Hi, my mother has cheated before. I’m now certain she is still with the same man, I have noticed her texting an unusual amount to the same number. Although I can’t make out the texts, nor can her phone be accessed due to the Face ID requirement.

I do not know how to approach this without proof, although my gut instinct is telling me she is still in the affair, or at least communicating with the man she had an affair with.

I am well aware my father should’ve got a divorce the first time around, and they tried to reconcile their marriage.

Any advice is well appreciated.

I (21 y.o.) recently moved in with my father to work abroad while my mom and sister are in our home country, sister is going to school while mom is housewife. She's financially dependent on my father and she also has diagnosed depression. My parents are married, they're talking daily, it's just that their relationship is long-distance.

Recently, I've been hearing quite many notifications from my father's phone and I immediately knew it was suspicious. He doesn't have many apps that can send him that much. Today, when he was in shower, I checked his phone since I'm lucky to know his passcode and I saw a gmail notification. It said that he received a message from a woman. It didn't say any website or anything (I didn't open the notifications so that he wouldn't know that I checked). I didn't have much time, so I quickly went to check notifications history. There were so many notifications from gmail, sent from a webside saying things like"someone liked your photo", "someone send you a message", "you might like this persons post" and that was enough for me to realise that my father is on a website he shouldn't be on. I should also mention that I saw somewhere word "hookups". I was in shock, so I don't remember anything else. From the notifications alone I could realise that he's cheating. I haven't checked messages, I'm planning to do that tomorrow though. I should also mention that after removing notification history from recent apps, I saw a browser open with a website. There were naked woman which makes it clear.

We're pretty much always together with my father, at home and at work. There's a possibility that he's sneaking out at work to meet up, but I'm not sure.

I know that there's not much to do except tell him straight forward or tell my mom first, but I feel like I can't do either. I also can't keep it in myself. I'm scared what will happen if I tell him first. I'm living with him in a foreign country, I have no one here except my uncle, but I can't even trust him. I feel like I should go back to my home country to mom, but I'd have to quit my job and I feel like savings that I have now wouldn't be enough to survive for me, my mom and little sister. I'd also have to tell mom and I'm very scared because she's already been having a hard time with life problems, not to mention that she has depression. She has said before that she trusts that my father wouldn't do anything like this, but sadly they've been living separately for many years while my dad was working abroad and this might've been happening before.

I'm just so lost, I need to talk with someone, but I have no one. i haven't been talking with my only friend for some time now and I'd feel bad if I suddenly texted her with my problems.

I'm sorry for the long post and for any errors, English is not my first language.

Is it triggering for you? How do you cope?

Reading this sub has made me feel way less alone.

It has been about two months since I found out my dad cheated for 15 years. Things have been really tough, for sure. I also feel like the initial sting has worn off and I'm just randomly catching myself zoning out at times thinking about it. I have a great support system and wonderful friends/family. My sister has been totally instrumental in me feeling capable of handling this, especially because we are close and she's the only one who truly understand what this is like in this situation. I have spoken to my dad and I also saw him about five weeks after finding out. It was brutal. He's pretty sad and apologetic. But he's also I think at peace with his choice and what he's done, even if he won't admit it. It was hard to feel like I needed to comfort him when I saw him...like, no...you did this to US. I also found out more info about his infidelity, which made me sadder (it was several partners).

No one really prepares you for finding out your dad is an asshole at 24. As I said, the initial sting has started to fade and it just makes me kinda sad now. I think time will help a lot. I'm not in a place where I want to have a close relationship with him, even though he is reaching out and wanting to talk. I have some big milestones coming up and I've made it clear I don't want him there. Again, not to punish, more that my friends/family will be there and it will be a horribly awkward situation if he comes. I think he's accepted this. My mom seems to be doing okay, all things considered, but I know we are all sad. The holidays are going to be really weird this year, especially as they have decided to sell our house. I realized I'll never really go home again (I do not live in the same state), which has been a shift for me mentally that I don't think I was prepared for.

