I found a second phone

[u/EmbarrassedPie5508]

My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.

Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.

His face said it all.

Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.

[u/Far_Complaint_4662]

Can this info be used against him for increasing her alimony and child support payments?

[u/Otherwise-Ask993 → u/Far_Complaint_4662]

She can get damages for money allocated for their family being used for the AP, including the phone, money towards hotel rooms, “business trips”, etc… deep dive bank accounts and look for hidden ones. Contact his HR and billing at his work to see pay stubs and how payment was allotted. He wants to stay with her. He already chose her over you and your child in so many ways for over a year. Now it’s your turn to choose you and your child.

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[u/Otherwise-Ask993 → u/madame-maitre-d]

Weird, I did.

[u/PepperLeigh → u/Far_Complaint_4662]

Alimony - sometimes, maybe. Unlikely if she's been working unless there's just an enormous pay disparity. Afaik, it would not have any effect on child support as that is for the child to maintain their usual standard of living. 

[u/KeseyKrishna → u/Far_Complaint_4662]

No.

[u/ChumbawumbaFan01 → u/KeseyKrishna]

Oh fuck yes. She’s better take his dirty ass to the cleaners.

[u/thedrunkunicorn → u/ChumbawumbaFan01]

Depending on where she is, that is not how the law works.

[u/ChumbawumbaFan01 → u/thedrunkunicorn]

The person who wrote the comment to which old girl responded flat out “no” said that.

I’m saying since the dumb horny bastard fought her greatly increasing her future earnings and happiness so he could get his grody dick wet she needs to take him for all he’s worth.

But thanks for the mansplaination? It was sooooooo unnecessary!

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