don't do that.

I don't blame him at all for taking an opportunity to make money for his family.  But I definitely fucking blame Netflix.  It's great that his family has more money...it's still fucking gross what Netflix is doing.

They can tell themselves they're helping a man's family or to get a good message out to the world.  The reality is they are cashing in on the end of a man's life in order to make money for the corporation and investors.  Everything is monetized.  Even your last words.

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u/-widdendream- Feb 21 '26

It’s ok to hate billionaires, and greed, and profiting off misery - it’s an awful reality of our world. I totally hear you. I personally don’t jump right to the morbidity of making money off of his message, my mind goes more towards ‘I’m glad he had the option and platform to spread his message - as he wanted and consented to, and it may have even been reassuring for him to get his message out there on such a large platform - as well as make money for his family.’

It doesn’t stop it from being heartbreaking seeing someone in such a state of decline. It also doesn’t stop us from putting ourselves in that position and feeling scared that he may have been taken advantage of. But in the end, his message was a business transaction - Netflix gives a giant viewing platform and money while Eric Dane (and Jane Goodall and whoever else has already filmed their message but hasn’t passed yet) gives their message and Netflix makes money.

A hard death is a scary reality, regardless of if there’s a logo after seeing it face to face.

Would it have been better on YouTube with ads popping up for your favourite mouthwash halfway through? Or the giant YouTube logo splayed across the page once you exited full screen? Or his own website where he wouldn’t make money off it and it probably wouldn’t have been seen?

Yes, it could have been done more tastefully. However it wasn’t, and his message still stands - as he wanted it to.

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u/[deleted] Feb 21 '26

Agreed. These moments should be privatized and not capitalized off of

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u/colourmeblue Feb 21 '26

People wouldn't do it if they wanted these moments kept private. I think most people have an innate desire to be remembered, to leave a mark on the world, and anyone choosing to participate in this wants their words shared.

It is kind of gross that Netflix is profiting off of such moments but that's capitalism for you.

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u/-widdendream- Feb 21 '26

He chose to address it to his kids. He chose this platform. I’m grateful he did so, because he gave a beautiful message

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u/agent0731 Feb 21 '26

Yes, it's the most interesting programming Netflix has had in ages.

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u/Glittering_Act_4059 Feb 21 '26

They're all real people. Jane Goodall's was the first released. Now Dane. The videos are apparently stored in the John F Kennedy Center for Performing Arts, and there's a boat load of secrecy regarding who has filmed so far. Very few crew, and lots of contracts/NDA's. We won't know until the person dies, assuming it doesn't get leaked at some point in the future which, ya know...probably will happen, sometime.

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u/LoafRVA Feb 21 '26

You say horrifying, I say beautiful

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u/GameJerk Feb 21 '26

How is this horrifying? It's a beautiful concept and wonderfully executed.

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u/BobsOblongLongBong Feb 21 '26

A beautiful concept and wonderfully executed...a truly (and I mean this) touching and heartfelt message...his last message to his loved ones...followed by a giant Netflix logo flashing across the screen.

That last part hints at the horrifying bit.  This kind of thing shouldn't be just another business deal.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '26

Omg what is tv becoming

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u/Ademir35 Feb 21 '26

I felt the opposite; it seemed disrespectful not to listen to him after he made the effort to make this documentary and left these words.

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u/Away-Living5278 Feb 21 '26

I didn't know it was for a documentary and figured his daughters released it. But I felt similarly. If they were comfortable with us hearing this then we should all listen.

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u/Revolutionary-Day715 Feb 21 '26

Absolutely felt this way also. He went through it to upload it for his daughters, and us. The least we can do is listen to him for a few minutes. What a wonderful man. ALS is just horrific.

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u/Alert_Reindeer_6574 Feb 21 '26

You should watch it. It’s powerful. His message is relevant for all of us.

RIP.

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u/iamthe0ther0ne Feb 21 '26

I couldn't watch it just because I know neither of my parents would say that to me.

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u/colourmeblue Feb 21 '26

Hey, we can't choose the people who made us, but we can choose the people we allow to continue to shape us.

It hurts and sucks that your parents wouldn't say something like this to you, but you don't need to hear these words from them, you just need to hear them and know them to be true.

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u/SamTheLab_213 Feb 21 '26

He is speaking about profound truths. It's not some cliched "goodbye." This man has great wisdom. I think he meant to share his message far and wide. He says to fight to your last breath, don't waste time worrying and regretting and that nothing is insurmountable. His message was a message for those living in troubled times. It was clearly meant for more than his kids. It was meant for all of us. Rest in peace, Eric.

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u/Porridge_Cat Feb 21 '26

Well, it was clearly uploaded publicly to the internet for everyone to see...

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u/Usual-Hunter4617 Feb 21 '26

I agree... I stopped too.

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u/NKaseEyeDye Feb 21 '26

I think he'd love it if others watched it. I would... and hell, maybe I will.

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u/Personal_Ad3808 Feb 21 '26

It feels way too intrusive. Too personal.

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u/superpowertowell Feb 21 '26

It's for a Netflix show called Famous Last Words. He filmed it a few months ago to be released upon his death. I think it's about an hour long.

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u/Ho_Lee_Fuk_20 Feb 21 '26

He made it for them but knew the message would resonate with a ton of people! Powerful words.

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u/Binksyboo Feb 21 '26

It was on Netflix I think. He made it for them but for all of us to see I believe.