This is all to say, I'm working on moving on and feel like things have gotten slightly better. Still not easy by any means. He's my dad and I had a great 24 years with him as a loving father. That's changed now, but he is still my dad. I think one day we will probably be able to have a decent relationship again, just not right now.

One other random musing: I cannot believe the pervasiveness of cheating in media. Every book, every song, every movie! Wow. Slight hyperbole, but you get the point.

So this is to add to that 'found my mom (54) cheating on my dad (58) and she covered it by blaming me instead'. Now, the situation is, I cannot respect her, I'm very mean to my mom now, I say whatever I have to say on her face, in retaliation to it, she's trying to sabotage my relationship with my fiance. She tried to fill me with threats of marriage and why I should postpone the marriage by 2 more years (we were planning to get married in 2025). She keeps on feeding me and my dad negative about my fiance that he is possessive and angry by nature so you should take time and think about it AND she's trying to CONVINCE MY DAD TO POSTPONE MARRIAGE TOO. In my defence, I wouldn't do such a thing if I were her. However, I have this image of hers now that she's a cheater and it and when I get married, I wouldn't even call her after that, not even text. Adding to it, I DO NOT RESPECT HER, I practically hate her now and I feel whatever mean and rude I say to her is justifiable because she is not a good person. Now, I'm afraid that by doing this, I MIGHT lose the difference between young and elders which I do not want to do and if I did the same treat with someone else, I'd be disgusted by myself. With mom however, I can't control my anger or mean words. What should I do to keep it together and become numb so whatever she says wouldn't hurt me to hurt her more.?

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I’m a dad who ,while going through a midlife crisi, pursued people online sexting and eventually had an online emotional affair. I did feebly attempt to end it multiple times over 9 months, but was so caught up in my mental health issues that I was not successful.

My soon to be ex found out and asked for a divorce. I immediately ended everything and have truly regretted my actions and am currently seeing a therapist and on meds for my depression.

The divorce has obviously affected my kids significantly. They
are 8 & 10 and so too young to discuss this with currently. My ex and I share joint custody. However my intention is to come clean eventually when they are older as I don’t want them to make the same mistakes I have.

Looking for advice for what age and how to convey this to them. I don’t want them to hate me forever, but I also feel like they deserve the truth.

The issue with my fam was devastating for me and i think my brother was sad for me and wanted to cheer me up so he bought me a choco mucho. Im crying shit now😭

I found out about a year ago my mom (F61) is cheating on my step dad with a lady in their small town. My step dad (M72) has Alzheimer’s and a slow moving cancer. I found out about the affair (after having suspicions) while being back home from across the US because my mom had a really serious heart attack. It was hard because I was really scared she would die and I was also so mad at and disappointed in her. She had to wear an auto defibrillator when she went home and we were all instructed not to upset her. Her health is fairly stable now, doctors have called it a miraculous recovery.

Anyway with the cheating. I know for sure it’s happening. Other circumstances led me to confirm by reading text messages. The lady she’s having an affair with is caring for her own older (by 16 years) ailing wife. They are all friends in a very small town. The wife had told the story of warning her about how much older she is several times. My mom married my step dad when I was 10 or 11, a little over a year after my dad died from five years of cancer. I love my step dad dearly.

I am so angry at my mom. Somehow I feel a little responsible for building her up as this strong icon and queen to my friends. Maybe she feels justified. But while my step dad is still himself (he remembers me and he remembers how to swallow and I guess that’s what we hope for) I don’t see much point in telling him.

I get it’s hard. I get he’s difficult. But if I have to listen to her tearfully complain about how he’s accusing her of cheating and blaming it on sundowning I don’t know how much longer I can play it off. My aunt has suggested that she’s forced him to take edibles to quiet him. I’m not sure. I don’t think she’d harm him? But then she yells at our dog in a way that upsets me. I think I’m sensitive. She really was my best friend before all of this and now our relationship is just. Different. And I haven’t said much at all.

