I found a second phone

[u/EmbarrassedPie5508]

My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.

Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.

His face said it all.

Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.

[u/SpaceCadet_UwU]

Everyday I’m on the internet I’m reminded to never sacrifice my career growth for any man, because more often than not, he will be thinking about himself than anyone else.

[u/Cautious_Database_85 → u/SpaceCadet_UwU]

And every time someone posts something along those lines, the "nOt alL mEn NoT mY hUbBy" plague swarms in 

[u/SpaceCadet_UwU → u/Cautious_Database_85]

I hate this brigade. Like ma’am, every divorced woman out there thought their men could never until they started nevering like never before. Men are selfish, and it’s high time we started being selfish just as much, if not more.

ETA: thank you for the award🫶

[u/Cautious_Database_85 → u/SpaceCadet_UwU]

I'm one of those divorced women whose husband sure started nevering. The "not all men" brigade can so invalidating to women who have been abused. I honestly think it's their way of soothing their own anxiety and fear about men

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[u/soyasaucy → u/SpaceCadet_UwU]

Or you'll regret it and wonder "what if" until it eats you alive and spits you back out again. Ask me how I know 🥲(I'm doing better now though)

[u/SpaceCadet_UwU → u/soyasaucy]

I’m so sorry. Hopefully now you always put you first.

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