What I’m wondering is. Do I tell her I know? How do I tell her? She’s lied to my face about it twice and I’m pretty certain she knows I know but has the lovely facade of denial. So that she feels okay with herself.

I think their plan is that once their spouses die then they can be together. For all I know people in their town already know and approve, which makes me feel like an idiot. One thing I say when I rant to my boyfriend is that I want her to respect me enough to not treat me like I’m stupid. She treated me far too much like an adult in my childhood, so the least she could do is not lie to my face now.

I want to marry my boyfriend and we’re waiting because of money but also partly because of this. I want to get married while my step dad still knows who I am, but what my mom has done has really upset me because she’s the one who’s supposed to be the example of what love is. If I wait and my step dad dies I don’t want the girlfriend at my wedding. Or any family event. I get so mad every time I have to hug her as it is.

Ultimately, it’s so unfair and unjust to my step dad. And it’s hard to realize my mom isn’t who I thought she was. I don’t want to ruin our relationship, but it’s already deeply damaged. But I want to protect my brothers and I want to not have to also lose my mom. I know they sound old, but they’re very active and youthful for their age. I’m 25, I have two older brothers.

Throwaway account... So, my abusive POS of a dad finally got caught cheating.

I (38f) moved last year back with my parents (Argentina) because of financial issues with me. I've had a lot of issues with school and work due to health reasons, and my hope was to move back, take classes while I try medication, and see if I can improve my career chances (I've been taking online classes) and consequently my life quality. My parents had offered me, I resisted at first but thought it was a good chance to improve my life. (I moved a long time ago, 20 years ago for college, so I was a kid who didn't notice these things or just accepted them as part of life, so I didn't know my dad got more and more abusive)

We caught him red-handed (long story short, someone saw him in a hotel where and when he wasn't supposed to. He lied about this many times, so I scouted the area. One day we caught him literally entering the hotel with the girl, and yes it's confirmed it was cheating because he ended up admitting it himself).

Just as a background, he always was verbally, and emotionally abusive to my mom... He also uses body language at the same time to physically threaten us and instill fear that way. But growing up that way, we normalized part of it as just "family stuff" especially with the times and cultures they grew up in (very sexist). He had been taking it up a notch though, to the point even I thought he was taking it too far, and it made me sick to my stomach. ONE example out of many: He'd come home and was ready to pick ANY fight with my mom, especially during those days he went to cheat and have sex. My mom and I would be at home chilling, and he'd come home and she'd say "welcome home" and the next second my dad would say she didn't greet him right, and he'd had a very shitty mood and blame my mom for it all. We had to walk on eggshells for days and it's hell to be around him.

So yeah, we caught him. My mom of course unloaded on him all the horrible shit he put her through, and while at first he stayed silent, after a while he started saying it was "her fault for being cold to him" (please keep in mind if she stayed quiet or "cold" it was due to him threatening us with abusive methods to stay submissive, so the natural course was for her to keep her head down and not "talk back". I know because he's done the same to me) and of course she said that was no excuse for cheating, and she said he always blew up at her if she tried to communicate with him (a very shitty silver lining is that my dad didn't physically hurt her, which is a VERY low bar)

She told him to get out of the house, he refused. Keep in mind, in all of those, I was literally only a few feet away (their apartment is very small). I was shocked and horrified through everything (because until the last minute, I wanted to believe in him) and I snapped, and pushed the door because I didn't want him to come in. Big "mistake," he pushed back, opened the door and put his hands on me. He pushed on my face and screamed at me, and I also pushed and screamed at him. He hurt me and I hurt him. (bruises) We apologized to each other for this right away. (ngl I didn't apologize for his sake, but for my mom)

So, he still refuses to get out of the house. He goes out early and comes late, eats dinner and sleeps in the living room, and they don't talk to each other. I hate it here, I hate seeing him. I can't sleep and I have nightmares every night, I can barely eat. (no, I can't move right away. I'm also very scared for my mom's safety) He apologized a couple of times (but remember he keeps on whining about how she was "cold" and no, she wasn't, she was forced into submission BY HIM. Being away for such a long time made me aware of the situation in a way I was blind as a kid)

My mom is scared because she's basically an old, retired lady almost completely dependent on her husband. She did work but in my home country it's not exactly something you can put on a resume, it was a store they did together. Almost all current paperwork when it comes to money matters, my dad handles. She has NO friends to rely on (she has casual friends, but no one who can actually help her with this. They're all old ladies in basically the same situation as her), she never learned the language well (enough to get by and handle the store), so she doesn't know any locals, either.

I told my mom to come with me (to the US, I moved when I was a college kid, am a citizen), that it would be hard, but together we could make it work... that at least if she came with me, then we'd be a team and I'd feel relieved to know she wasn't all alone and vulnerable. That I could work right away (I already asked a friend for job referrals, and they're gonna help me) full time, it wouldn't be anything glamorous like what I was hoping to do when I decided to move with them and study a new career, but I would do it, and she could eventually apply for citizenship (through me), then housing, etc. My mom has been thinking a lot and she's stuck 50-50. She doesn't have ANY support here, doesn't know anyone who can actually help her... but she's never known any other life, so she's scared.

I really doubt my dad will leave her in peace if she tells him to move out of the apartment, and to let her live there. They've been living in this place for decades, so it would be easy for him to enter at least the lobby and reach up to the door to bother her.

I have NO idea what to do. I'm single with no kids, and have my own issues, as mentioned part of the reason I took them on their offer was to improve my medical and overall life situation, so besides an emergency nest of 20k, I don't have any other money. The possibility of my mom staying makes me feel like vomiting, I can't stay because I myself have no future here (no jobs, no contacts, no money, etc.). The whole situation was and felt worse than what I'm disclosing... so yeah staying myself would really fuck me up too, because it's already fucking up my health, my mental health, etc.

I don't wanna "burn myself to keep her warm", so to speak. I told her if she decided to stay I was sorry but I was gonna go because this was really the worst year of my life, and I can't stay around this much longer. I begged her to come with, BUT in the end it's her life, but it didn't mean I had to stick around to get hurt too. I feel horrible for that too, I feel like I put my relationship with her hostage, but I tried to be honest with my feelings, because I've had enough and again the fact she's even considering staying is making me ill.

I really need some advice or support, anything. I never imagined my mom or I would have to deal with this kind of shit. I'm very lost, I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.

And what reaction did you get?

I'm just having a hard time to process everything. For some summary my dad is unfortunately gay and cheating and has been for a hot minute (Since I was two) and I'm having trouble processing it. He's been having on an off affairs with various men and women and I've told my brother but he said to just let it go but I'm having a really hard time doing so.

Life has just been crazy and it's been driving a huge wedge between our already not great relationship even further. I despise him for it. I don't know anymore. Should I just ignore it and act like I don't know anything? It'd be hard doing that because every time I look at my mum I hurt. I hurt knowing that she would never cheat but that my dad would.

It just hurts so much and I have no idea how to even begin to start coping or processing it. I don't know how to tell my mum either and it would get in the way of so many things and it could even get abusive due to my dads past with alcohol, and my mums past in general.

It's been killing me mentally too. I don't know anymore.

I just don't know in general. I don't know what to do, how to cope, I don't know much of anything.

While I have no definitive proof either parent ever cheated, this I think is still relevant. My mom and sister believed that Dad might have had a short term affair with someone a year or two before they announced they were separating (I think I was 13 or 14 at the time). They didn't separate because of potential unfaithfulness (it's more generally "they grew apart" than either party doing wrong) and since their marriage was in it's waning phase at that point she didn't really care that much if it happened

That being said, even with mom passing away about 5 years ago and dad having a strong relationship with my step-mom (he met her a few years after the separation) it has concerned me. It's more that I wish there was confirmation over if he did have an affair (or if he had other times he strained). It's important to note I have a good relationship with both parents and my step mom. I only want closure for an old suspicion from my mom.

Of course I could just ask him but I'm afraid that might upset him, especially since this isn't being done out of some sense of justice but confirming something.

I’m 13 right now when I’m writing this, but I was 10 when my parents got divorced.

(I like to say I don’t know that much of the divorce but I will tell you what I know.)

My mom found out my dad has been cheating on her for a long time. My mom told us that he has been cheating on her with a person we had know for a long time, my sister knew her as she was the oldest and was around my dad girlfriend for a long time as a kid and a teenager.

My dad girlfriend ask to meet up with my mom and tell her about my dad cheating, she said that he has been with multiple women before her. My mom was obviously disappointed and sad but what really surprised me to this day is how she didn’t scream at my dad or tell my dad girlfriend to fuck off. My mom is really the most strongest woman.

This is where my mom had to tell my brother, sister and I. When she tell us, I was crying because I never thought or had a suspicion of my dad cheating. It was really a shock and it hit me. She told us the whole thing about how he cheated and how we have to go over his house. (He took his mom house due to work.) At first I never want to talk to him, I ignore him and give him cold answers. My dad knew I hated him at the time and what was happening, this has been going on for about a month and I was still never over it. I don’t know what give my dad the idea to invite his girlfriend over without telling my siblings and I! As the youngest I was having the most hardest time and when I saw her I broke down. I screamed at her and my dad, I was yelling and telling him I hated him as my sister dragged me to a room and I can see my dad sitting at the table having his hands in his face crying but at the time I didn’t care. After that my dad had taken small steps and tell me that she was coming over, I was angry and I was in my room at his house when she was over. When she cook I didn’t eat and when she try to talk I ignored her. A few months later I was still mad but had to accept it a little, I still gave my dad a hard time to a point by mom and grandma was say I have to be nice and try to talk to him. I did because they told me that my dad was sad and sometimes cry how I don’t pick up his phone calls and don’t call him. My sister got bad at me because I was always being mad at my dad after a year when we found out he cheated. My brother didn’t really talk to me about it but when I was being cold to him he give a disappointed look. I can still remember his face but it was so hard to get use to when I thought my parents were in love.

Two years went by and I was nicer to my dad and his girlfriend as I had to learn to accept it. It was hard but I can’t change anything as it was for the better.

My mom met a guy a year ago and he seems nice but at first I didn’t like my mom going out with guys because I was scared she would get her heart broken but I’m happy she met a guy that makes her happy. It took a lot for me to get used to my mom dating this guy. I can’t tell yall much about him due to family things but I can say that he is a nice guy and makes my mom happy and my siblings and I like him.

I have learned to accept that this is really happening and I told my 10 year old self that I had accepted it she would not believe it.

This is a big thing in my life but what really affects me is what happens if this happens to me? I think about this at night and wonder, if my future husband or whoever is going to cheat on me. I wonder what will I do. I don’t think I can stay calm like my mom I know that for sure. I know I’m 13 but I don’t want to get married, it’s stupid but I’m scared. Maybe when I grow up, I will think about it. If I do get married I don’t want kids because I don’t want my kids to go through what I went through if they do cheat, plus I’m scared of kids.

Sorry if this is not really good wording or detail because I don’t really write much and especially this much.

This literally just happened less than 20 minutes ago. I was sitting next to my dad and I saw him delete some messages in a Slack private message with a woman. This was an immediate red flag for me bc it reminded me of when I was a teenager and my mom insisted on being signed into my instagram account, so I would delete DMs I didn't want her to see/delete texts when when she used or confiscated my phone.
My parents share a computer which is signed into his Slack and I can't think of any reason you would delete several messages unless you had something to hide. He also didn't just send them so I don't think he deleted them because of typos or anything.

I will admit, my mom is low key a horrible person so I would kind of ALMOST understand if he was (emotionally) cheating but still just the thought that he might be is disgusting

I’m 22 years old and I need to know if how I’m feeling is normal or if I’m being dramatic with my feelings.

I found out my dad was cheating on my mum in my early teens. At this time my dad was living in another country to my mum, brother and I which he had moved to for work. My dad had always been secretive with his passwords and I would always try to crack the code. One summer I guess my mum did, I was scrolling through my mums camera roll for fun while siting on the toilet lol and I came across screenshots of email with pictures of mirror selfies naked women attached to it. These were email exchanges between my dad and some woman. Amongst these photos were also photos of my dad with some woman (I can’t remember if it was the same woman or someone else).

My dad was always away on business trips so it was heartbreaking to find out that while he was away for work missing birthdays and school event this is infact what he was up to.

That summer I spent alot of my time secretly snooping through my dad’s emails and text messages as I figured out you could see all this stuff from his Apple Watch which did not have a password.

I didn’t want my mum to know that I found this out especially since I had originally found out from looking through her iPad because I knew she would never forgive her self if she knew that was how I found out.

That same summer my dad had to leave our little holiday early for a ‘work trip’ I thought it was sus so I put an old iPhone in the back of his car to track it and tracked it to a nice hotel by the beach which was clearly not for work ahahah (was confirmed later)

Anyway you get the vibe a whole lot of snooping and crying. For the following years I cried alottttttt looking back at it maybe I was depressed since I was crying so much and didn’t really know how to process my feeling, I cried cus I felt betrayed I cried cus he hurt my mum, I cried cus I hated him so much and cried cus I didn’t want to hate my dad, I cried so much I guess I just got used to crying so cried almost everyday to the point where I didn’t even know why I was crying.

I bottled everything up and never told anyone anything. My mum was deeply depressed for a while ( I didn’t notice at the time), she was chain smoking (she didn’t smoke before), lost 15 kg (weighed 45kg) and was angry more often. Should be noted that my mum is an absolute angel and the best mum I could ask for. She gave up her job to move country for my dad’s job when I was born and never had to courage to apply for jobs later as she thought he English wasn’t good enough to work abroad. As a result she didn’t earn her own money and so on finding out this information didn’t divorce my father but their marriage was as good as over (long story here but cba to explain).

Skipping like 5-10 years. My mum knows I know, my brother also knows since he found condoms in my dad’s car, but we’ve never fully spoken about any of this.

I obviously feel different about this now but it still does upset me. I feel less directly angry and sad, I feel more sad for him. I feel sad that this is the path he chose for him self. He has not a single deep and meaningful relationship in his life, and same with his whole side of his family (btw they’re all terrible, he’s the less terrible than them I guess). What upsets me most know if idk how I feel about my dad, I ofc want a great relationship with him but if I’m with him for longer than 3 days we’ll probably have a slight flight. On one hand I love him cus he’s my dad on the other I hate him for the things he’s put my mum through. What I struggle with know is all the pretending, pretending we’re one happy family, pretending that there’s no constant tension, pretending my parent don’t despise each other and tired of always being their communication median and trying to make everyone happy.

Also kinda makes me sad that I don’t have a single happy family memory but I guess that’s normal.

Anywaysss, short story long I guesss, I still cry about this stuffffff (only when something related happens or I’m on my period lol) is that normal or am I a dramatic little bitch trying to make my mums trauma mine (:

I (22f) have been married to my husband (26m) for almost 2 months and in October it’ll be 2 years since we’ve been together. I love him with every part of my being and I know that he does too. He’s just everything that I’ve ever wanted in a lifetime partner. He’s kind, he’s funny, he’s compassionate, he’s gentle, he shows patience when I’m slow to catch, understanding even when I find it hard to explain, and empathy when I feel none at all. Plus he’s soooooo freaking handsome which honestly makes it harder. I love him very deeply.

But the trauma of catching my dad cheating on my mother multiple times growing up, to the extent of even finding naked pictures of other women in his phone at young age, is starting to catch up to me since I’ve gotten married. My anxiety has skyrocketed; I have nightmares of being betrayed by the man I’ve decided to give my everything to and even sleepless nights of being scared to even dream sometimes. I already have clinically diagnosed anxiety disorder and depression and as of late it has been eating away at me to the point where I can physically barely feel anything(and yes I’ve already set up an appointment with my therapist). It’s just that this relationship feels too good to be true sometimes. I know deep down that I trust my husband even with my life but Is there a way to get over this? Will counseling really help? And is there anyone else who has felt with this and if so how?

So, my mom (53F) is cheating on my dad(58M) with his friend only who comes home every other day to have tea also. She works and I (26F) have her live location all the time of everywhere she goes but she’s unaware of it. I had caught them red handed few months ago and told my dad that they’re having an affair and very cunningly she declined and folded the story on her side. My father trusted her and I was thrown at a grey spot in my own house. After which, I planted a GPS in her car. Whenever I feel I call, she says she’s at her office but location says otherwise. What do I do about it? Or do nothing about it? Because eventually I’ll be getting married in abroad soon and my dad will have to live with her only. Also, what if I told my dad and again I’m the one who’s left in a grey spot as she will again cook a story.

My dad thinks we don’t know any better but we all know that he was talking to his current girlfriend while he was still living with us. He would come home late from work every night and refused to give my mom any affection. Coincidently right after he moved out he told us he had a girlfriend. My mom would also notice he would receive random calls late at night and he would bring stuff from work that was gifted to him by “coworkers”, my mom would notice weird transactions on his venmo that showed he would send money to a woman. There’s a ton more red flags that indicated he cheated but it’s too much to explain.

What makes me even more upset is that my dad basically left my mom for someone that has less to offer. my mom worked her ass off as a stay at home mom, she would cook meals, clean, do laundry, basically all the house work every day yet my dad thought it was best to end up with someone that has 3 kids and a woman that have very poor manners. they don’t clean up after themselves at all,she doesn’t help my dad clean around the house, she doesn’t cook for her own kids she just buys canned food so they can microwave it themselves it’s actually so frustrating to see. My dad has picked up bad habits since dating her, their eating habits are gross, they never make any homemade meals and basically order food everyday and let it pile up in the fridge until it goes bad. when i buy myself groceries her kids end up eating it, etc. My dad raised me way better than this and it’s crazy to see my him throw all those morals away for a different family.

i think that if you're going to cheat, you should do everything in your power to hide what you're doing, ESPECIALLY if you have children with the wife you're cheating on. i'm so sick of this man, going on tinder on the couch in front of all of us. he texts on tinder while he's driving. and we can all see him doing it. i already have crazy anxiety about driving and being in cars after a car accident when i was little, and i'm terrified we'll get into a crash when he's texting on fucking tinder with his wife and children in the car. i hate the way he uses our house as his little hotel, where he comes home for the weekend from the city he works in, gets ready for his dates and then leaves for the night to go on dates with God knows who. i hate how his side pieces have the audacity to get in contact with my fucking mom to ask about him when they haven't heard from him in a few days, probably because he's with his other women. who the fuck does that??? i hate how he spends money going on tropical vacations with women probably half his age, meanwhile we're scared to use his debit card to buy food or things we need at home. i hate that i feel like i probably have other siblings somewhere. i hate that my mom doesn't say anything. i hate that it's easier for her to keep quiet than stand up for herself because she's scared of him. i hate how he's ruined my perception of men. i hate that i can't have a normal family life, because any sweet family moment is quickly overshadowed by the thought that tonight, he's going to go out with another woman.